What can I do?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Ty101, Jan 30, 2009.

  1. Ty101

    Ty101 New Member

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    So I got this friend, we are more like brothers than anything I guess. We practically spend a good amount of time with each other. Ya know, do the whole guys thing. Well I come across something a few times...then it makes me curious. When i wear loose clothin, my bulge kinda sticks out. And I caught him lookin more than a few times, it doesn't bother me at all Im kinda find it amusing. I mean, i got to admit that I've looked a couple of times when he was showing. But now im gettin a lil curious to see what he's packin, im finding myself tryin to set stuff up to see. and i feel bad. Which I should cause I know its bad, but I mean, how do I go about this. N I would like to do the buddy jo thing, but we havent even seen each other dress, but we practically know EVERTHING bout each other. I need help on this one....

    What can I do?
     
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    Tbh, not much. You have to be sure for almost 100 percent that he also is intrested to show off a bit more, a couple of looks don't say that. If you are packing, then it's logical that when u show off that people take a look, even ur best friends. Don't push things, be happy with the friendship. See how it develops. Maybe he goes a bit further and talks a bout porn etc, maybe you can start that too.
    good luck
     
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    men do love to chase. Men chase men the same as men chase women.

    Be honest. Say, " show me your junk, or, "I would like to do the buddy jo thing."

    Trying to "set something up" to see his junk. You recognize this as a behavior you're not comfortable with, so, that is indicative of emotional awareness. It is also an opportunity to learn and grow. All good there.

    Why is seeing and JO (the physical domain), to some degree , important to you?
    Perhaps you want something closer? Something emotional and bonding - found through visual and tactile conduct?
    You will find your road and you will find your answers.
    But in the end, I find honesty, communication and giving the most rewarding parts of my friendships.

    Michael*
     
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    Well, ya I guess it more an bondness kind of thing....he's a "married dude" and I want it b a like boys thing and not a creepy thing
     
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