What do you think about bi men ?

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Sometimes I wonder why I have no male friends (straight or gay) since a few years... Any guy is more interested in my sexuality than myself if he notices me at all. Perhaps I see it too dark but often I feel it's like that. The only exception are other bisexual guys :)

Recently I have one good friend. He has a remote boyfriend but keeps on saying that he is bisexual like me. Maybe that's why he likes me and does not make a toy of me nor anyone who is 'different'.
But that friendship is not as perfect as I would like such one to be.

I'd like to have a brotherly type of friend with whom I could go to look for hot girls, talk a lot, joke and getting a hug when feeling too down : ) I didn't have such male family members and I feel that's lacking in my growing up maybe.
Still, any potential friends usually avoid me because I'm not like them... maybe because of my bisexualism (I don't hide it) or maybe just because I'm a different type : ) I used to bring some distance earlier, too.

What do you think about that ? Is bisexual caught as 'wrong' ... as I feel I am perceived?
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Ahhhh. I was all thinking to myself via the topic, "Why, I want one of course!" I stand sufficiently cured of that.

Sucks about the "potential friend" dilemma. I've read that if you took the entire human race and averaged statistics on things like height, eye color, etc., you'd find less deviation than if you did the same thing using only a purely Caucasian population. Point being, we are all a lot more alike than we are different. ;-)

Re: " [snip] ...the brotherly type of friend with whom I could go to look for hot girls, talk a lot, joke and getting a hug when I an feeling too down. [snip] up maybe." I could have written that myself.

What do you think about that ? Is bisexual caught as 'wrong' ... as I feel I am perceived?

There are as many opinions out there as there are people out there to have them. I'd pick the two or three (maybe?) that really matter to you and have the right to make you stop and think about what it is that you are really doing, and give them consideration. Yep, yep.
 

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Thank you for your reply very much!

Perhaps I just wish too much, life is life ;D and being different is being different...
 

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DUDE sounds like you want a bromance nothing wrong with that, I am straight yet long for the bromance a dude to hang with to talk aswell I am backyard nudist and long for day just to hang with dudes nothing sexual just being dudes possible compare show off and be dudes

I did have other siblings one bro we did hang out but then grew out of it since I am 40 and long for a bromance of dudes nothing sexual

Thats why I skype its dudes hanging nude getting a chance to chat be dudes and be natural

DUDE skype me we can chat and be dudes being dudes my skype same name here
 

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Sometimes I wonder why I have no male friends (straight or gay) since a few years... Any guy is more interested in my sexuality than myself if he notices me at all. Perhaps I see it too dark but often I feel it's like that. The only exception are other bisexual guys :)

Recently I have one good friend. He has a remote boyfriend but keeps on saying that he is bisexual like me. Maybe that's why he likes me and does not make a toy of me nor anyone who is 'different'.
But that friendship is not as perfect as I would like such one to be.

I'd like to have a brotherly type of friend with whom I could go to look for hot girls, talk a lot, joke and getting a hug when feeling too down : ) I didn't have such male family members and I feel that's lacking in my growing up maybe.
Still, any potential friends usually avoid me because I'm not like them... maybe because of my bisexualism (I don't hide it) or maybe just because I'm a different type : ) I used to bring some distance earlier, too.

What do you think about that ? Is bisexual caught as 'wrong' ... as I feel I am perceived?
+ sorry if such a topic exists

I've never known any openly bi men or women. Everyone of who's sexual preference I was aware self-identified as pretty predominantly straight or else gay.

I don't think it would bother me, or keep me from being friends with someone, but I'll admit lack of first hand experience.
 

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I'm straight and I don't care what sexual orientation another person is. In fact those who do care creep me out since clearly they are so obsessed with what another person is doing sexually they are obviously unable to think of anything else. That's just weird to me.
 

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Thank you for your posts. All of them go together with my point of view and I'm glad to see it. I'd wish people were that open in my surroundings, too.
It's true that I'm keen on having a bromance : ) would be so nice to have a male friend who can even play 'love' with me but stay cool, just as girls do when they are best friends ;D
From time to time I had such friends, but nothing really true ;/

Docv2011, thank U... Unfortunately, I don't use skype but feel free to write pm if you'd like to chat with me : )
 

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I don't know if it is the same for others, but for me good friendships with other guys are difficult. I just don't easily get along with other guys, and it's usually me that dislikes the other. I have two close guy friends, and those friendships were built over a pretty long period of time.

I would have no problem with a guy friend being bisexual, or homosexual. Actually, I do suspect that one of my two guy friends may very well be bisexual but afraid to say so. If he ever does say it, nothing will change.
 

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That's an interesting reply, thank you.
Good to know that not only bi/ homo guys have this kind of inhibition.
It seems you don't have too much problem with same sex friendships if you managed to keep more than one... But I understand what it's like.

I had always some friends in my primary school years but when I started to be an adolescent and became very interested in girls, all guys seemed as rivals to me and I lost good contact with them all. Later bisexual feelings added, so really difficult to find bonds now : ) plus I never played in a sports team or sth.
 

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I would date a bisexual guy, but it would be pretty awkward sometimes if he expressed any kind of desire for women around me. I prefer a completely homosexual man myself.
 

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I think what you are describing is the desire for a "true friend," however you want to describe it. I have always had the same problem. There was one in college but we moved to different parts of the country. Another died unexpectedly. Otherwise, it is just neighbors or guys at work. Friendly but not "true" friends. Don't give up though. Just continue to be yourself but to try distinguish the insincere types who are just interested in your sexuality. Sex as a starter is not the way to find true friendship. I don't care anything about whether a guy is gay, bi or straight or somewhere in between and many of us are in there somewhere. I like to know a guy for what he thinks about things and how he behaves, someone who has common interests, etc. Sex is something that I am interested in after I know someone fairly well. Sure I like to look around and all but to hop to it with someone right away is not what I ever have had in mind. Good luck in finding a true friend.
 
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