What Does Being Popular With Women Say About You?

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Do you think that it says anything about you if you're popular with women?

For example does being popular with women, mean that you're a better person than someone who isn't? How about more handsome or more successful? Does it show that you treat women better than other men? Does it not say anything about you all beyond just being popular with women?

What do you guys think?
 

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I know a couple of guys that are very popular with women, aka players, and this is my take on it. They both use women to their own advantage, they lie, lead them on, play with them, etc. However, the women eat it up despite how obvious their true intentions are. Both of these guys are above average but not like something out of a vogue magazine, it's their aura that women are attracted to.

I know guys of around the same degree of attractiveness that have a hard time with women because they don't operate on this same level. Being a nice guy who is stable and has good intentions is not as alluring because it isn't exciting and does not provide the same thrills to women as these "bad boys". These women want to "fix" or lock down the bad boys, where as with the more well intended man she doesn't really have to do any of that.

With all that said, this really says more about these women than these men. The "bad boys" have just learned how to play the game in order to bed women, as this is ultimately their goal. However, with the "nice guys" their goal is to find a potential partner and settle into a relationship, so their energy and game is very different, as it isn't focused on bedding as many women as possible.

A lot of this is also contextual, some men are simply in situations where meeting women readily is a normal occurrence for them. However, with other guys they may have so many other things going on that they are hardly ever in any situations to meet women, maybe to do with career, school, etc.
 

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Do you think that it says anything about you if you're popular with women?

For example does being popular with women, mean that you're a better person than someone who isn't? How about more handsome or more successful? Does it show that you treat women better than other men? Does it not say anything about you all beyond just being popular with women?

What do you guys think?
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Do you think that it says anything about you if you're popular with women?

For example does being popular with women, mean that you're a better person than someone who isn't? How about more handsome or more successful? Does it show that you treat women better than other men? Does it not say anything about you all beyond just being popular with women?

What do you guys think?

Being popular with women sounds so vague. It all depends on what kind of fish you are trying to catch as to what net you want to use. I love smart men. I dont care if he has less hair than my 78 year old dad. As long as he is intelligent and interesting and I have chemistry with him. If I were looking for a jock. I'd just overly tan my body and destroy my hair with bleach and be what I call a basic bitch. But I'm not interested in brawn or a man who is overly confident to the point of being annoying. I want him to talk nerdy to me.
 

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Being popular with women sounds so vague. It all depends on what kind of fish you are trying to catch as to what net you want to use. I love smart men. I dont care if he has less hair than my 78 year old dad. As long as he is intelligent and interesting and I have chemistry with him. If I were looking for a jock. I'd just overly tan my body and destroy my hair with bleach and be what I call a basic bitch. But I'm not interested in brawn or a man who is overly confident to the point of being annoying. I want him to talk nerdy to me.

Let's be honest, there are definitely winners and losers in the dating game. Some people are able to get dates and relationships easily while others are not. I just want to know what you think that says about someone, if anything.
 

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There isn't just some huge dating game with only two types of dudes. Those who are successful with women and those who arent. Not all men are going to go for the same type of woman. Not all.women are going for the same type of man.
 

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There isn't just some huge dating game with only two types of dudes. Those who are successful with women and those who arent. Not all men are going to go for the same type of woman. Not all.women are going for the same type of man.

I never said that there were only two types of dudes. I think there is some variety in the types of men that women find attractive. Never denied it.

Do you disagree with the idea that some men are more successful and popular with women than others? Do you think everyone is equally as successful in the dating game?
 
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Some guys are jocks and if they are good looking and or have a nice body then they are likely to he successful with chicks who place a huge emphasis on physical appearance. Chances are this kind of guy is just looking at chicks to find a 10 to fuck.

Some guys hang out at the pub. They are smart about the way they talk to women. They are successful with the women at the pub. Even if they arent successful with the chicks the jock wants.

Some dudes hang out at yoga with a man bun. For women who.dig that type, who is often pretty sensitive to the female needs. He is successful with those women. The gals at the festivals love them.

Men who dress up in country clothing and go to all the country dance clubs, they have pressed shirts and Jean's and their finest Sunday cowboy boots on. They put on aftershave and chew gum so they are pleasant to dance with. Those men are successful at the country dance clubs.

Men who like to ride Harley's, if they are good with women will be attractive to the women who want to ride on the back of his harley.

Get it yet sport?
 

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Some guys are jocks and if they are good looking and or have a nice body then they are likely to he successful with chicks who place a huge emphasis on physical appearance. Chances are this kind of guy is just looking at chicks to find a 10 to fuck.

Some guys hang out at the pub. They are smart about the way they talk to women. They are successful with the women at the pub. Even if they arent successful with the chicks the jock wants.

Some dudes hang out at yoga with a man bun. For women who.dig that type, who is often pretty sensitive to the female needs. He is successful with those women. The gals at the festivals love them.

Men who dress up in country clothing and go to all the country dance clubs, they have pressed shirts and Jean's and their finest Sunday cowboy boots on. They put on aftershave and chew gum so they are pleasant to dance with. Those men are successful at the country dance clubs.

Men who like to ride Harley's, if they are good with women will be attractive to the women who want to ride on the back of his harley.

Get it yet sport?

Once again, I never said that there was no variety in the types of guys that are popular with women. I also never said that one type of guy could get every woman. I only said that there are some men that are popular with women and some that are not.
 

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There are *some* men who are popular with *some* women. Like Brad Pitt would get a great majority of women to have sex with him. But he is not my type. So even Brad Pitt would fail to get me to have sex. Adrian Brody....hell yeah gimme gimme gimme.
 

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I know a couple of guys that are very popular with women, aka players, and this is my take on it. They both use women to their own advantage, they lie, lead them on, play with them, etc. However, the women eat it up despite how obvious their true intentions are. Both of these guys are above average but not like something out of a vogue magazine, it's their aura that women are attracted to.

I know guys of around the same degree of attractiveness that have a hard time with women because they don't operate on this same level. Being a nice guy who is stable and has good intentions is not as alluring because it isn't exciting and does not provide the same thrills to women as these "bad boys". These women want to "fix" or lock down the bad boys, where as with the more well intended man she doesn't really have to do any of that.

With all that said, this really says more about these women than these men. The "bad boys" have just learned how to play the game in order to bed women, as this is ultimately their goal. However, with the "nice guys" their goal is to find a potential partner and settle into a relationship, so their energy and game is very different, as it isn't focused on bedding as many women as possible.

A lot of this is also contextual, some men are simply in situations where meeting women readily is a normal occurrence for them. However, with other guys they may have so many other things going on that they are hardly ever in any situations to meet women, maybe to do with career, school, etc.

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Hey genius, let's have another hoe down shall we?

Not all good looking men are successful.
Not all women want bad boys.
Not all nice guys want to settle down.
Nice guys get pussy all the time.
A smart, confident woman will turn down a man with bad qualities regardless of his looks or niceness.

Listen I feel genuinely bad that you can't grasp you arent a bad boy nor a.nice guy. You come off asinine. People who are merely book smart miss so much eccentricities of psychology and human behavior if they can't comprehend empathy and human emotion.

Those men struggle. Just as you do. You are their captain. Captain of the losers. Roll up your college diploma and fuck it. It is all you'll ever get.
 
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There are *some* men who are popular with *some* women. Like Brad Pitt would get a great majority of women to have sex with him. But he is not my type. So even Brad Pitt would fail to get me to have sex. Adrian Brody....hell yeah gimme gimme gimme.

Once again, I never said that there was one type of man who was popular with all women. I fully admit that there is variety within the types of men women find attractive.

What I want to know is if being popular with women says something interesting about that person. A lot of men use their ability to get women as a kind of status symbol with other men. I also have found that women tend to shame men who are unsuccessful with women. Does that mean success with women says something greater about that men? That's all I'm asking.
 

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Once again, I never said that there was one type of man who was popular with all women. I fully admit that there is variety within the types of men women find attractive.

What I want to know is if being popular with women says something interesting about that person. A lot of men use their ability to get women as a kind of status symbol with other men. I also have found that women tend to shame men who are unsuccessful with women. Does that mean success with women says something greater about that men? That's all I'm asking.

"...women tend to shame men who are unsuccessful with women."
How so?
 
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Just because a man is getting a bunch of female attention means nothing. Women will talk and smile through a conversation with a guy and think what an ass hat. All.these other women are idiots.

What if that guy has an STD or has a lot of debt and isn't good with money? I really dont go for popular with women types. If they are basic dudes they can go on and find a basic bitch.
 

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"...women tend to shame men who are unsuccessful with women."
How so?

We shame stupid guys. Not those with genuine social anxiety or nervousness talking to women. We can tell the difference.
 

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Do you think that it says anything about you if you're popular with women?

It says that you are popular with women. Yes, that's a tautology, but sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.


For example does being popular with women, mean that you're a better person than someone who isn't?

It means you're better at being popular with women. Some women. Men who are good fishermen know where to cast their line, when, and when to cut bait. Does being a good fisherman mean that you're a better person? Does being a good *anything* mean that you're a better person?

How about more handsome or more successful?
What about more handsome or more successful? What about it?

Does it show that you treat women better than other men?
No. Yes. Convincing a woman to be with you at some level means that you meet a need or desire that this woman has at that time. The more time that passes from the initial relationship, the more likely the man is treatingbetter than other men. And the more time that passes the more likely he isn't. If this sounds contradictory, it is. Because some women stay regardless of how they are treated. That may be what they want. Or it may be because they are literally trapped.

Also, if a guy is "popular" there isn't some inference that he is going from one woman to another. What about the guy who struck gold after only dating a few women, and stayed with her? Is he less "popular" because he's taken himself off-market? A guy who is "popular" would be called a slut if he was a woman. Or he could be labeled "unable to commit" because he gets plenty of women....because he jumps from one to another.


Does it not say anything about you all beyond just being popular with women?
It does not.

What do you guys think?

I think you asked a lot of questions without offering your opinion. That's acceptable if you're doing a sociology study for your Master's in Psych. Here you really should present an opinion along with asking for others.

I also think this question is appropriate for a college dude. As we get older, it's far more appropriate ask oneself how to be more useful, attractive, and desirable for a long-term relationship. I am not the least bit concerned with being popular with women. I am incredibly concerned with being popular to one woman.
 
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It says that you are popular with women. Yes, that's a tautology, but sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.




It means you're better at being popular with women. Some women. Men who are good fishermen know where to cast their line, when, and when to cut bait. Does being a good fisherman mean that you're a better person? Does being a good *anything* mean that you're a better person?

. What about more handsome or more successful?

No. Yes. Convincing a woman to be with you at some level means that you meet a need or desire that this woman has at that time. The more time that passes from the initial relationship, the more likely the man is treatingbetter than other men. And the more time that passes the more likely he isn't. If this sounds contradictory, it is. Because some women stay regardless of how they are treated. That may be what they want. Or it may be because they are literally trapped.

Also, if a guy is "popular" there isn't some inference that he is going from one woman to another. What about the guy who struck gold after only dating a few women, and stayed with her? Is he less "popular" because he's taken himself off-market? A guy who is "popular" would be called a slut if he was a woman. Or he could be labeled "unable to commit" because he gets plenty of women....because he jumps from one to another.


It does not.



I think you asked a lot of questions without offering your opinion. That's acceptable if you're doing a sociology study for your Master's in Psych. Here you really should present an opinion along with asking for others.

No, I think I can just ask the question.
 

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Do you think that it says anything about you if you're popular with women?

For example does being popular with women, mean that you're a better person than someone who isn't? How about more handsome or more successful? Does it show that you treat women better than other men? Does it not say anything about you all beyond just being popular with women?

What do you guys think?


To me being popular with women usually means that 1. Your handsome 2. Have a good personality 3. Fun to be with 4. You could be successful but not necessarily 5. Also, you could be sporting a big cock, but not necessarily