Originally posted by aloofman@Aug 23 2004, 07:19 AM
... But gay men are far more likely to be having regular anal sex than a straight man is. That, combined with the fact that gay men tend to have more partners (which, despite our differing explanations, we did agree on in that other thread), means that in general having sex with a man is more risky than having sex with a woman.... But don't call it homophobia when somebody says that gay anal sex is riskier than heterosexual sex. The facts behind the trends say that this is true.
Aloofman, while thoughtful, you miss the point. You can use the stats to make a point, but what Jonb said makes straight people believe they're not at risk. You don't distinguish the behavior of sex versus the who of sex, and you fail to back up your statements with fact. (and yeah, statistics can be twisted any way we want, that's why I pointed to the CDC who publishes raw, parametric data).
There's a myth in the gay community that the top in anal sex is safe from contracting HIV because statistically there's far less of a chance of contracting it that way. And yet if you take a look at male-for-male personals online, there are many 'exclusive tops' who are HIV positive. Nothing is absolute.
Most concerning is that the myth extends to the straight community: people believe they're safe because 'it's really just a gay issue' -- and this is the attitude that will turn HIV into a straight issue in the US as is it everywhere else in the world. These are the numbers from the CDC that are alarming. So the fact is straight men *can* contract HIV from women through both anal and vaginal intercourse. So what would the odds have to be for not contracting HIV? 1:500? 1:1000? 1:10,000? Good luck with that.
Jonb didn't say gay anal sex is riskier than heterosexual sex. He said that gay men are more likely to have HIV without backing up his claims or qualifying it, just as you did in your post.
Opinion and speculation stated as fact doesn't make it fact -- but it does lead people to make behavioral and attitudinal choices based on the influence of false statements. And that's my issue: stating things like that make straight people believe it's unrealated to themselves.
According to Norman Hearst and Stephen Hulley in the Journal of the American Medical Association, if your partner is HIV-positive, your chances of getting AIDS after one night are 1 in 5,000 with a condom, 1 in 500 without a condom. There's little difference between the risk for men and women in this regard. Additionally, there's a 45-90 day incubation period where a person tests negative and can still infect others.
And the chances of getting AIDS from *one* encounter with someone from a high-risk group range as high as 1 in 10,000 using a condom to 1 in 1,000 unprotected. High risk would mean anyone that's ever shared needles, a woman who's had sex with a bisexual man, or a hemopheliac.
Even if you alone can state with 100% knowledge that everyone who's had sex with everyone you've had sex with doesn't fall into any of those categories doesn't make it right to make statements that appear all heterosexuals are safe regardless of behavior.