What do you think?

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  1. bigrodrob

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    I was just wondering, I am a straight man, married and would not consider cheating on my wife, with that said she knows nothing about my internet addiction to porn and this website would you consider this as cheating, or among all of us is this pretty normal for the other partner to know nothing about this kinda thing?
     
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    I think you should discuss your need for this form of satisfaction with your wife, she may understand, although knowing women, i doubt it. But at least it will put it out there. My partner knows all about this website and knows that it is just a pasttime that i have, like fishing or sports. Its something that i do for myself that i enjoy. I dont see a problem with that as long as it doesn`t encroach on my personal life. I think one problem you may encouter from your wife is ignorance toward the internet. If she is not a user she may fear the technology and see it as a threat to your relationship. In fairness im not sure what would be the best advice, i would hate for you to fall out over such a(relatively) insignificant thing.
     
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    If you feel guilty about it then maybe you should tell her but if you don't then why bother?
     
  5. Principessa

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    9inchcanadian, of course your partner understands you looking at this site he's a gay man! :biggrin1::rolleyes:

    This guy is 51. For all we know he has been married for 20 years. I'm telling you, as a straight woman if I were married to a man whom I thought was straight, and I caught him looking at this site. I would be freaking :eek: out. I would be thinking he was James Mc Greevey and I was going to end up kicked to the curb.

     
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    I dunno people are generally ok with knowing that I'm here and around here. The porn is harder to hide though.
     
  7. Mr. Snakey

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    No i would however tell her about it. To keep it a secrect is no good. The secrect to a good relationship is to have no secrets. if she says stop. then stop.
     
  8. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    I wouldnt consider it cheating unless you are flirting and forming ongoing close (personal) relationships with people. However i would tell her, maybe she would like to be part of it or maybe she has her own dirty little secret she is also worried about telling you that she'd like you to be part of.

    But if it is innocent and you arent trying to form any connections or commitments behind her back then i see no need in keeping it a secret
     
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    NO I don't think or even consider it cheating. It is natural for any person to be curious and look. The only thing that would be a concern is How does web surfing effect your contact with your wife. Are you using it inside of being with her? Truthfully having your partner not know about is a sticky because they may see it as cheating, or that they are not satisifing you. And quite commen that your a pervert.

    I do admit I have found talking to a lot of women they find internet porn or even porn movies to be gross or just wrong. But I think that is because they are cold fish in bed. I am probably one of the few females that enjoys watching the vidoes with my husband. I order him two new ones every year. Because I know he has a higher sex drive than me and he needs an outlet.

    I just wish more women would be happy instead of mad when they find their man looking at porn of any kind. They created the problem, they should be grateful that men have found a the answer to the problem.
     
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