What do you do when you can't get it all in

[D_Bertrand Ballfloot]

My cock is 8.5x6 and thickest at the base and I get very hard when aroused. I have my pics posted and often get guys interested in me because they want to be fucked by a big cock. I'm also attracted to Asian men. When I'm with an Asian man the first time I ask him if he is sure he can take my cock. They always say yes but much of the time I get half way in and they tell me to take it out because it is too painful. This is very frustrating and I usually jack off and go home. Sometimes I keep it in and just don't go any deeper, but that, too, is frustrating. I use lots and lots of lube.

I have one guy I see a lot and some days he'll take it and some days he won't. I do not like causing my sex partner any pain. I know other men are in this same situation. It does not happen as often with black men or white men but it does still happen. I feel I need a Plan B and should be up front about it before I meet them. Several times they wouldn't even let me try even though they had seen the photo of my erect cock before I ever showed up at their door. Any suggestions on how to better handle this?

 

[deleted136887]

Easy!
Leave the unused bit outside!

 

[Industrialsize]

the trick is lots of LUBE

 

[Biggin']

take it out and slap him with it.

 

[Indybottombiguy]

Keep doing what you're doing in trying to communicate whay you've got. You'll find somone able to take it all. :wink:

 

[Texasjon]

take your time, lots of lube and maybe at first allowed to 'sit' on it so they have complete control. Watch your face tho', I have had them shoot their load all over my face and chest within seconds of mounting.

 

[eastbaydude]

I've got two thoughts to share on this.

First, before anything gets started let the person know that you're big and that once you start, there's no turning back. Ask them if they really want to do it. Make them beg for it and swear they can handle it.


Second, as your maxing out. Whisper in her ear how worked up she's gotten you, hot she is and how good she feels.

If all else fails.... push.

 

[undercoverblk]

i admire your thoughtfulness and consideration for your partners!

my suggestions:
* you're right, LOTS of lube works well,

* also fingering the guy beforehand and really working his prostate as you do it will have him begging for dick in no time, and the more fingers you use the more open he will become. but focusing in on the prostate IS key.

* talk shit! one of the things that turns me on about a big-dicked guy is simply the idea of his big dick! when i think about how big my partner's dick is when he's entering me, i am able to relax and then i even start to fiend for the dick. tell how good your big dick is gonna feel inside of him as you stroke his prostate.

* encourage your partners to breathe through the initial discomfort

* make sure your dick hits his prostate on each stroke, both going in and coming out. i had never felt my own prostate before until a big-dicked jamaican guy hit it on every stroke during a birthday fuck. i literally was speechless, the pleasure was so good. aftr that encounter i was at his beck and call, EAGER to give up the booty whenever he asked.

* also poppers are a good fast-track measure: they open up the blood vessels and the ass and the body experiences the sensation as sexual arousal. just don't mix poppers and viagra or other similar products: the results could be fatal. also don't think it would be a good idea for someone with a family history of stroke and cardiovascular disease. (NOTE: I am NOT a doctor and my personal experiences and opinions should not be in any way misconstrued as being or intended as medical advice.)

 

[Principessa]

Easy! Leave the unused bit outside!

Assuming you are a male over 18 you have most likely seen porn. Many of the larger porn stars do not go all the way in. There is no law saying you must be balls deep for it to be pleasurable. :duh: Stop trying to please yourself and start thinking about your lover. It is possible to use too much lube and some people just can't handle a big cock.

 

[lucky8]

find a girl who is kniky enough to jack off the part that isnt in...love when they do that

 

[lucky8]

Assuming you are a male over 18 you have most likely seen porn. Many of the larger porn stars do not go all the way in. There is no law saying you must be balls deep for it to be pleasurable. :duh: Stop trying to please yourself and start thinking about your lover. It is possible to use too much lube and some people just can't handle a big cock.

umm this is actually a big issue for a lot of us. i understand that it is important to please the girl, or guy, but what about the guys on the other end of the stick? for me, not being able to use my entire member is frustrating, and hardly pleasureable for me, especially since my head doesn't seem to be very sensitive at all. a lot of guys dont go balls deep to please the girl, they do it because they are not getting adequate satisfaction from using only the first half of their penis. it's important to find the balance between what you and your lover likes, and if you're doing it right and not trying to rush into it, the majority of women will relax enough so they can take (and enjoy) it all, im assuimg dudes are the same way

 

[B_Artful Dodger]

Plenty of "warm-up exercises" :wink:

 

[unabear09]

that's why I love the penis I have, and every man who has a penis that is like say 7.5 inches (just making a generalization here, I know every man and/or woman's ability to take in so much of a penis varies) or smaller should consider themselves lucky, as for the most part, they can go in balls deep. I'm not saying that I wouldn't love a big ol' 8+ incher attached to myself, as I would love the look, feel, and reaction of others when they get their first glimpse at it. In other words, guys, be happy with what you've got. Having a huge cock isn't necessiarly all its cracked up to be. Hope I haven't offended anyone in the post, as it was not my intention to

 

[Massive_]

I've got two thoughts to share on this.

First, before anything gets started let the person know that you're big and that once you start, there's no turning back. Ask them if they really want to do it. Make them beg for it and swear they can handle it.


Second, as your maxing out. Whisper in her ear how worked up she's gotten you, hot she is and how good she feels.

If all else fails.... push.

LOVE IT

 

[Antony1985]

Lots of lube and and lots of steady, hard pushing.

Tony

 

[rotterdam5]

My BF is hugely endowed....11.25x8". I was able to take him to the balls after three tries on 2 different days. Now I can take him fairly easily with lots of lube and relaxation. I was his first to the balls. We are both very appreciative of the other. The diameter was the real challenge, but I seem to have mastered that. I cannot tell you how "full" I feel when he's entirely in.....

 

[340120]

Just go in all the way anyway. It may be unconfortable at the time but they'll want you again and again when they realise you take no shit excuse from them, and remember the excitement of having all of it in.