What do you "miss" most in porn?

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  1. xX_Sarah_Xx

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    I think almost every woman who likes to watch porn, at some point, wondered at the existence of a little less-male-oriented porn. In my experience, even if the producers are female, they tend to flow from the industry into producing, and the product is a movie not really oriented to the female public. There are a few gems out there, but they're very rare and tend to require a LOT of searching before you find one. (Up to the point where I'm sometimes wondering if it's worth the effort. :tongue:)

    So ladies, what do you miss most in porn? What would you really like to see more in it?

    What in the current mainstream porn annoys you the most?

    And would you watch more porn if you didn't have to browse through a few hundreds (?) of porns before you find one to your liking, or doesn't this bother you at all?
     
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    I find the idea of "female porn" both ridiculous and moronic, not to mention highly insulting, though I should stipulate that I don't foist my opinion on others, it is a personal reaction and we all like different things, but as a female the terminology groups me in with a group of people I'd really rather not be associated with.

    As you may have gathered by now, this really isn't my cup of tea... Having spent many an hour discussing it with women here and in person, I'm led to believe that "female porn" involves "real" orgasms, gentle caressing, passionate kisses, a story line and several other exceptionally boring, mundane things in any combination... If I wanted that, I'd go watch late night channel 4/5 :tongue:
     
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    Female porn is a hot topic today?
     
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    Haha, I love porn. Unfortunately most of it is very blah to me. I'm always looking for something that seems more realistic. It's hard to find. I found it amusing when a guy had posted in a thread that women didn't watch porn. I have tons of girl friends who watch porn and some who don't. I don't think it's fair to say we don't watch it, just that some do and some don't. I also don't think women are always exposed to it like men are. I just started watching 2-3 years ago at the most. Up until that point I'd seen like 2 scenes. I didn't know the internet was full of free stuff. NOW I do :D

    I think the biggest turn off for a lot of porn to me is that women seem not into it. It's fake and overdone. Obviously porn that appeals to men who just want to watch an attractive woman get pounded is the most watched porn... or is it just that's what they think guys want? Who knows I'm not a guy.

    I like a lot of different porn. Depends on what kind of mood I'm in. But I'm mostly looking for something where the woman isn't just a cum dumpster or a screaming orifice. I want to watch something that I think a scene between me and a partner would be like or I want to watch something I've never done and dream about it alittle. It's not all about gentle touching and muted lighting... UGH! Sick of that stereo type. I do send the guys to the "female friendly" porn categories I've found if they say their girlfriend likes stories. I don't really like porn with stories. If I'm looking for porn I want sex, I want dirty, nasty, hot and sweaty screaming sex.... which is really hard to find in any porn scene where the stars have chemistry.

    I just want real, which is something porn doesn't really offer. Obviously when two people are having sex and really enjoying theirselves they probably aren't worried about the camera having a clear shot of their genitals. In real life it's about what feels good, not what looks good.
     
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    My last girlfriend would only watch porn as long as there was a good scene with the girl having oral sex performed on her. She could care less about anything else. I guess it was the same for me liking to watch a guys dick getting sucked by a hot girl. And she was similar to submissive, she wasn't into it unless it looked like the girl was having the time of her life, which is rare to find.
     
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    Gods I hate most commercial porn....with the exception of some lesbian porn and gay "men in suits" "men at work" porn.
    Hetro porn leaves me cold..it's plastic, obviously fake and if you left the ..cough/choke.."actors" too close to the radiator they'd melt.
     
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    I can't stand most porn. I would love to watch a great sex scene where the woman isn't used and moaning like a whore or a really hot scene between two chicks that is actually believable but it's a rare find. I discussed with a friend recently how the only porn where it actually seems like all the participants are having a good time is gay male porn.
     
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    Sex without the put on screaming like a banshee, I miss women with Bush too. I hate all the plastic looking people, keep it natural.
     
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    I find the "treating objects like women...man..." porn to be very much a turn off. I only enjoy it when I can see the woman enjoys it. So no choking or shoving the girls head down with the guys foot shit. That's just misogynistic fantasy.

    As far as "moaning like a whore" personally I want to know the woman is enjoying it and hearing it is a good indicator. If it's obviously faked then it's a turn off, but if she gets that vocal and it's legit-a huge turn on. A lot of porn the guys act "too cool" to make any sounds that they are enjoying it, other than telling the woman "what a good little bitch/whore she is" and that's also a turn off for me.

    Concerning old school manufactured porn, I always enjoy Ashlyn Gere cuz she seems to legitimately enjoy it.
     
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    I agree with Aconutim on this one.. I'm not a huge fan of "female" or "female friendly" porn, as well as the lame story-type porn with horrible acting. If I want to see something, I tend to have a more practical look at things: I want to see people have hard, nasty sex. No lame stories, just sex. Though, it has to be sexy - and a scene where either the guy or girl look bored or fake, just isnt sexy at all. I do tend to go for the harder stuff or as close to anything bdsm i can find or feel like at that moment; not that thats something I need to have in my personal sexlife everytime, but I for porn to still be interesting (maybe from having worked in the industry myself) I tend to look for stuff that is a bit out of the norm or can't be faked.

    I also like some hentai every now and then, call me a nerd. I dont care. It's hot.
     
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    dit to the oh
     
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    I don't watch porn, because visual stimulation just doesn't do it for me. I think I missed out on the visual stimulation gene. I prefer to read stories. Although, like most women in this thread, I tend to skip the actual story part to get to the hard, nasty sex.

    When I do watch porn (very rarely, and usually because a guy has wanted to), I tend to spend more time laughing at the fakeness than I do being aroused. Plus I can't help analysing their skills and thinking I could do a whole lot better (some of the blowjobs you see in porn are seriously pathetic).


    Errr . . . I scream like a banshee and it IS natural :redface:. I'd been screaming for some years before I ever saw any porn.
     
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    I have had sex with more than 100 women, and I can remember two or three who screamed! My sexual background is varied: my wife is African, past partners have been Australian, Serbian, Korean, Chinese, Japanese, Malaysian, Thai, Russian and many more than I could ever remember. Screaming during sex is not common, but when it happens and it's genuine it's a real turn-on.
     
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    I guess when it comes to porn ,besides finding most funny and somewhat boring..I tend to check out the girls looks and if the guy is well hung or not,If the sex is real or "staged".Men being more visually turned on by porn i guess...
     
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    i always thought the same thing UNTILL I did my first scene. For many production agencies it isn't about what is actually enjoyable for the male actor, and more about what makes his member look as big as possible and doesnt get him to cum too quickly. Using your hands in oral is a big no no for example (as it makes him look smaller on screen), you never should use your tongue too much.. and the list goes on. Oral in mainstream hardcore porn isn't about pleasure, it's usually just about shockvalue and pretty shots; deepthroating is a great example of this. Usually nearly 50% of the actual oral sex will be DT (and even that has to look as impressive as possible.. I've actually been offered an ONION to get my eyes to tear up.. not so hot), but eventhough DT can be fun for a little while, it's apeal is more visual than fysical. Yes, some chicks are just bad at it, but apparently we like to see bad oral.


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    I don't know late night channel 4/5... don't think we have something like that in Belgium. :) I guess it all comes down to how you define porn. Right now, porn is often associated with disrespect towards the female actors. And that's definitely not what women want to see.

    I wondered at that too. I'm not sure it is. The videos of a couple with real chemistry, where both of the actors are really into it, usually get a ton of responses from men too. And it just makes me wonder how big the influence of "the industry" is in the porn we get to see.

    This is something that sometimes annoys me in porn, being "mindful of the camera". I don't care if there isn't a full-on clear shot all the time. It's much more about the passion, being into it, the chemistry together. If the guy twists his leg in an uncomfortable way just so the camera has a good view, it shows he's paying less attention to his female co-star.

    There are some pornos around where there's real chemistry between the actors. But they're rare indeed. :) I don't know about the gay male porn... there are some good ones around in that genre too, but in the "average" gay porns I found there's too much aggressiveness and often not enough respect between the actors. Genuine passion is great, but a rare find too.

    Hmm... never was a fan of hentai myself. :) But possibly plays on the imagination more than "real" porn. Definitely not calling you a nerd. If it does it for you, why would anyone judge? ;)

    What is portrayed as "female friendly" porn on sites as youporn and the like... is often lesbian scenes or porn with a lame story indeed. Not what I would classify as "female friendly". Definitely not what I would classify as "female porn". And it's one of the reasons I brought this up in the first place... I know how *I* think about these things, but I wondered if there was a common train of thought...

    I think a lot of women don't have the visual stimulation gene. Women generally just think different than guys do. A story is all about character development and imagination. It shapes a deeper connection between two characters. Not what you get to see in most porns. There are just about no porn "actors" that can act and carry out a believable storyline in a way you get drawn into the story. ("faking it" is not acting!)

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    I like to watch porn as well. I get stimulated before seeing my guy. And right now as I am tapering back my alcohol intake, I've told myself whenever I think of alcohol, I will watch some porn. Get stimulated and also, hopefully, see some nice bodies to inspire me to get back into shape.

    What I find easily can be a bit unappetising. Seeing women with their anuses fully open is a bit scary. And it does look as if some women aren't enjoying it.

    Where can I find porn in which women do receive cunning lingus; actually orgasm; don't show their orifices wide open.
     
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    Wow! Thanks Katt! I think I'll be a little more understanding about that now. I guess in my case then, I might be a little more into porn if it was more realistic, and focused on skill rather than camera shots.


    The deeper connection is something that I find very important in the stories I read. Even if the characters have only just met, it's important that there's something intense about the way they connect with each other. I need intensity, and not just physically.
     
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    My girlfriend Kinda likes porn. when she watches it, She likes creampies. She also says how it is obviously fake.

    That thing is that I hate screaming porn. I don't really watch the rough stuff with screaming girls. I just like a pretty face, big ass, and big dicks.... and squirting. Dnn't forget squirting.... but she says that even my porn is a turn off for her.

    So my girlfriend likes the amateur stuff.... with creampies.
     
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    1. You're attempting to speak for all women
    2. You're projecting your opinion of what does and does not constitute disrespect towards the female actors.
    3. Did you actually contact any of these poor disrespected females actors to ask them if they felt disrespected?

    We had a thread some 4-5 years ago that dealt with the topic of porn and the disrespect it shows women with the cum shots, facials, face slapping, spitting and a whole load of other shit, and I'm sure I'm far from being the only woman here who remembers very well that there were several women in that thread who not only said they enjoyed those acts, but found it anything but disrespectful.
     
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