Phil Ayesho
Superior Member
OK I really sympathise with your story Phil, but this last suggestion totally ignores that fact that the custodial parent is generally doing most of the child rearing. If payments in to this escrow account are going to be fair they need to be adjusted for this fact, that would mean that parents would compete for greater access on the basis that they might not have to pay as much in maintenance and ultimately the system would collapse.
The custodial parent does not deserve "PAY" for doing the child rearing.
Period.
apparently, my friend's children only required $400 per month to cover the "child rearing"... whereas mine cost nearly ten times as much?
That is bullshit.... the system is based NOT upon the cost of raising children, but upon the money earned by the parents...
And the way it is rigged, the LESS money the custodial parent earns, the MORE money the non-custodial parent has to pay.
This incentivizes the custodial parent to NOT bother with brining in their own money... or to under-report their own income... and incentivizes the noncustodial parent to under-report their income.
But to tell BOTH parents that each will pay the SAME amount into a fund to cover the children's costs... incentivizes the custodial parent to earn, and to agree to an amount that is more realistic, since she will have to fork over a matching amount.
Once the money is in the escrow account... of COURSE it gets split up based upon percentages of custody...
Meaning that if I got the kids 20% of the time, 20% of those funds would go to my costs for the kids.
Or the ex-couple would have to negotiate the fair disbursement of the funds...
( that might include an amount for the larger home the primary custodian requires... but at least the extra value of that home would be factored as an offset... for example, if the support funds pay for 20% of the mortgage payment on the house, then upon the sale of that house 20% of the equity gets paid back into the children's support fund... or their college saving...)
as it currently stands, the support system demonizes men by saddling them with arbitrary payments that have no real bearing on the cost of raising children. And when they simply can not support themselves AND pay the full support... it turns them into criminals.
And, frankly, once a man is unfairly labeled a criminal... he might as well run with it and pay nothing.
The better a living the man earns... the more he is punished and the more a non-working ex is rewarded. To the point of financial ruin for the person who is out there earning.