What Do You Value In Straight Men?

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So, this is a to each is own question obviously. I wanted to know what the gays value in their straight friends/straight brothers/straight colleagues?
 
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I like that my friends are open and stand up for me if people talk about gay people

That's how I was with my roommate. He was younger than me so it was this big brother nature I had with him. I helped him with his fashion, I even bought him shoes (All Star 2s when they first came out) one time because I got tired of him going on dates with those busted as shoes with a grown ass way older than him adult and expect to be taken seriously. Then I'd be worried about him being taken advantage of because he loves attention, loves being courted and its very friendly and gullible. Unfortunately we fell out and haven't spoken in three years, lol.
 
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That's how I was with my roommate. He was younger than me so it was this big brother nature I had with him. I helped him with his fashion, I even bought him shoes (All Star 2s when they first came out) one time because I got tired of him going on dates with those busted as shoes with a grown ass way older than him adult and expect to be taken seriously. Then I'd be worried about him being taken advantage of because he loves attention, loves being courted and its very friendly and gullible. Unfortunately we fell out and haven't spoken in three years, lol.


So ur straight, and what happened did he move
 
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So ur straight, and what happened did he move

Yeah, but that don't stop anyone from trying, lol. It's a complicated explanation. But leading up to him moving, there was a lot of shit he didn't have together. He as doing too much it just kind of hit the fan for me. I wasn't even that mad to the point of canceling him. But he took it so to heart when I slammed the door on his ass. He said all this ugly stuff about me when I was there for him. We've cried together, share our most personal things, both our birthdays are in March. I bought him Rihanna ticket along with mine for Anti in Tampa. But I get all the hate, all I did afterwards was pray for him because I still cared about him, believed in him, prayed for his family in Venezuela (I was there when he came out to his mother and she basically disowned him). But those comments he and his bf made told me a lot.
 
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Yeah, but that don't stop anyone from trying, lol. It's a complicated explanation. But leading up to him moving, there was a lot of shit he didn't have together. He as doing too much it just kind of hit the fan for me. I wasn't even that mad to the point of canceling him. But he took it so to heart when I slammed the door on his ass. He said all this ugly stuff about me when I was there for him. We've cried together, share our most personal things, both our birthdays are in March. I bought him Rihanna ticket along with mine for Anti in Tampa. But I get all the hate, all I did afterwards was pray for him because I still cared about him, believed in him, prayed for his family in Venezuela (I was there when he came out to his mother and she basically disowned him). But those comments he and his bf made told me a lot.


Wow so tell me about the complications
 

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What is the meaning of your question? Are you wondering what do I value about certain friends being Straight? Or are you just asking what do I value about my (accidentally Straight) friends as individuals? I.e. is it about the Straight friend holistically, or about the Straightness of the friend?
 
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What is the meaning of your question? Are you wondering what do I value about certain friends being Straight? Or are you just asking what do I value about my (accidentally Straight) friends as individuals? I.e. is it about the Straight friend holistically, or about the Straightness of the friend?

Whatever aspect of it you want to answer. I'm open to whatever you have to say, no wrong answer.

I also want to *note* some people don't divide up the straight and gay friends, they're just friends, I am one of those people (I'm sure some of you are too). I also understand there are some people who do divide them up as straight friends and gay friends. For the simple reason that maybe their straight friends might not be comfortable or you know it won't be comfortable to them because somebody is going to say something offensive and stupid. Some may do certain things with straight friends, others may do certain things with gay friends.

But, the gays have the floor here. We always hear the straight perspective.
 

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My straight friends value me for who I am apart from my sexuality, but also defend me if necessary if my orientation becomes an issue.

We have straight friends who have helped my disabled husband when I was away and he had an emergency. We have straight friends who consider us to be their closest friends.

My closest straight friend was my workout buddy at the gym 3 times/week for 14 years until he moved to another state. We both confided about our marriages and everything else. I knew his kids from early childhood to their marriages.
 

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My interactions with straight men definitely taught me the difference between those that virtue signal and those that are actually virtuous.

I value the straight men that says that they accept people of all gender, race, orientation etc and then live their statements with action.

1. I can talk about my love life the same way they talk about theirs without awkward pauses.
2. They can join me in predominately lgbt spaces like I join them in predominately straight spaces.


So basically any straight guy that walks the talk is valuable in my eyes.
 

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My interactions with straight men definitely taught me the difference between those that virtue signal and those that are actually virtuous.

I value the straight men that says that they accept people of all gender, race, orientation etc and then live their statements with action.

1. I can talk about my love life the same way they talk about theirs without awkward pauses.
2. They can join me in predominately lgbt spaces like I join them in predominately straight spaces.


So basically any straight guy that walks the talk is valuable in my eyes.


Well said
 
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There are many different things I find important for people to have.
  • Respect - I have high respect for people who treat other people and animals with the highest respect.
  • Honesty is another huge factor. Enough said.
  • Sense of humor is a very important thing that I think people should have.
  • Common sense.
I think I pick my friends based upon those things. I have never chosen my friends based upon who they have sex with (unless they are having sex with underage or animals).

But I will really judge my friends if they don't tip servers, they are litterbugs, they mistreat animals, they steal from others, they are liars, they are vain, or they are abusive. But once again, I don't care who they are having sex with, that is their business.
 

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Although I do have gay friends which consists of a small group of guys that I've been friends with for many years..I tend to have more straight friends than gays. In my experience...with the exception of the gay friends that I've mentioned..straight friends I have are very supportive and very protective over me. My straight friends have told me on numerous occasions that they love the way I make them feel special and motivated. They all say that when they are in my company..I make them fell like kings..however..I treat them the way I would want to be treated. In some ways though..I do tend to feel at times that I am in some type of relationship with them all because of the way they treat me..nonetheless...I really value their friendships.
 
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I value a straight man who lets me know directly or indirectly that he is 100% comfortable with me, not just with the fact that I’m gay, but comfortable with me expressing my sexuality. I want to be able to act as feminine as I want, talk about how cute I think boys are, casually mention sexcapades (the same way a typical straight guy might). I don’t mean to say that I am overly explicit, but just that I can be open and honest about my sex life.