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When your daughter says I'm joining the Mariines!On one hand I'm proud on the other it scares me!Stand for what you believe but dont give it all for something you don't understand.As a father what would you say?:frown1:
 

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I am not a father, but I am a mother and a single one at that. My oldest son recently did this to me. Had a recruiter come over and talk to me. Well, he was over 18 and not much I could do about it except listen and understand and accept. He joined. He is doing well and I am going to see him graduate from an intense 13 week program. I am leaving for San Diego July 8th. i gotta tell you that i have never been more proud than I am now.
Talk to her and find out her reasons. You will be surprised regarding how much boot camp changes them for the better.
 

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Sorry I put it all in a block.Just a dad trying to get his head around this.
I wonder why she is choosing the Marines. It is not an easy program to get through. They call them the few and proud for a reason. Talk with her and make sure this is really what she wants. They do not make it easy on them to drop out.
 

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At 12 she green broke her own horse and rode it.She has her own spine and back bone.But as her father............I still want to protect her.
 

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Incocknito,

What a rude thing to say to a parent of an enlisted person. You offer her as much support and love as you can Ed if she carries thru with all of it. That goes unsaid I guess. If I were a parent I'd be petrified also.

Once she formally starts, it's out of your hands. At that point I would hope as a parent I would keep my fingers crossed, send my love over there constantly as a reminder to her that there are loved ones that want her back safely, send her things she needs on a regular basis and be there always as I'm sure you will be for emotional support.

While I will say I don't necessarily support her decision, I will say she made the decision herself. How you handle that is totally up to you. Most of what I said goes unsaid anyway.
 

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When your daughter says I'm joining the Mariines!On one hand I'm proud on the other it scares me!Stand for what you believe but dont give it all for something you don't understand.As a father what would you say?:frown1:

As a fellow father I say be proud that she wants to serve her country. By all means let her know you had a different career path in mind for her but be supportive - after all you've got to let your kids go some time. At least you know she will be looked after (even if the job is a tough/dangerous one).
 

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I served with the Royal Marines in the UK and it changed me fundamentally. I am now a confident even strident person who knows both what I can and what I can not do. The training over here is tough and they rebuild you in the process. If she survives the training then she will most deninately be quite different in character. However I can't comment on the training and mindset that is general for the USMC - but I do know it is completely different to the RMs. It is reasonable to be aware and acknowledge that it is potentially a dangerous path to take but try not to dwell on it.
 

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How proud will you be when your son/daughter is KIA?

Don't know much about the U.S. military and females do you!:mad:



For everyone else,thanks for hearing a scared dad!:wink:I just wonder,will she get to fly one of those unmanned planes over their.Or will she stay state side?We'll see where she is needed,and how long I have to look after her horse!In the end I let her choose,something I was never given.No matter what she does I'll back my girl!
 

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How proud will you be when your son/daughter is KIA?

My hubby let you off easy, The fact is I have plenty of family in the military and yes it hurts like hell to have a loved one KIA but it comes to a badge of honor knowing that my family member died doing what they felt was right. If my daughter feels this is the path for her to take to reach the goals then I am proud to support her.

FYI Females are not allowed in the front with the men fighting. Congress passed a law stating that. the fact of the manner is that yes she could be sent over and yes support staff are in as much danger as our fighting men but she is also trained to protect herself so I am not worried about her going to war either.
 

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When your daughter says I'm joining the Mariines!On one hand I'm proud on the other it scares me!Stand for what you believe but dont give it all for something you don't understand.As a father what would you say?:frown1:

Don't EVER let anyone you know join any of the military forces. They are a tool of control for the ruling corporate elite which continues to propagate the failed institution of capitalism.

take 2 hours and watch what a mess humanity is in because of religion and banks and the war machine.

Zeitgeist - The Movie (click on the eye)
 

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I'd rather my daughter told me she was stripping.

But what can you do? Once she has made a choice, she made a choice, and you probably can't do anything about it anyways. Luckily when she kills Iraqis it will be from the comfort of an air conditioned trailer, and she will never have to see the bodies or blood or kid's shoes blown 100 feet from their house. America, fuck yeah.
 
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Military service is particularly hard on women.
half of all females who ship out on deployment in the navy do not finish their deployment... for reasons ranging from foolishness, to simply looking for a way out, half end up pregnant and transfered off ship. (ETA- all women in service realize quickly that if the going gets hard, they have an easy out in getting knocked up... its a horrible reason for bringing a baby into this world, but military service puts young and inexperienced women into terrifically distressing situations that lead a lot of them to take this option... )

Just the same... as a father, all you can do is offer the advice of an older, wiser person with her best interests at heart.

Sit her down, and try and get her to explain her reasoning in terms you understand...
Help her by asking her the questions that may not have occurred to one so young.
Such questions as, what if they order you to do something which violates your sense of right and wrong? Does she fundamentally agree with her nation's current military adventures and objectives? Is she prepared for the experience of witnessing friends violently killed or inadvertently killing innocent people?

As she talks it over with you, you will get a sense of whether she has thought this thru or has some unrealistic idea of what she will gain...
If the former, then be proud and let her go, she does not belong to you.

If the latter, then, as her parent, try and explain to her what she is really in for, and offer her alternative means to achieve her goals.
 
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