What do you want in a bottom?

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  1. bifnt4all

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    Just wondering what turns you on when you are topping a guy, or girl for that matter. I know clean is good but past that. Do you like it when you can see that there is a little pain at first? Or do you prefer someone that can take all of you right off the bat? Do you want a guy that talks alot or one thatmaybe just moans alot? ETC
     
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    My ass is a virgin.. for a variety of reasons!
     
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    As you said, first off they gotta be queaky clean.

    They also have to be upfront and honest - they need to tell you what they want. Nothing worse than a bottom who is in pain and just shuts up about it because they don't want to upset you. You need to be able to communicate with each other.

    Next, I want them to be able to work their muscle around my cock, not too loose, not too tight, and after the initial warm-up I want to give every inch of my cock to them - I love to go real deep.

    I need to be able to see their eyes. Nothing worse than those guys who lie there with their eyes shut. If you can't see their eyes, there's no connection.

    And I want them to be able to go the distance and last all fucking night!
     
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    i have always wondered what feels good? to tighten when he pulls out or the opposite?
     
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    I want a bottom with a good heart and lots of patience.
     
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    Cleanliness, huge enthusiasm for being fucked and for me and for my dick, I want something vulnerable and beta-ish too, someone who enjoys being dominated and Fucked by me, but who is sexually intelligent and submissive but not passive.

    Good old fashioned whorishness never goes unrewarded either, especially when it's combined with a butter-wouldn't-melt-in-his-mouth demeanour.


    Stamina, and a very very open mind.
     
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    Ooh, I like this thread (and its tips)! :biggrin1:


    Oh god, that sounds so hot.. :redface:

    Hihi, sounds like a really fun activity.. :rolleyes: I haven't heard that expression before though, care to explain? ;)
     
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    It means someone who you might mistake for being innocent and pure but who is to the trained eye clearly putting it on and is really a total slut. :wink:
     
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    Ouii my booty just ached reading the posts, lol
     
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    Oh and I should probably add I really like my bottoms to be loud and verbal. I love guys who moan and squeal and talk.

    I find silence or inability to communicate during sex a turnoff.
     
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    Same thing every other bottom want in them. duh.
     
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    You wrote my post for me. The only things I'll add are trust and creativity. There are times when breaking a plateau requires upping the ante, and when upping the ante comes from the nasty, creative mind of a good submissive, it'll push me over the edge.

    The last thing I want is a passive pillow-biter or a bossy alpha who needs to prove it in bed: two extremes of an extremely unattractive coin.
     
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    Oh yes, defintely trust and creativity, big plusses. So is a sense of fun, I hate people who take themselves too seriously, and it's not hot in bed, real sex isn't porn and people don't look hot trying to ape the manners of on-screen sex of any kind.


    Kissing is a big one for me too, some guys just aren't that great at it, and I get a lot of my passion for a guy from kissing him to start with, if that's not working then I kinda know the sex will be so so.

    Chemistry, chemistry, chemistry.
     
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    Oh, hihi.. :rolleyes: :tounge-in-cheek:
     
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    WTF is up with lousy kissers? Honestly, it was an isolated and occasional annoyance up until a few years ago, now it's practically epidemic :rolleyes:

    A playful attitude doesn't seem like too much to ask for, either, but if you don't qualify it prior to playtime, you're liable to end up with a diva or some other hallucinatory bitch.

    I love it when they talk (especially in Spanish, but you know me) and love it when they scream (in pleasure) most of the time, but I remember one time while still in my 20s I picked up this really cute cub-type in a bar who introduced himself as "Mike", but once we started playing, he started referring to himself as "Mikie", telling me how much "Mikie likes" whatever I happened to be doing to him. After about 45 minutes of this constant third-person referencing (yes, constant, complete with a creepy boyish voice he assumed), I got up, took a piss and grabbed my pants: See ya, Mikie!
     
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    Third person self referencing is always weird. You're right all of this is conditional upon the guy being relatively sane and rational.
     
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    Sodo you guys like a bttm that tells you what positions do it for him or would you rather control that? For me I prefer missionary with my legs wrapped around my tops ass pulling him into me.
     
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    Communication is key, much like chemistry. If the bottom is uncomfortable or wants to switch positions, then tell me and we'll do it. But some positions just work better for me than others; like you, I prefer face-to-face.

    It's a question of context how the interplay gets negotiated. Sometimes I'm a totally take-charge Dom top, other times I'm more inclined toward something more democratic and collaborative, but I have no desire to be dominated, myself. Part of consenting to have sex with me provides that I'm the driver, the bottom's the passenger. He can suggest turns and directions, but ultimately I see it as my job to get us where we both want to go.
     
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    Nailed it! That's exactly what I would have said. :wink:
     
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