what do you guys think of getting married

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by B_tallbig, Nov 6, 2007.

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what is your take of marriage straight or gay

  1. marriage is the best thing ever invented

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    16.7%
  2. marriage is a dangerous thing but with the right person is okay

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    60.0%
  3. even with the right person sometimes sucks

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  4. i will not get marry ever !

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    16.7%
  1. B_tallbig

    B_tallbig New Member

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    as you guys can see i like polls . that is because i like people participate with their opinions . what do you guys think of that institution?
     
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    Hope to someday
     
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    what do you fuys think of getting marry
    what is a fuy?
     
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    WAS A TYPO I MEAN GUYS NOT FUYS
     
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    I used to think well of marriage. But nowadays, I do not. Marriage really isn't about marriage. I think that it is overrated for some individuals. I think that marriage entails a lot of thinking about details and issues. People do change too.

    I am not interested in marrying neither a man nor a woman.
     
  6. AlteredEgo

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    Do you mean guys as in "you folks" or guys as in "you men"?
     
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    i mean as you folks i will like to read womans opinions too at the matter
     
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    Well done! You noticed a typo no one else did!

    I think you're grrrrrreat
     
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    thanks for the reply
     
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    I chose the answer closest to my feelings. Marriage, in my opinion, is not "dangerous" but "okay" with the right person. In my opinion marriage is serious and not to be entered without trials and forethought. You need to know things about each other such as whether you both want the same lifestyle, whenther you both have the same economic philosophies and habits, how each responds to crises. Not every pair of people who love each other should get married.

    I hope to marry someday, and I think I ofund the right partner for me. Each day between us is a surprise, even though we have a routine to which we stick. An outsider might look at our rigid schedule and think it boring. but each day we are exploring each other more, learning more, growing closer, and I love each new discovery. We have talked out our hopes and dreams, our goals and ambitions, and our fears, weaknesses and limitations. We have each had an opportunity to rescue the other from some terrible situation, and each made the rescues at tremendous personal cost. Our friendship is one that has been tried, tested and strengthened. So we've talked about marriage, and how it would change our lives for the better, as well as for the worse.

    I think this is a situation where it is acceptable to move forward, and declare our intentions to marry to our family and friends. After that, we'll live together for a period of a year or more, and make our final decision to wed by setting a date.

    I do wonder why divorce is so rampant. I wonder if divorced people too the time to develop their relationships in the way in which we have, and I wonder if so, why they failed. I believe some people divorce simply because it is easier to do so rather than grow as individuals and as a couple and work problems out. I think some of the problems arise due to lack of serious discussion about the realities of the less pleasant consequences of certain decisions. I think some divorces happen because children are brought into the family too soon, before the couple works out who they are as a childless, married couple. Then, after the last child moves out, the couple has no idea how to be a couple without children, because they never were. I think some people just marry someone with whom they have great sex, and no other bonds, and eventually get sick of each other.

    Marriage is a contract, and a very important and heavy one. It is a real responsibility to all involved, and I do not think it is something everyone should do. I, however, intend to.
     
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    There wasn't an option that fitted how I feel about marriage. Although I'm divorced I still believe in marriage, to me it's a way of saying to the world 'we believe this is forever and we're putting our money where our mouths are', but I think people enter into marriage too lightly, I've known people who get married in the belief that it's temporary, that they can always get out of it if it goes wrong. If you do take the step of getting married it should be seen as what it is, a contract that lasts till death and you should try your very best to make it work not divorce at the first sign of trouble.
     
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    Marriage is great for those who want to be married. The biggest problem is that people frequently think they must become married to increase their love for each other.

    I've seen happy and bad marriages. For me, I hold open the option though I won't rush into it. When I feel open to the idea I will keep it to myself and see how long the desire lasts. Or that's what I tell myself. My heart tends to lead my head far too often.
     
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    marriage like life is a lottery, if you are selfish it wont work, is she (or he) is selfish it wont work. trust is the key, and the destroyer. I have been unlucky and lucky in marriage in that I have been married twice, my first wife left me for a woman (that was a serious blow to my self esteem) however I have been married again for 25 years to a wonderful person and i consider the trials and tribulations of my first as a qualifying period to prove life aint all shit. forgive my rantings I am a bit drunk, in a nutshell if it works nothin like it, if it dont its shit. but hey aint that life.
     
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    I've done it twice. I won't do it again any time soon. I think I've found a woman I can live with forever, but no ceremony can make my relationship with her any deeper, better, more loving, or longer lasting.
     
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    I won't get married, ever. I think it's way overrated. I'm perfectly content with spending the rest of my life someone... I don't need paper to prove it.
     
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    Hell the first time. Heaven the second. There wont be a third. It is her till life is gone...............
     
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    Marriage is over rated. DEBAUCHERY RULES!
     
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    There are some times where I think I'd like to be married and then there are times where I think to myself that it's completely unnecessary. Two people can live and love together their whole lives without ever making it official. But I guess the thought of making it official just makes a relationship all the more special.

    Traditional thinking is a tough thing to shake.
     
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    Love it.
     
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    I don't think that you should be allowed to get married until your kids have grown up.
     
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