My cock is 8.5x6 and thickest at the base and I get very hard when aroused. I have my pics posted and often get guys interested in me because they want to be fucked by a big cock. I'm also attracted to Asian men. When I'm with an Asian man the first time I ask him if he is sure he can take my cock. They always say yes but much of the time I get half way in and they tell me to take it out because it is too painful. This is very frustrating and I usually jack off and go home. Sometimes I keep it in and just don't go any deeper, but that, too, is frustrating. I use lots and lots of lube. I have one guy I see a lot and some days he'll take it and some days he won't. I do not like causing my sex partner any pain. I know other men are in this same situation. It does not happen as often with black men or white men but it does still happen. I feel I need a Plan B and should be up front about it before I meet them. Several times they wouldn't even let me try even though they had seen the photo of my erect cock before I ever showed up at their door. Any suggestions on how to better handle this?