It wasn't just aimed at you, more the turn the discussion had taken in general, but you kind of did conflate the issues when they are not the same thing at all:
Just because I am not sexually attracted to someone (and this is just one thing that would make a man sexually unattractive to me), does not mean I am not accepting of their orientation or how they choose to label themselves. I just don't have an urge to fuck them. There are many men, most of them in fact, that I have no urge to fuck for many reasons. You tied responses in with this being a sex positive site, when being sex positive doesn't mean you are required to find everyone sexually attractive. If a man lied to me about his orientation or sexual history then it stops becoming an issue of sexual attraction and starts becoming one of deceit. If I asked. If I didn't I don't really have a leg to stand on, but if I happened to find out somehow, we are back to attraction or lack thereof. I am not sexually attracted to skinny men, that's not a choice either, it's just how I feel. More power to the women who are - I'm certainly not going to try and sway anyone against them.
When certain people on this forum were saying that they wouldn't have a relationship with a single mother because <insert any ugly stereotype here> no woman insisted that these men *should* be sexually attracted to single mothers, in fact I'm sure I wasn't the only one who supported their absolute right not to date them and only took exception to the misogynistic justifications they used. Saying, "I'm not sexually attracted to single mothers" is no problem in and of itself.
Surely the aim of a relationship is to be with someone who accepts you for who you are?
yeah....i am kinda working a new thing out in my head....
i may have confused acceptance with attraction....i re read post.....oopps....
i should probably quite while i am behind....but....
so thing is in previous post i have always thought the label game was stupid....as well as not being self...or hiding who you are...
but after thread...and a bit of thought
i can see how someone might hide an aspect of there sexuality from someone ....especially if it's a minor part....and my risk alienation from lived ones
also i can Definately see how those closeted people can truly do damage to the people who they are with....
infact have a friend who came out at age of 44....was greeted with a bunch of accolades for how courageous he was...the flip side was my real friend was his ex wife...so quietly without the celebrations of courage and the excitement of stepping into a new fabulous life ...i saw my real friend (her) dealing with betrayal and wasting a huge chunk of her reproductive life
a very difficult conundrum that was clearly not as black and white as I once thought
and i still haven't really figured it out yet
THE GOOD part i don't have to....i make no policy decisions. ...am straight....no desire to suck a cock
also I'm not gonna wife up anybody
and no one really gives a shit about my opinions (well if they do they shouldn't....im kinda a loose cannon)