What Do You Consider "asexual"?

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Sorry for the dumb question that has likely been asked and answered repeatedly, but by "asexual" do you mean someone who doesn't have sex for whatever reason, as well as those who don't want it? Also, does this include people who don't try to get laid anymore (voluntarily celibate) as well as those who keep trying and feel constantly rejected (involuntarily celibate)? Thanks.
 
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I'm not much into all the 'alternative' lifestyles , but just as I got used to the LGB community, it then grew to the LGBTQ,,,or more...And here I was certain that queeer' was an offensive choice word, or has it now got a new definition? Speaking of, there are so many other 'new' invented, out-there gender or genderless identifications that the whole LGBTQRSTWXYZ' list just seems to get added on by a whim, at any time. Such as 'binary'..then came 'non-binary'...asexual also , Oh, and then we got the new pronouns too!! No longer 'he, she', those have become 'they, us, them, ours, and so forth. That one loses me for sure.
The variations of transexuals, crossdressers somewhere in there..Trans who are men ( often shown LOTS of times in another forum) with huge cocks, injected tits and mostly fucking men, not pussies. Each seems to require its own defined title, and thus added to the ever growing identity list. Can they just leave it at LGBTQ*,,and add that asterisk for all further subdivided choices of identity. It truly seems that they pop up at the discression of a few people who just can't feel they are IN the right category yet, so choose to create a new one. Again, I'm not mocking the sexuality of any, just seems that more disgruntled sexually confused folks are showing up and sort of 'creating' their own category'. And if a celeb, making the talk show circuit, it catched on and becomes a new 'official' listing. Give the straight community a break if we are totally uninformed of the last great change and new name to recall and thus identify you by.
 

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Ok, it looks like gender isn’t sexuality 101 is needed.
This is profoundly basic.

Gender is biologically if you are an innie or an outie at birth. Assigned male/female at birth trans people don’t click in the assigned gender.

Sexuality is the gender, or biological bits you are attracted to. Some folk have definitive ideas of what bits they like, some are attracted to both innies and outies.

Some aren’t overly attracted to any bits, or are only attracted to bits if they have an emotional connection.
Those who do ever have desire for any sexual activity, can be gay, straight, bi, or pansexual.
(I’m under the impression that the difference between bi and pan is legitimate attraction to all gender expressions, and some transexcusionary people hold to gender essentialism and solidly stick to bi, as in they only like people who express the gender that matches their original innie or outie equipment. Pan sexual includes trans people. But a lot of modern tags are also simply used by newer generations. Context matters.)

All of this is simply sex. People can be bisexual but heterosexual-romantic.
This sort of covers all the dudes who think they are straight but seek a man to engage in various sexual acts.

Some are the opposite, able to love any/either gender, but really only have attraction to a single gender.
 

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I'm not much into all the 'alternative' lifestyles , but just as I got used to the LGB community, it then grew to the LGBTQ,,,or more...And here I was certain that queeer' was an offensive choice word, or has it now got a new definition? Speaking of, there are so many other 'new' invented, out-there gender or genderless identifications that the whole LGBTQRSTWXYZ' list just seems to get added on by a whim, at any time. Such as 'binary'..then came 'non-binary'...asexual also , Oh, and then we got the new pronouns too!! No longer 'he, she', those have become 'they, us, them, ours, and so forth. That one loses me for sure.
The variations of transexuals, crossdressers somewhere in there..Trans who are men ( often shown LOTS of times in another forum) with huge cocks, injected tits and mostly fucking men, not pussies. Each seems to require its own defined title, and thus added to the ever growing identity list. Can they just leave it at LGBTQ*,,and add that asterisk for all further subdivided choices of identity. It truly seems that they pop up at the discression of a few people who just can't feel they are IN the right category yet, so choose to create a new one. Again, I'm not mocking the sexuality of any, just seems that more disgruntled sexually confused folks are showing up and sort of 'creating' their own category'. And if a celeb, making the talk show circuit, it catched on and becomes a new 'official' listing. Give the straight community a break if we are totally uninformed of the last great change and new name to recall and thus identify you by.

You know none of what you wrote has a single thing to do with the asexuality spectrum, right?

Transwomen are women. Even if they make their living as sex workers.

Transmen are men, even if they work as sex workers. Or pastors.


I’m so sorry the modern world scares you so.
 
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You know none of what you wrote has a single thing to do with the asexuality spectrum, right?

Transwomen are women. Even if they make their living as sex workers.

Transmen are men, even if they work as sex workers. Or pastors.


I’m so sorry the modern world scares you so.
??? Not 'scared' of world. Just confused, as I'm NOT part of all the changes, don't study it, and have very little interest. But I can see as usual, any response back on this topic in any forum, gets disrespect or insult added to those who are not 'in the game' with you. That's the sad part, and what will continue to drive away any attempts to understand' by straights. Sorry you felt the need to say what you did.
 

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??? Not 'scared' of world. Just confused, as I'm NOT part of all the changes, don't study it, and have very little interest. But I can see as usual, any response back on this topic in any forum, gets disrespect or insult added to those who are not 'in the game' with you. That's the sad part, and what will continue to drive away any attempts to understand' by straights. Sorry you felt the need to say what you did.
Did you catch the “not part of this question” part?

Why did you have to rant about gay/bi and trans people, here?

plus, by definition, asexuals are not in the game.
 
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not ranting in response. It was just directed back at your negativity of comment. Done,OK? I'll leave 'your world' of chat and this topic alone from now on.Won't even come back to read your latest insults to me. I have little and now NO interest due to your kind of reaction. Should be for non straight people only to reply I guess. Byeeeee.
 

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not ranting in response. It was just directed back at your negativity of comment. Done,OK? I'll leave 'your world' of chat and this topic alone from now on.Won't even come back to read your latest insults to me. I have little and now NO interest due to your kind of reaction. Should be for non straight people only to reply I guess. Byeeeee.

well, technically, only asexuals are to answer here. It’s an Ask a forum, just like ask a Man, Gay man, bi man, woman or trans person.
 
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I was invited by @Scarletbegonia to participate in this forum but not sure whether I qualify. I recently discovered that the labels most similar to me are: hetero cisgender male demisexual.

I am a biological man sexually attracted solely to real-world women whom I am in love with.

I have no sexual attraction nor biological imperative towards real-world women with whom I am not in love. It's only after I develop feelings for her, I develop "feelings" for her.

I do enjoy and am aroused by objectified porn actors, but not by real-world people unless I'm in love with them. It's like my apparatus, like my brain, knows that Porn Is Not Real Life, so the romance filter on my libido is bypassed.

I've been widowed for a few years with no romantic prospects until very recently, so my libido has been on hiatus. I do miss being sexual and remember it fondly, but there's no drive to run out and find the first willing partner.
 

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Well that sure was helpful. Sure is frustrating growing up and only finding resources that tell me that the way I feel doesn't exist. This lays it out perfectly. It's "me, in chart form."

Thanks. I really mean that. This is a wonderfully helpful graphic.
 

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Well that sure was helpful. Sure is frustrating growing up and only finding resources that tell me that the way I feel doesn't exist. This lays it out perfectly. It's "me, in chart form."

Thanks. I really mean that. This is a wonderfully helpful graphic.

You should be able to find legit resources that explain it a correct and proper manner. Don't bother entertaining anything that says it doesn't exist, because it does and it's real, and you're not alone.

The Trevor project has a page dedicated to it that you may find helpful: Understanding Asexuality | The Trevor Project

Asexuality.org is another resource.

I see you're from Nova Scotia. I'm from Boston, MA. There used to be a ferry that ran from Portland, ME to Yarmouth that I've taken numerous times. I loved those trips. Canada seemed so much more relaxed and friendly than what I'm used to (I hope it's not just that they wanted the tourist money!). Even Customs was like 'whatever, come on in'. The original ferry (Scotia Prince) is long gone now, there's the CAT in it's place but it's not the same. No cabins to sleep in, no casino. I miss those times... :(