What Do You Look For In A So?

bigdog83

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or what turns you on?

Not the obvious things like sex, masculinity, leader, protector,etc that I assume are important for women....

Values?
kindness?
Communication?
best friend?

etc?

What do you feel makes your relationship/marriage work so well?
 

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After having a marriage with my best friend break into pieces, I wouldn’t say that “best” friend is a requirement.
Damn good friend, yes. But I think the “I married my best friend” line is as misused as “soul mate.”
(Of which there are two definitions)

ya need a bestie to test drive your discussions with, sometimes.
But, you might test drive discussions with the bestie with the partner, so.....

I want a partner with intelligence and curiosity. I want (usually) him to challenge my world view in some way.
Compassion
Socially liberal
Funny, even if off beat
Comfortable in his skin (or getting there)
Goal setter/achiever
Ability to handle self care
Humility
^especially if I notice something and suggest a med pro
Ability to handle baggage from their past
Reflective listener

someone who knows I don’t need a protector (What a crock), but I do need someone who is a safe space holder. As I am for them.

someone who seeks similar in their partner.