What does BAD sex feel like?

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Runco, if you want to write about your own experiences, go ahead. I think you missed what I wrote about "faking it." You shouldn't fake anything. You can't fake love. At least I can't.

Sometimes it is impossible to 'compensate' for a partner's weaknesses in bed. It doesn't matter how good a lover you are. It just seems to me that what you are saying is ANY sex - regardless of quality - is good. What is not clear is why you think this. To me bad sex IS like eating a chewy, badly cooked boot dressed up as steak. I don't agree that this is 'good' in any way and I am not alone in thinking that way.
 

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Anything where I take someone's virginity is bad sex just because of my huge guilt complex.

It is bad sex when I've already explained that I want to be fucked and instead I am being made love to. I promise I'll fuck back. Really. That's what I like.

However, the worst sex I ever had... Well, this is an interesting story. So I have a seriously crazy ex. I was very much in love with her at the time, and she was very much in love with me, we were very much in love, etc. You get the idea. We fucked like rabbits. Any time, all the time. And we were very kinky. We definitely had a set power scale in bed. I was dominant, she was submissive.

One night, we were house sitting a friend of mine's place, just chilling with a couple of friends, knocking back some wine.

Don't believe different alcohols give you different buzzes? Believe this: Of all the many times I've seen her inebriated, white wine is the only time I've ever seen her go split personality on me.

She kept trying to slit her wrists, telling me that she would only disappoint me, as she had disappointed so many others, and that she was no good, and that was why her mother had given her up at birth. (She did, in the end, disappoint me. And if she ever gets drunk on white wine around me again, I'm telling her so and leaving someone else to deal with the mess -that- makes.) No matter how many times I got the knife away from her, she kept going for it again. I started throwing her around-- very seriously. I am not a small girl, and neither am I weak. I threw her up against a wall, and probably gave her a mild concussion, because I couldn't hold her down long enough for her to pass out. She was fighting me too much.

Finally, I got the knife in the sink and her on the floor, with my knee firmly in her gut. I bruised her insides really badly somehow; it took her months to recover from that. She probably should have gone to a doctor.

She was still fighting for the knife.

I am an excellent actress, and I always have been. I also think well on the fly. I started explaining to her that I was in charge of her, and she was not. Furthermore, I explained to her that she could not kill herself because I had not given her permission to do so. When I was done using her, she could go ahead and do that. She asked me how she could believe me, when I said I owned her. I held her down, and what I did, I still believe to this day, was more or less equivalent to rape.

No, I don't have penis. Same-sex rape -can- happen. I know, I was there.

Then, when she thoroughly understood that I meant everything I said, I put her to bed and told her if she fucking moved again, I'd find something to tie her down with.

She passed out. I threw up and cried at least four times, ate breakfast, threw up again, went into mild shock on the couch.

She doesn't remember any of this.

The end of this story: The things you do for love.
 

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So we've got a "creep" who thinks that women who don't orgasm are inherently bad sex partners, a rapist who tried to save someone via rape, and a few staunch defenders of opposing viewpoints. I think I learned a lot, including it's okay to rape drunk women if they are being stupid. > >;

Unfortunately there's no objective answer to my question. :/
 

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All I have to say is, one man's heaven is another man's hell.

Had a woman some time ago who thought she was God's gift to man. Long story short, she was awful, just awful! She was a wet, wet kisser, a dead fish and boring as hell. She told me that her pussy was so good that she didn't have to move. At that point, I got up, put my clothes on and left. She was my hell-fuck.
 

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So we've got a "creep" who thinks that women who don't orgasm are inherently bad sex partners, a rapist who tried to save someone via rape, and a few staunch defenders of opposing viewpoints. I think I learned a lot, including it's okay to rape drunk women if they are being stupid. > >;

Unfortunately there's no objective answer to my question. :/

Hear, hear!!!!

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To me, bad sex feels like emptiness. For example, you do a whole "song and dance" for the other person, indulge their fantasies, and spend hours in "their little world" with them.

And then, nothing. Nada. Zip.

So it's the emptiness and... after a while, the loneliness that comes from realizing that while there might be TWO people in bed, only one person is "having sex"
 

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In my defense, I was also inebriated, and couldn't think of anything else. Otherwise I may have found a less... several words come to mind here, but I think I'm going to go with extreme... response.

I really wish I had.
 

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Hear, hear!!!! To me, bad sex feels like emptiness. For example, you do a whole "song and dance" for the other person, indulge their fantasies, and spend hours in "their little world" with them. And then, nothing. Nada. Zip.
So it's the emptiness and... after a while, the loneliness that comes from realizing that while there might be TWO people in bed, only one person is "having sex".
:frown1: You've had that happen too?!? What's up with the selfish male lovers? :confused:
All I have to say is, one man's heaven is another man's hell.
Had a woman some time ago who thought she was God's gift to man. Long story short, she was awful, just awful! She was a wet, wet kisser, a dead fish and boring as hell. She told me that her pussy was so good that she didn't have to move. At that point, I got up, put my clothes on and left. She was my hell-fuck.
I have never understood women who don't move during sex, it's just such a bizarre concept. How can you not move at all? :confused: The flip side of this is the man who has to be on the bottom so he doesn't have to do anything but lie back with his hands behind his head.:mad: :12:

Bad sex leaves you with these age-old phrases:
"Jeez, uh...I gotta go."

"That's it?"

"Holy fuck, are sure you got tested?"

"Don't tell anyone we did this."
I once had sex so bad I fell asleep during it and he either didn't notice or didn't care. :mad: :eek: I finally said, aren't you done yet? I have to get up early tomorrow.

Bad sex =
  • college sex. Lots of stamina and energy and ZERO technique. Rough as hell, painful and lacking finesse (i.e. tongues roughly thrust in ears and the like) <shudders>
    If only this kind of sex stopped when one graduated college. I've had men in their 40's and 50's fuck like this and swear they were tearing up my pussy. :rolleyes:
  • same old same old sex. Same moves every night. Boring as hell. He cums and rolls over. She thinks 'thank GOD!'
    If that happens once I may think he has an off night. Tired, stressed, work whatever. :dunno: I'll might give him another chance if he's otherwise a good person. But twice and that's the ballgame he's history. Life is too short to have bad sex.
  • porno movie sex. Your man watches a porn movie and then wants to bring those moves into bed - EXACTLY those moves.
    Been there, done that, not going back . . . EVER!
I am sure there are more but I am too hot and tired to think of them! (We are having a heatwave here).
What constitutes a heatwave in London? 80 degrees fahrenheit? :lmao: :tongue:
 

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Actually, I've heard all about what good sex feels like, but I've never heard how a region with so many nerves and whatnot reacts when the sex is bad. Assuming everything is legal and there's no violation how does bad sex feel? Does it feel good anyway?


I hesitated sharing because I am not sure if my thoughts are what the op is looking for. But here goes.....


I have only had what I consider "bad sex" a couple of times in my lifetime.....And that is where a partner uses the wrong kind of lube down there. (like oil based instead of water based) I must be really sensitive.....because......after that it is like a chemical sunburn.....irritating and abrasive. When the ph gets messed up down there......the woman might not even know what has happened until it is too late.......but the sex definately doesn't feel as good as when the ph is where it is supposed to be. I am more concentrating on the irritation instead of the pleasure.

Then the bad side is that the next day the pussy is out of commission......sex is so uncomfortable..... feels like a razor blade.....and a trip to the dr. may have to be made.
 

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:frown1: You've had that happen too?!? What's up with the selfish male lovers? :confused:

Good question, but I don't know if it's because they're selfish. I think it's a form of blindness. They just don't SEE.

They WANT to please, or say they want to please, but the only thing they know is their world, their routines.

Maybe if you're really good at going into their world, they end up thinking that it's your world too.
 

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In my defense, I was also inebriated, and couldn't think of anything else. Otherwise I may have found a less... several words come to mind here, but I think I'm going to go with extreme... response.

I really wish I had.



Take it easy on yourself. If I had to choose between being "raped" by my partner or killing myself while I was drunk, I'd choose the option that kept me alive.

You did what you had to do and she's not dead because of it. Don't feel bad about it.
 

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I once had sex so bad I fell asleep during it and he either didn't notice or didn't care. :mad: :eek: I finally said, aren't you done yet? I have to get up early tomorrow.

Now THAT is some hysterical shit!

What constitutes a heatwave in London? 80 degrees fahrenheit? :lmao: :tongue:

Please! People here throw off their clothes at the slightest bit of sun and so far we have not had much of a summer. But we are having some real heat at the moment, even if I do say so myself! Yesterday it was 96 and humid as hell - awful in central London with all that concrete.
 

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Take it easy on yourself. If I had to choose between being "raped" by my partner or killing myself while I was drunk, I'd choose the option that kept me alive.

You did what you had to do and she's not dead because of it. Don't feel bad about it.

The only difficulty I have in understanding this is the fact that it's somewhat backwards. Usually people say "Rape is never right" but in this case is it being considered not only correct but being praised?

I guess it goes to show it's always motive that matters.
 

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:frown1: You've had that happen too?!? What's up with the selfish male lovers? :confused:
I have never understood women who don't move during sex, it's just such a bizarre concept. How can you not move at all? :confused: The flip side of this is the man who has to be on the bottom so he doesn't have to do anything but lie back with his hands behind his head.:mad: :12:


I once had sex so bad I fell asleep during it and he either didn't notice or didn't care. :mad: :eek: I finally said, aren't you done yet? I have to get up early tomorrow.

What constitutes a heatwave in London? 80 degrees fahrenheit? :lmao: :tongue:

What, you fell asleep! I heard it all. I'm just glad I'm not like that. At least the women in my life called me back for more - that says something.