Recently I was away on a jaunt with my love. We were celebrating our 9th anniversary as lovers/boyfriends/best friends/fuck buddies. Before I go into detail let me assure anyone reading this that I love him beyond what I thought I could give to any individual on the face of this planet. He's simply the earth to me. He's tried and true and makes my heart go "pitter pat" when he walks into a room. Obviously my heart belongs to him. But something "came up" while I was away which has given me immense pause about the phenomenon of sexual commitment. I had an incident occur during my time away with him (at an immensely gay resort on Cape Cod) where I nearly compromised our monogamous commitment to one another. It came so close I nearly came literally. But I didn't. Only a passionate make out session and heaving groping ensued. Then I stopped it all. Fortunately I wasn't imbibing alcohol where everyone else was. So I could make an informed decision. I'd be interested to learn the other board views on what truly constitutes a compromise to commitment. Had I "done" this lovely man -and he me - would I have compromised my commitment to the man I love. Or is promiscuity part of the human formula? I enjoy being found attractive of course. But this thing nearly went beyond anything I've encountered in my extensive history with my b/f. The most unnerving part of it is that I can't quite shake the feeling of "aliveness" (for lack of a better word) this experience gave me. It hasn't left me since my return home. Sooooooooooooooooooooo - how do you guys feel about sexual monogamy generally? Is it overrated? Is it a good thing? Is it possible? I guess those are the questions. And should it be maintained in honor of one's commitment to a serious relationship?