We need to stop using the labels gay and straight to define sexuality.
Why not the older and more correct terms of homosexual and heterosexual.
Gay and straight are CULTURES now. Activities, actions, philosophies, etc.
Gay men tend to do X, Y, and Z things more than straight men... when it comes to music, food, entertainment, hygiene, etc. Sure, there are exceptions and there's a range, but gay and straight are really cultures in our modern world. That's why there are self-defining straight men who are more into guys than into women, sexually, and why there are gay men who are more into women than guys sexually.
Man 1 could be 90% heterosexual / 10% homosexual, and 60% straight / 40% gay.
Sounds reductionist, but it's an easy way to look at things. The numbers are the relative amount of time/energy he has spent / is spending / will spend finding or doing each thing. 90% of the time he fantasizes about women, and 10% of the time he fantasizes about men, say. And 100% of the time, maybe, he messes around with women, but still finds men attractive on one level. Man B could be 50% hetero / 50% homo and 90% straight / 10% gay. He is equally attracted--sexually here, not just
physical/affectionate... there's a difference---to both men and women. He loves dick and pussy. But, his culture--the way he lives--is much more straight than gay. He's never watched Will and Grace and has never sewed curtains and doesn't own a candle, etc. Ok, lame stereotypes, but you get where I'm going. ***The confusion in all of this is that people are on MORE than just ONE one-dimensional spectrum here.*** People are more complex than that; if you make a spectrum of desires and abilities, there are more than one. Humans are 2D, 3D, 4D in that way. We need to
start using 'gay' and 'straight' like anthropologists and sociologists do... they are cultures, not sexualities. Heterosexual and homosexual, by definition, are sexualities.
I'm 90/10 or 80/20 hetero/homo and prob. 80/20 or 70/30 straight/gay. Those are my sexuality and culture ratios... how much time/energy I spend on the wanting, doing, finding, being. Now, I am on a 2D square of space, instead of just trying to fit on one line... which doesn't work and is why this debate/discussion exists in the first place.
