What do women really want?

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  1. Kassokilleri2ff

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    Theres a thread about what men want (http://www.lpsg.org/sex-with-a-large-penis/49171-manly-secrets.html) but why not make a thread about what women want?

    I did a search and didnt find anything about this so sorry if its a repeat.

    So women, when it comes to a mate, either for a one night stand, or for a life partner, what is it that you want in a man? What do you need? and why? I dont know what other questions to ask to probe your minds of the information, ( i never was a good question asker) so i dont know, tell us guys some stuff. Or is it all a secret that we arent supposed to know?

    Oh heres one, how much to physical looks matter? I always hear women care about looks less than men, but i think that is BS.
    Somtimes i hear from female friends about what they want in a man, and that they can never find it, and that all the guys they get with dont have what they need and thier always with some random asshole that they hated dating. And im like "hmm, i know plenty of guys who fit what you want, but they are all less than washboard abs and defined awesome features (whatever the hell it is that makes guys look good lol). but they never give those not so good looking guys a chance, why not?

    hmmm, no more questions for now. Cant think of any. ^^
     
  2. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    I like a guy who is out spoken an passionate about what he thinks and believes in. A man who wont back down from an agruement to make me feel better or to ease the tension, someone who has an oppinion and isnt affraid to share it through fear of being 'wong' or rideculed


    Thats what is the most important to me... A man strong enough to express himself no matter the outcome
     
  3. Theunbroken

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    every single woman i have met in my 1 year at university has always (i kid you not) focused on appearences before personality.. and, even more rediculous, i was told once that a girl i knew REFUSED to have sex with a virgin, dispite being a virgin herself.. explain that one if you can ladies :) because i'll be damned if i can work it out.

    only women i have met that have liked me for me have been on the net and i am always "too young" for them (them being between 23-29)
     
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    My guess.. She was scared of doing something wrong and wanted someone with experience she could rely on to show her what to do
     
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    would you not agree that ones virginity is something that should not be thrown away? nor ruined, Imo i would have said that if there was a chance to learn what sex has to offer then another virgin would have been perfect for that? both learnign new things?

    meh guess it means more to me than her..
     
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    I totally agee. Virginity is something that shouldnt e treated lightly. it isnt about getting rid of it and trying to impress but wanting to share it with someone you care about.

    Id say your friend is rather shallow and more concerned about what others think rather than what is important to her and her partner. Unfortantly some people dont ralise how special their virginity is until they have lost it
     
  7. viking1

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    I think you will find that will change as women get a bit older. The young, both male and female tend to be much more superficial than mature adults.

    I have worked around a lot of women on some jobs I have had in the past and I have discussed this very subject with some of them. I dare say most
    women (and men) get past this as they get older.

    As for the virgin thing. I think young people attach to much stigma to that as well. It seems to a big deal to younger people. Older women don't seem to care nearly as much about breaking in a virgin.
     
  8. Gillette

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    Good question. Interesting how the answers seem to change over the years.

    A few years ago some female friends and I held a mock magic ritual to summon a partner. We had to describe in detail the characteristics we wanted the man to have.

    I asked for:
    smart - I like stimulating conversation
    sense of humour - laughter is a must
    tall - I like having to tip my head back to kiss
    a nice smile that reached the eyes - genuine warmth
    larger than average penis - oh, look what site I'm on!
    not rich but smart with his money - no compulsive gamblers
    physically affectionate - sometimes what I need is a good spooning
    In dating the man I'd had a ten year crush on I got:
    smart (manipulative & evasive)
    sense of humour (slapstick and other base comedy)
    tall (6'4")
    nice smile that reached the eyes (didn't always look genuine)
    larger than average penis (just)
    not rich but smart with his money (preferred to scam others out of theirs)
    physically affectionate (he did like to cuddle)
    Surprise extras:
    He was a bigoted bible thumper
    Budding substance abuser - If it was in pill form he wanted to try it even if it was a precription for the cat. WTF?

    Updated list would be:
    smart, able to think logically - hoping the logic screens out inflexible religious whack jobs and substance abuse
    open and honest - I don't have to like or agree with everything but I still want to hear it
    self confidence - I wan't someone who needs neither constant reassurance nor to rip others down to feel good about themselves
    sense of humour similar to my own - shared humour is best
    tall - I like having to tip my head back to kiss (still do)
    a genuine smile that reaches the eyes - still important
    penis 6x6 or bigger - I don't think I can compromise on the girth anymore
    not rich, but smart and ethical with money - no gamblers no schemers
    Physically affectionate - sometimes what I need is a good spooning


    Open to suggestions that help me refine this list.
     
  9. viking1

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    If you, from a man's point of view, ever figure out what women want, write a book. You'll be rich!

    If any of the ladies ever, from their point of veiw, figure our what men want, then you should write a book too. You will also be rich.
     
  10. viking1

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    I'm kinda that way, but most people I know don't see it as a virtue...
     
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    I actually meet most of that list. I don't meet the big penis part, or the confidence part.

    I don't rip others down so I can feel better, nor do I need constant reassurance, but I will never have much self confidence. I know that now, and I just accept that it's the way I am.
     
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    The appearance issue is more one of youth I think because of status concerns. The same way as having the right clothes, car, etc. Until a person has a secure sense of self-worth they will largely derive how they feel about themselves through the eyes of others. Attraction will always be important but looks are just a fraction of that. Beauty doesn't have to be model perfect.

    As to your other point, I gave my virginity to another virgin. We didn't know nearly enough about arousal, foreplay or lube. It was an awkward and painful experiment that required several tries over a course of weeks and finally premenstrual horniness to accomplish.

    The first time should be with someone with some knowledge. This doesn't disqualify other virgins but it does mean that they should take the time to learn what to expect together before jumping into anything. Sites like this one or erotic fiction might be helpful. One thing I can't stress enough though. PORN IS NOT EDUCATIONAL!!!
     
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    No kidding. When my ex and I split years ago (we were quite the temperamental duo), I remember thinking how wonderful life would be if he would find me once again and tell me he loved me. Fast forward 12 years later: he found me once again and told me last week he still loves me. Having closed that chapter in my life some time ago, this came as quite a surprise.

    I don't know what it is about my life but timing is everything and mine sucks big time.
     
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    One reason i ask is because of my experience with girls. Ive had quite a few girls tell me im the perfect guy. Yet, i have very little success with girls, every girlfriend ive had, i had for a very short amount of time. The girls that tell me im the "perfect guy" never realy had any interest in me. So im like "wtf? if you think im so perfect how come you dont like me?" Maybe being poor before was the problem. I dont know. I never went after these girls in a "hey lets date" attitude, we were always just friends, and we would talk alot and stuff, and i would always get told that. So eventually id get feelings for them, and it would basically be a no go. Sucks, the "Friend" status is permanent ive found lol.
     
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    Intelligent
    Intellectual
    Reliable
    Honest
    Loyal
    Open-minded
    Secure
    Confident
    Mature
    Funny
    Outgoing
    Understanding
    Good listener
    Punctual
    Affectionate
    Thoughtful
    Easy to talk to
    Taller than me
    Family-oriented
    Independent

    As far as looks go... I have to have some attraction to the guy in order to be with him, but I don't have a cookie cutter idea of what a guy should look like. I've dated guys who were tall, short, skinny, fat, and everything inbetween. Sometimes I just see a guy and go, "Wow, he's cute."
     
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    a huge dick!

    jk:tongue:
     
  18. Kassokilleri2ff

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    Ok new question. Since im such a noob i dont know. Ive seen in other threads that women need an emotional connection with thier man. What does this mean? It baffles me, as i am very emotionless, i dont know why, maybe just because im a guy, but ive gotten in trouble before, because of my emotionlessness. lol. So give me some examples, or explain to me what it means to have an emotional connection. Does it mean you both cry at the same parts of a sad movie? lol
     
  19. dolfette

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    i'm not very emotional either, so i can't really answer.

    i'll be interested in the other replies though.
     
  20. Blocko

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    You presume women know everything they want. Sometimes you don't know what you want til you find it. Many women take this approach. :biggrin1:
     
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