What do you say when someone says 'I love you' but you don't really love them back?

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It depends on how it comes up.

If you are joking around about something and he or she says something like, "I just love you," you are OK saying nothing.
If you andyour partner are having a serious conversation about your relationship and he/she says something like, "Look, you need to know something. I love you." Then, you need to be honest and totally upfront, even if it ruins the moment. It is best.
If you don't know how you feel, you are not in love with them. Period. And, it is best to tell them that. It will hurt their feelings, but it will save you a truckload of heartache later on. I promise.
Good luck. I know how you feel.
 

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If they aren't joking, there is no good way to say, yeah - I like you, but I don't feel the same way. Best to have a heart attack or a seizure. Fake it if you don't have one honestly.
 

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Faking a brain aneurysm works too.

Possibly. Even driving into the ditch and having a minor car wreck - nothing deadly - just something to spare the poor person one of life's suckiest experiences: urequited love. :frown1:
 

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seems like the person asking this can't accept love as is to begin with. I've told people I love them without expecting some long drawn out story how I'm not for them....fuck that.....if love is an honest emotion then give honesty back...
 

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How about "I've never truly loved anyone but I may be on my way." ?

Nix on the car crash for me Fem. No one is worth dealing with my auto insurance claims adjuster.
 

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It is simpler to make the love, than to find acceptable ways not to say it.

Love is not like hair colour, or eye colour, or ( up to a point ) penis size. It's not yes/no. It's not genetic.

It is something you can build. Choose the right person, though few partners are impossible, for most people.

Make clean foundations. Build slow, step-by-step, and clean. Watch, listen. Imagine. Create possibilities. Keep checking as you go. And learn and refresh ...
 
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I think that my issue is with the word "love" itself. Thankfully my partner seems fine with me not saying it and maybe it'll come with time.

I tend to say stuff like "I really care about you" which to me means more than a vague four letter word that I frankly feel people use too much sometimes to the point where it almost cheapens its meaning.

My approach to stuff is pretty unusual though, so this is just par for the course with me.
 
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It depends whether they say it TOO much or not.

It kinda strikes me as being more to indulge their need to say it, than to please you, if that's the case.