What causes so many married men to have a suck buddy?

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I had one in Dallas years ago.. he was married, but his wife did not like to suck him off.. I had no problem helping him out. Now I need a buddy.. Texas
I had similar situation...back in Dallas area. Don't live there now...but also craigslist helped then. Most were married and just wanted some oral relief...I was more than glad to help. ;)
 
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They definitely need to be drained. Some how I wish we could reach out to them so we could take care of their needs. Craigslist used to be a cheap and easy way for married men to find a suck bud. They don't have anything as good as C.L. around now as I know of. If there is one I would like to know about it myself. My self had better luck on C.L. than any place else, man do I miss it. There is a lot of stored up cum in all those married nut sacks that need to cum out.
I am still looking and hoping. But with Covid-19.......
 

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I created a thread somewhat similar to this a few months back:

A Lot Of 90-100% Str8 Guys Here Are Down To At Least Get A M/m Bj. How’d That Happen?

This subject has really fascinated me for a long time, in part, because it's so complicated. I think the people who say that the guys who get blown are necessarily bi or gay have a tremendously simplistic view of the world, same thing for the ones who say that it's not that common. Is it common? I'm not sure, and I've been looking at this for a long time, so someone just casually telling us all the "reality" of things is more than a bit egotistical.

Sexuality is profoundly complicated, socially and neurologically. Straight lines, just like in the rest of nature, seem few and far in between. The more intelligent and social a species, typically the more blurred the lines tend to become. Even in species where sexual activity is for reproductive purposes only, and only occurs at certain pints in the year, there's blurred lines. But, I find it quite ironic that blurred lines would have to be pointed out to the 100% straight guys on this site, a site entirely devoted to dicks and male sexuality. Anyone who would say that, of course, a guy can be 100% straight and still spend a fair bit of time considering the equipment of other men but not also be prepared to say that a guy could accept a BJ from another guy and be straight has some logical issues going on. Either both activities are at least somewhat bi, or the possibility exists for neither of them to be. For that matter, I'd argue that the former is more indicative of bi tendencies than the latter because the former requires some kind of at least latent attraction and admiration, whereas the latter requires none (just as one is probably not attracted to a Fleshlight).

Is it common? I'm not sure, but by measure of all the threads about this kind of thing on just about every platform out there, and their popularity, this would tend to make me think that it is. Other reasons why I'd think that is the prevalence of such activity, either overt or covert, throughout history. In every society where there was no social prohibition against it, it happened pretty constantly. Or is the argument that ancient Greece, Rome, the Americas, etc. were somehow genetically different from us or that the guys were getting BJs as a fashion statement and didn't really enjoy them? Another reason was Craiglist where, due to its convenience and popularity, every small town in America had hundreds of ads from guys looking to get blown. Another reason would be the endless line of gloryholes and cruise areas that I saw growing up in the 80's. Somebody was using them, and it didn't seem to be the gay community - at least the guys getting the blowies. I used to live by one and, Jesus, that place was active after work and on the weekends. I was then that I knew that either getting blown by guys didn't make you gay, or that there was one hell of a lot more gay and bi guys out there than society would ever admit.

Personally, I haven't tried it, yet, but I think I'm going to. It looks convenient and even fun. It's been my experience that most guys prefer to spend more of their time around other men than around women. We're different creatures. Women are great, but they can also be exhausting. Living in the moment and the attitude of, "it is what it is" are not things that define the lives of most women. Everything bleeds into everything else. Everything is complicated. Guys, on the other hand, are pretty simple creatures. We're more "fun". If I knew of a guy who was just one of the boys but who also likes to suck dick? Yes, please! I'd for fuck sure give it a shot. If I don't have to see him naked or really interact with him physically other than his head in my lap, I'm pretty sure I can deal with what's happening. I'd guess that I'd have to block it out at first, but if there was a sense of humor to the whole thing, I'm sure I'd adjust quickly. There's even a physical comfort around other guys that many or most of us feel that we don't feel around women. I'm in reasonably good shape, and in a locker room I'm fine being naked because guys don't really care, nor do I particularly care about their observations even if they were the judgemental type, but if I had to parade through a group of women? I'd be embarrassed as hell. Even in my prime I was always apprehensive about what women thought about my body and my cock, but guys? I grew up playing sports, so I'm over it. Guys usually aren't all judgy about shit. I think this is part of the reason it's apparently SO much easier to get a BJ from a guy than a girl. No one expects you to be perfect or on your best behavior.

The fact of the matter is that the sex drive of men usually is quite a bit more powerful than that of women throughout life, and this does nothing but intensify once you've hit your 40's and 50's, sometimes younger. A woman's libido often or usually drops off and you're left with your dick in your hand, literally. So what are you to do? Beat off for the rest of your life? Prostitutes are expensive and riddled with disease, and an affair, even if you can find a woman who's happy to have you, tends to bring complications galore. So if you know a guy who'll take care of your needs and have the whole thing just be a light, friendly interaction? I think that would be nice.
 

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From years of some buds that were married, I have a lot of thoughts. I think a few, not all had maybe their buds or something as their first maybe? and perhaps miss it? Those I would say often give and get head. The ones which only want a bj, many have said they prefer women, but that comes with complications, they will follow your ass home! So they want sex, with no attachments. Just MY 2 cents, totally. Good luck
I like to suck
 
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Try doublelist
Doublelist is pretty awful, tbh, at least where I live. Maybe in LA it's better, but here it's full of trash, bots, and flakes.

Grindr serves the purpose, Squirt is great if you are looking for married dads, but always be mindful of who you might be meeting. You can always be more outgoing and adventuresome and join a gym. There are a surprising number of them with high populations of people who are cruising, or just looking for a workout buddy who is also a fwb, but aren't into the scene at all and have gf's or wives.
 

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I don't have a suck buddy or JO buddy.... but it isn't hard to figure out why.
Most men don't lose their sex drives like many wives do. So they resort to porn. Porn gets boring after the 10,000th flick...so they wonder into Trans... maybe then femboi and twinks. Pretty soon they are jerking off looking at other cocks.
They wonder into sex forums like this one, maybe chat a bit with some guy while horny... maybe someone mentions cam 2 cam or they find one on their own... "dare I ??"... maybe they do. Pretty soon they like getting off with guys watching.
What's a guy to do?
 

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These covid days have not been easy for us cocksuckers. . Shelter in place almost like their cocks also have yo be sheltered in place. Only 2 of my 4 regular married buddies have stop over to feed me their married loads. Need more to get over these tough times. . I do have 3 new potential married buddies whom I have been chatting with but have not met because of their worries and working remotely with not much excuses to get out. Not sure if anyone here has the same responses. Stay safe
 
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What causes so many married men to have a suck buddy?

^^That statement is false - at least in my locality - i.e. there aren't hoards of married men with suck buddies. A few have a buddy, but they are vastly outnumbered by the female(s) known as the other women. The "whys" of this issue have already been addressed.

I don't have a suck buddy or JO buddy.... but it isn't hard to figure out why.Most men don't lose their sex drives like many wives do. So they resort to porn. Porn gets boring after the 10,000th flick...so they wonder into Trans... maybe then femboi and twinks. Pretty soon they are jerking off looking at other cocks.
They wonder into sex forums like this one, maybe chat a bit with some guy while horny... maybe someone mentions cam 2 cam or they find one on their own... "dare I ??"... maybe they do. Pretty soon they like getting off with guys watching.
What's a guy to do?

No. No. No. There wasn't a chain of events leading to a suck buddy stage. The suck buddy was a pre-existing condition.
 

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These covid days have not been easy for us cocksuckers. . Shelter in place almost like their cocks also have yo be sheltered in place. Only 2 of my 4 regular married buddies have stop over to feed me their married loads. Need more to get over these tough times. . I do have 3 new potential married buddies whom I have been chatting with but have not met because of their worries and working remotely with not much excuses to get out. Not sure if anyone here has the same responses. Stay safe
Yea Woody, we are in a drought season for dicks. The source of available dicks has dried up everywhere I think. There are a lot of thirsty cocksuckers around now.
 
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Yea Woody, we are in a drought season for dicks. The source of available dicks has dried up everywhere I think. There are a lot of thirsty cocksuckers around now.
Ha ha. True right? I’m sure they are a lot of desperate married guys too after these tough times. I think we should all start setting up things so we are ready to pound!! on their cocks I mean.
 

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I say just lay back, relax and close your eyes and imagine that your wife has finally learned how to suck dick. But, even a bad blowjob is better than no blowjob.
Unfortunately most of my married buddies’ wives don’t like to suck let alone swallow. that’s why they are out looking for great cs.
 
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Unfortunately most of my married buddies’ wives don’t like to suck let alone swallow. that’s why they are out looking for great cs.
That's right Woody, men suck better plus swallow more and enjoy doing it. Wives do it as an obligation.
 

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I say just lay back, relax and close your eyes and imagine that your wife has finally learned how to suck dick. But, even a bad blowjob is better than no blowjob.
Only guys should be called cocksuckers because that is who we are. It's a badge of honor. Calling a woman a cocksucker sort of degrades the prestigious name for us.s
 
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