My first post was made after I read only the original post by the OP. Now that I’ve read the entire thread, my opinion has changed drastically. OP, you’re an example of what is wrong with people these days. You think the whole world revolves around you and your little issues. There are so many things that are wrong in this fiasco so I’ll list them right here and maybe you’ll take this information and use it to better your relationships in future.
1 – The fact that you are so well known in the emergency room and can be waved ahead of others (remind me never to go to THAT hospital) is a major red flag to me. Why? Because you obviously spend a lot of time there and, quite frankly, neither I nor most people would want to be with anyone who’s on a first name basis with any kind of medical emergency people. Seriously, are you one of the Olsen twins?
2 – You say this injection thing happens a lot. Well, I get migraines a lot and, like most people who have a physical ailment, I know when it’s going to happen beforehand and so I would have canceled the date or else done what I had to do to get rid of my ailment. You should have not done what you did to get the sore neck in the first place on the day of a date or else gotten the injection during the day. Not waited until your date showed up.
3 – Don’t get me started on the fact that it sounds like you’re addicted to these injections. You look down on the guy because he smokes pot (I refuse to date drug addicts myself) yet you’re regularly shooting up?
4 – This was supposed to be a second date. The idea of dating is to get to know the other person. Have fun. That means putting your best foot forward. It certainly doesn’t mean dragging them to the emergency room and subjecting them to your issues.
5 – As others have said, it sounds like you were testing this guy. Now that he didn’t want to spend all night at the hospital, we’re supposed to think he’s a jerk? Sorry. You’re the jerk. Again, you say this happens all the time to you. Then you ought to be used to waiting around in hospitals. Take a book with you. Read. Learn something. Instead, you expect whoever you set your sights on to drop everything and run to your aid even though it happens all the time with you and so you should be able to handle this situation on your own. You’re not a child.
6 – Did it occur to you that maybe all your friends weren’t ill and that they were actually just sick and tired of being at your beck and call 24 hours a day and didn’t want to take you? I mean, what’s the likelihood that they ALL would be sick when you called on them?
7 – You say that all the guys you went out with before have been more than happy to change their plans at the last minute and play nurse maid. I don’t buy it. Sure, you probably forced them to get caught up in your little drama at first but they got wise and dumped your drama queen ass. And the fact you’ve gone through so many guys, ought to be a red flag too that you’re doing something wrong. Especially if it’s true what you say about them being so great.
8 – You also say that you do all these nice things for people. Sounds like you’re keeping score. Another red flag. Yet what have YOU done for HIM? Or is him being in your orbit supposed to be enough?
9 – Nowhere in your posts do you say that you wanted him with you because YOU want to spend time with HIM. It’s all about you needing a ride (get a taxi, that’s what they’re for) or keeping you company in the emergency room that you’re supposedly not going to be in long anyway (talk to one of the other patients instead of being in your own world for a change). Sounds like you treat the men in your life as total doormats. They’re only put on this earth to serve you. That’s the impression you give here. And I bet, considering everyone makes themselves come off better than they really are in these kinds of things, you’re actually a lot worse and your victims are a lot more long-suffering.
10 – Your obvious sense of self-entitlement comes through loud and clear in your posts. No wonder men leave you. And you have the audacity to call people “fair weather friends” just because they don’t drop everything and be your personal assistant.
I don’t mean to be insulting but it’s people like you who really piss me off.