I chose the answer closest to my feelings. Marriage, in my opinion, is not "dangerous" but "okay" with the right person. In my opinion marriage is serious and not to be entered without trials and forethought. You need to know things about each other such as whether you both want the same lifestyle, whenther you both have the same economic philosophies and habits, how each responds to crises. Not every pair of people who love each other should get married.
I hope to marry someday, and I think I ofund the right partner for me. Each day between us is a surprise, even though we have a routine to which we stick. An outsider might look at our rigid schedule and think it boring. but each day we are exploring each other more, learning more, growing closer, and I love each new discovery. We have talked out our hopes and dreams, our goals and ambitions, and our fears, weaknesses and limitations. We have each had an opportunity to rescue the other from some terrible situation, and each made the rescues at tremendous personal cost. Our friendship is one that has been tried, tested and strengthened. So we've talked about marriage, and how it would change our lives for the better, as well as for the worse.
I think this is a situation where it is acceptable to move forward, and declare our intentions to marry to our family and friends. After that, we'll live together for a period of a year or more, and make our final decision to wed by setting a date.
I do wonder why divorce is so rampant. I wonder if divorced people too the time to develop their relationships in the way in which we have, and I wonder if so, why they failed. I believe some people divorce simply because it is easier to do so rather than grow as individuals and as a couple and work problems out. I think some of the problems arise due to lack of serious discussion about the realities of the less pleasant consequences of certain decisions. I think some divorces happen because children are brought into the family too soon, before the couple works out who they are as a childless, married couple. Then, after the last child moves out, the couple has no idea how to be a couple without children, because they never were. I think some people just marry someone with whom they have great sex, and no other bonds, and eventually get sick of each other.
Marriage is a contract, and a very important and heavy one. It is a real responsibility to all involved, and I do not think it is something everyone should do. I, however, intend to.