I think that all these loves are possible but at different times in your life. I don't think one is better than the other. They all unfold as you learn more about yourself and the other person. I don't think we are made to deeply love only one person. I think we can love as deeply as we and the other person allow. It's all a matter of how open we can be in our lives. Most people don't allow themselves the opportunity to do this because society tells them that they can only have "one love", that is, married love. There are as many opportunities as we give ourselves.
What does love feel like?
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I think that all these loves are possible but at different times in your life. I don't think one is better than the other. They all unfold as you learn more about yourself and the other person. I don't think we are made to deeply love only one person. I think we can love as deeply as we and the other person allow. It's all a matter of how open we can be in our lives. Most people don't allow themselves the opportunity to do this because society tells them that they can only have "one love", that is, married love. There are as many opportunities as we give ourselves.
It's that moment when you know that if that person walked away, you would feel incomplete, as though a part of you had been ripped from your chest. It's knowing that you want to live for that other person. They become your life. Love is beautiful.
love is the most amazingly powerful intense feeling in the world. i know you will find it some day. believe me, i found it when i wasn't even expecting it.
The most enlightening thing for me was to once love two women at the same time in different relationships, and realise that I had room in my heart for the both of them. It wasn't either / or, it was additive, and the love I felt for my first was just as strong as always, even though I loved another as well.
The not surprising thing was both women were very similar to one another, personality wise, although one was much more naturally sensual.
The not surprising thing was both women were very similar to one another, personality wise, although one was much more naturally sensual.
One really needs a few words to explain one's take on all this.
Some are quite content to be guided by the animal urges we all have. That's lust. In our society we are taught to think that that is best confined to fantasy, solo sessions, and the like. Our society communicates that this natural urge needs to be directed in more wholesome activity of the kind that society approves. So we have the dating scene; and society, by and large, wants that directed toward the opposite sex.
But when we talk about love we ought to get serious. I like the suggestion that one who loves another is willing to seek the good of the other for the sake of the other rather than one's own. When two persons have so bonded to each other that they want and need to express their affection they often find that sexual activity is wanted and needed by both. And the sex has the wonderful capacity to confirm the bond of love that has already come to be between two persons. The sex transforms and strengthens the bond of love.
The love of self is also very natural: just remember the joy and thrill of discovering how with hand and cock brought into contact one can do oneself a great favor!!! Right?
But, we all learn that bringing in another person can make the thrill different but still pleasing. When guys say they are so horny they could fuck anyone, their aim is to "get laid" and that means to "get off", a nice change from just "getting oneself off" even when the other person is often simply the means. There's often no love in it. It's often excused as being "just sex" with no strings attached.
In love there are always strings attached. Binding oneself to another one discovers that there is also the gain of having the other bind him/ner self to oneself. That for me is the gold standard in love.
Some are quite content to be guided by the animal urges we all have. That's lust. In our society we are taught to think that that is best confined to fantasy, solo sessions, and the like. Our society communicates that this natural urge needs to be directed in more wholesome activity of the kind that society approves. So we have the dating scene; and society, by and large, wants that directed toward the opposite sex.
But when we talk about love we ought to get serious. I like the suggestion that one who loves another is willing to seek the good of the other for the sake of the other rather than one's own. When two persons have so bonded to each other that they want and need to express their affection they often find that sexual activity is wanted and needed by both. And the sex has the wonderful capacity to confirm the bond of love that has already come to be between two persons. The sex transforms and strengthens the bond of love.
The love of self is also very natural: just remember the joy and thrill of discovering how with hand and cock brought into contact one can do oneself a great favor!!! Right?
But, we all learn that bringing in another person can make the thrill different but still pleasing. When guys say they are so horny they could fuck anyone, their aim is to "get laid" and that means to "get off", a nice change from just "getting oneself off" even when the other person is often simply the means. There's often no love in it. It's often excused as being "just sex" with no strings attached.
In love there are always strings attached. Binding oneself to another one discovers that there is also the gain of having the other bind him/ner self to oneself. That for me is the gold standard in love.
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