What Do Women Want?

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  1. sargon20

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    It's a long article but very interesting.

    What Do Women Want?

    The men, on average, responded genitally in what Chivers terms “category specific” ways. Males who identified themselves as straight swelled while gazing at heterosexual or lesbian sex and while watching the masturbating and exercising women. They were mostly unmoved when the screen displayed only men. Gay males were aroused in the opposite categorical pattern. Any expectation that the animal sex would speak to something primitive within the men seemed to be mistaken; neither straights nor gays were stirred by the bonobos. And for the male participants, the subjective ratings on the keypad matched the readings of the plethysmograph. The men’s minds and genitals were in agreement.
    All was different with the women. No matter what their self-proclaimed sexual orientation, they showed, on the whole, strong and swift genital arousal when the screen offered men with men, women with women and women with men. They responded objectively much more to the exercising woman than to the strolling man, and their blood flow rose quickly — and markedly, though to a lesser degree than during all the human scenes except the footage of the ambling, strapping man — as they watched the apes. And with the women, especially the straight women, mind and genitals seemed scarcely to belong to the same person. The readings from the plethysmograph and the keypad weren’t in much accord. During shots of lesbian coupling, heterosexual women reported less excitement than their vaginas indicated; watching gay men, they reported a great deal less; and viewing heterosexual intercourse, they reported much more. Among the lesbian volunteers, the two readings converged when women appeared on the screen. But when the films featured only men, the lesbians reported less engagement than the plethysmograph recorded. Whether straight or gay, the women claimed almost no arousal whatsoever while staring at the bonobos.
     
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    That explains everything. Women are so confusing because they themselves don't even know when they're aroused!

    ...or at least they pretend to not know
     
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    A woman wants a man who is strong enough to stand up for them, but smart enough to know when to let his woman shine.
     
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    Well a female friend of mine told me that they don't have a handy dandy indicator like men. Could that be the answer?
     
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    misleading thread title.
    What women want and what they react sexually to are different realms of desire.

    Clearly... the results indicate that women WANT to present a face that is socially normative... regardless of their inner feelings.


    What this indicates is that women are not ruled by their physiological reactions to stimuli, but by their JUDGEMENTS of those reactions.

    This is why it does not really matter how sexually exciting a man may be... women feel desire for him, may even fuck him, but the smarter women who will accomplish more are the ones who choose men based upon other criteria.

    Hence even a fat and ugly man, who is accomplished, can land a high value woman.

    Women are the gender more prone to misrepresenting their feelings, more prone to concealing their true feelings, and more interested in promulgating the lie of social conformity.

    You can say that that may be a form of dishonesty...

    But I think they honestly want the world to be something choosen, not something slavishly dictated by passions and lusts.

    They THINK about how they want the world to be, and then demand that everyone pretend they are are that way.
     
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    It reminds me of an observation I heard that ended with a joke. Women's magazines have a lot of articles like, "The 10 things that women want from a man in bed."

    The first observation is that one questions why these articles always in woman's magazines. Do they need magazines to tell them what they want?

    Not really. The answer is that men are not interested in the kind of complexity that would list 10 different things that women want in bed, so men's magazines don't print that kind of stuff.

    The joke is this: A men's magazine asked some men if they were interested in an article about "The 10 things men want from women in bed". The men said that they were not interested. They were surprised that anyone could figure out 10 things. One of them said that they could think of only two things that they want involving good sex with a woman and that the second thing has more to do with eating a good hamburger or steak afterwards.
     
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    I saw this article earlier this morning, and it has a great number of interesting observations, including perspectives on attraction, arousal, the impact of desire and lust on women, and even rape. Lots of these topics have been the content of threads here, most recently, rape fantasy.

    One interesting observation for me were the differences in attraction between men and women:

    Cool article. Thanks for bringing it here.
     
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    This is just embarassing for the female gender.


    But the criteria for being "aroused" may very well be wrong here. Chances are that the women really weren't aroused at all- however, seeing the action on the screen got the women's heart rate going which could plausibly cause more blood flow to ALL parts of a woman's body. So, saying a woman's pussy gets filled with blood may just be a big coincidence and the researchers were too stupid to realize this.
     
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    One woman's opinion:

    I think some of what the previous responders said is correct. Girls are not supposed to like sex, sex is dirty, wrong and only for one reason. I think quite a few women DON'T KNOW what it is they want sexually. I think this site is full of us women who do know, but we are definitely NOT the norm.

    I remember my mom finding a dirty mag under my bed I stole from my neighbour's dad. She said "Why the hell are you looking at that? Only perverts look at that stuff." My natural curiosity was deemed perverted. I think this happens with men too, but much more so with women.

    Mothers always appeared sexless. Sometimes a boy would catch his dad looking at a lady and there would be a look perhaps passed between them. Never with a mother and daughter. To be good, to be pure, you didn't have those desires. Maybe during adolescence the "bad girl" would come out, but not for long.

    "Nothing plants the seeds of our private sexual guilt more deeply than her admonitions, threatening the loss of love should we ever love our own bodies. Little eyes learn life's lessons most efficiently when we are most dependent. Little girls copy her hatred of her own flesh, assuming it unconsciously though we may later deny that we are in any way like her. Eventually, most women cave in to one or another's anti-sex rules which demand that no woman get more sex or be more sexual than any other." Nancy Friday from her book "My Secret Garden".

    It's easy for women to blame men for calling those of us who love sex sluts, but it is the women you can hear over the crowd. It's obvious even here, where we are all adults on a big dick site. Some women here who act so strong and independent are the loudest ones on what is right and wrong for people to enjoy sexually.
     
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    What a lovely and accurate post. I love a woman who understands her own sexuality and can truly enjoy sex.

    It makes me horny just to think about it.
     
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    You are so funny Tex, my momma says I should stay away from your big dick. I never listen to her anyway...
     
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    Jen,
    This is very insightful. But along with that, it is also an intelligent and compelling piece of writing.
     
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    Great article, thanks for the read. :cool:
     
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    Interesting, but in direct contrast to studies that were done years ago on college campuses in the U.S. where self-declared "straight" men showed SIGNIFICANT cock arousal while watching gay porn.

    All this article does is re-inforce for me what men just DON'T GET:
    I am aroused by SEX. That DOESN'T MEAN I WANT A THREESOME. That doesn't mean I want to bang 5 men at the same time. I am purely and simply aroused by sexual images. That's it.

    Men seem to think that if a woman is aroused by a 3some, that must mean that she wants a 3 some. No. It just means I'm aroused.



     
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    I may get aroused by sex, but I would say it has to be HUMAN SEX.

    The fact that anyone got aroused by apes mating....well.....that's surprising in itself! :eek:

    "She found footage of bonobos, a species of ape, as they mated, and then, because the accompanying sounds were dull — “bonobos don’t seem to make much noise in sex,”
     
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    What do you think about encouraging sexuality in girls? Do you think that if our mothers were more open about it as we're growing up that we might not do "dirty" things behind her back? Or would we start our sexual lives a little earlier? Is it like alcohol, where, if our parents let us try it at home then we we're less likely to drink underaged?
     
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    ROFL!!!!!

    I am a highly sexual female. I love sex and have never felt embarrassed by being sexual. I was told not to masturbate when I was young (though my mom denies this now) but, when i was a teenager, I found all of my parents sex toys and realized, for the first time, they were sexual beings. It was eye opening for me and may have had a lot to do with my being open sexually. I was also fortunate to have had a mom who told me, when other girl's moms were telling them to abstain until they got married, to make sure I had sex with a man before marrying him to make sure the sex was good because it was such an important part of a marriage. The only piece of advice i actually remember her giving me and one I completely disregarded. (and now i find myself in the middle of a divorce after over 10 years of a basically sexless marriage).

    I myself get aroused watching male gay porn but I assure you, there is no way I can possibly participate (i'd have to be a gay male right?) so it's not that I want that, just that it's sexy. Lots of things arouse me - like white chocolate raspberry mousse (sp?) for example or a nice warm sea breeze at the right moment. But I promise you this, I know exactly what it is I want (and they know who they are....):wink:
     
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    Proves two things.

    1. Men can handle their equipment better. That's why the straights didn't get exited at the gay, and vice versa.

    2. We are all gay and straight. The women were attracted to all human beings in the film, but intelectually chose what they wanted.
    (its a very straight opinion, but then again I don't blast you for your gay opinions, so leave me alone)
     
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