I ask this question, because personally, I'm sexually bisexual, but I identify myself as a gay male because I don't date women. And if I sleep with a woman, I prefer for their to be a cock involved in the mix of things, not just my own. That and it's easier to keep my mom quiet when she asks for grand kids. Also, on this site, you find a lot of straight men who jerk off with other guys, or to other guys, or fuck other guys, or suck guys, and it all gets confusing. People scream that they hate labels, and yet we still label ourselves. Labels sorta have to exist, otherwise, we'd all be hitting on one another, having awkward situations "No, sir, I'm into chicks" or "Back up, sweetheart, I like dick!" And when it comes to the labels, and straight men asking if messing with other guys make them gay or bi, you typically have other straight men who do these things going "No dude, it doesn't make it gay!" But you also have gay and bi men saying "Nah! Man, you're not gay- want me to blow you?" There are a lot of straight men on this site who get more dick than most women, and quite a few gay men who are getting just as much pussy as most straight men. Is there a fear of being identified as being gay? or bi? So I ask you- "what is exactly is gay, straight, and bi?"