What do you think a man is?

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Ugh. I hate my laptop. I had this wonderfully long response typed out, and I hit or did something that completely deleted it all. So here I go again.

This question is hard for me to answer. Very hard. I can think of several traits that my "ideal man" would have... but if a guy is lacking in any of those, it doesn't necessarily make him less of a man. I view men and women as complete equals, and if either sex is lacking in something that I would view as a positive trait, I don't think it makes them less manly or less feminine. It just makes them different. If a guy is a liar, does that make him less masculine? Not necessarily... it just makes him someone I wouldn't want to be friends with. Do ya feel me?
 

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Interesting question. I've often said that what makes a man a man is his character, but I'm thinking that might be slightly inaccurate. By definition, a man is a human with a penis and testicles. A woman is a human with breasts and a vagina. A distilled definition, but it'll do for this arguement.

I think the qualities mentioned here are what make us good people, whether we are men or women. What makes a man a man? Fully developed male sexual organs. What makes a man a good man? Different question all together. On that subject, I'd say it's courage, wisdom, integrity, and empathy, among many other things.

I also agree with viking1.. the ability to forgive is almost divine.
 

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Interesting question. I've often said that what makes a man a man is his character, but I'm thinking that might be slightly inaccurate. By definition, a man is a human with a penis and testicles. A woman is a human with breasts and a vagina. A distilled definition, but it'll do for this arguement.

I think the qualities mentioned here are what make us good people, whether we are men or women. What makes a man a man? Fully developed male sexual organs. What makes a man a good man? Different question all together. On that subject, I'd say it's courage, wisdom, integrity, and empathy, among many other things.

I also agree with viking1.. the ability to forgive is almost divine.

Exactly...
 

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Disagreed! Im a male, Im an adult. But I am far from a man. I am a 16 yr old at heart lol.

LOL - I'm 44 but sometimes I still feel like I'm 16! No problem with that as long as you're childlike and not childish! :smile:

It's good to be a responsible adult, but still with a great sense of fun, and wonder at the world.
 

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I'm a daddy's girl, so someone like him. Highly intelligent, protective, always supportive no matter how much you mess up, affectionate, respected, lots of hugs, adores my mom, true to his word, honorable, not afraid to say "I love you", strong, self-reliant, sense of humor, doesn't need to yell or curse to be heard, loves animals, kind, just, listens to and respects others, but if you f*** with his family there isn't a hole deep enough to hide in.

A man I know once described my dad as the type of man other men held in high esteem and hoped respected them in return.
 

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In my opinion a real man, is a man who is reliable, never lets you down and always is there for you.

I agree, unfortunately that model is in short supply here in the US. Either they stopped making them or they all got shipped to Iraq. One thing for sure is none of the single, straight ones are ever within a 200 mile radius of me. :redface: :frown1:
 

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A (perfect) man makes me feel safe but also lets me be independent enough to feel safe in myself and my abilities.


Ahh, you said it perfectly. I shoulder so much responsibility in my work and personal life. The man I wind up with will offer me a safe haven, a recharging station, shelter, etc. He will be proud of my independence and encourage it, but will always do the other as well.
 

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Ahh, you said it perfectly. I shoulder so much responsibility in my work and personal life. The man I wind up with will offer me a safe haven, a recharging station, shelter, etc. He will be proud of my independence and encourage it, but will always do the other as well.

This is what I aspire to and feel that at least to some extent I have provided safe harbor.

The other thing that I have noticed is that the real men that I have met in my life have an aura of respect, they don't demand it or feel that they deserve it they have just accrued it by being who they are.
 

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A (perfect) man makes me feel safe but also lets me be independent enough to feel safe in myself and my abilities.

Perfect doesn't exist. Nothing can be perfect in this world. Even the want of perfection is a false hope.
 

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Perfect doesn't exist. Nothing can be perfect in this world. Even the want of perfection is a false hope.

True, and to agree with Meg, what is perfect to me may be terrible to someone else. Also nobody wants 100% with no faults and no room to grow and learn, that is impossible. But perfect in the sense of complimenting each other in personality etc, thats IS
possible
 

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Boston asked this question, provided lyrics to answer:

"http://www.lyricsfreak.com/b/boston/to+be+a+man_20023088.html"

What does it take to be a man?
What does it take to see
Its all heart and soul
A gentle hand?
So easy to want and so hard to give
How can you be a man
till you see beyond the life you live?
Oh, what does it take to be a man?

We can be blind, but a man tries to see
It takes tenderness
For a man to be what he can be
And what does it mean
If youre weak or strong?
A gentle feelin
Can make it right or make it wrong
What does it take to be a man?

The will to give and not receive
The strength to say what you believe
The heart to feel what others feel inside
To see what they can see

A man is somethin thats real
Its not what you are
Its what you can feel
It cant be too late
To look through the hate and see
I know thats what a man can be