Man, this is a tough one....and I should know, cause I deal with it. I'm happily married to
THE BEST man in the world. Yet, I find myself here....Why??? I wish someone would tell me - lol! I think that even if I were married to the richest, hottest, most hung, attentive, loving , sensitive and funny man in the world....I'd still go around seeing what else was out there. I am a social person by nature, and I LOVE meeting new people. I am also an overly sexual person by nature. And of course, curious ( :smile: ) Couple these things together, and I make a GREAT single gal....NOT a very good wife. I probably should have NEVER gotten married.....but I couldn't let him go, when we are so good together, plus....what if someone else snatched him....and they would (he's THAT good!). I do feel like what I do is cheating, because like a PP said, I'm hiding it. I try to justify it by saying, "I wouldn't care if he did it"....and I wouldn't.....but that doesn't take away the fact it would hurt him if he knew. Many would say, "you just want to have your cake and eat it too".....and to that, I say.....
ummmm...yea!....who doesn't???? I have also tried to convert him so that I could fulfill my desires in such a way that we were BOTH involved..."come one honey,lets have a threesome....lets swing....lets get online and cam for people.....". He thinks it is ridicules, and that I should be happy w/ him and only him. In that way, we are
not a good match....but in every other way, we are made for each other. I predict this being a major problem in our marriage, and at some point...he
will catch me. Until then, I'll have my fun...and hope that he will understand how much I love him, and that we can find a happy medium when it does come out. Am I willing to sacrifice my marriage to such a beautiful man to quench my sexual hunger and natural curiosity??? That is a question I ask myself every single day. I don't let the question consume me, but it's there.....and someday, I hope he will either give in...or if...heaven help me, he does leave me...I'll find someone who is willing to let me, be me. Oh, and another key point is that we dated and married very, very young (me being 3 yrs. younger than him).
Sorry to write a novel....if you got this far I appreciate it. I feel a little better actually