what gives women orgasm .

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  1. african

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    Iwana ask women what exactly gives you orgasm while acting sexal intercourse big cock without love or small cock with love.

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  2. Shelby

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    Only another woman can give a woman an orgasm. That's why there are so many lesbians.
     
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    Neither love nor cock size is ever going to interfere with my orgasms.

    I'm glad the other thread did not scare you off, african
     
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    That's a sweet question really.

    Guess you're asking if emotion is
    involved in experiencing orgasm
    during intercourse?

    Both can give you an orgasm if
    you are in tune with your body
    because sex starts in the brain.

    Ideally, a big cock with love
    would give one the best Os!:tongue:
     
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    Well, it really depends. For some women who only have purely clit orgasms, a guy's cock size might not even matter. For me, a large penis, particularly a thick one, does make it easier for me to orgasm and can also add to the intensity of my orgasms. There are different kinds of orgasms too. A guy with a small cock who really knows how to work my G-spot can do just fine, but the easiest way for me to cum is through indirect clit stimulation via my labia, and for that I really need a guy with decent girth. Oh, and yes, love can make a difference too, although admittedly I'm a bit cynical on that matter at the moment :mad: .
     
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    You are so right, Wind! Arousal begins in the brain. It is for exactly that reason that size is so minimally important to orgasm, other than for those for whom it is a mental stimulant, and those who are not built to accomodate certain sizes and don't know how to make up for that. I think that women who are really in tune with their bodies, (what was that movie where they were all looking at their vaginas in the miror?) and open to exploration can find imense pleasure with penises of quite varied sizes, and emotional bonds of quite varied strengths. If, I had two choices, and two only, and they were A:ideal size B:love, I'd choose love. The choices here are small with love, or large without it. I can't choose from those, because for me, it does not seem like apples and apples. It's apples and oranges. I'd have so many questions of my own. Like, which one of them is is a better kisser? Which one of them gets more pleasure from eating women out, in general? Which one of them will be more responsive to my touch? Which one of them is more repressed? Which one of them will get harder, and stay harder longer? But just the two choices given? A small cock with love, a large cock without? Unless one automatically assumes that (for example) small=less satisfying sex, love=more satisfying sex, large=more satisfying sex, and without love=less satisfying sex, then this is not an answerable question. At least, there can be no blanket answer. Like most of these overgeneralized questions, if you ask 100 women, you will get 100 answers. Windy and I, for instance, do not agree. She believes the example I laid out above, and she has every right to believe it. I believe that to be not neccesarily true, and that doesn't make either of us wrong. When you come to Windy's bed, be packing, and show her some love! When you come to mine, just show me some respect, and leave your inhibitions somewhere else.
     
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    do you think then that intimacy and love is very important. do you think that foreplay is important or is it just that a lover can be a turn on any time. the reason i'm asking is because women feel different to men.
     
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    90% of sex is pscyhological
     
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    What do you mean by mental stimulation do you mean to emagine porn stars fucking a woman ? please answer my question .



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    I never said anything about pors stars. I meant YOU meantally stimulating HER. She likes the look of YOU. She likes the things YOU say. YOU. Not porn stars.
     
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    Speak for yourself, Piley boy, not all of us...

    If you can enjoy sex as much without love as with, one must question whether you truly have loved anyone. My love may not have always been reciprocated in the manner I would have wished, but for me and my partners, the emotional bond has greatly improved the sexual experience.

    My lady loves me not because of what I'm packing, but for the honest and decent man she believes I am, and I hope to be. A sizeable offering certainly provides something extra for her to enjoy, but it's garnish on an already delicious plate.
     
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    My recipe for great sex

    1. take some Love
    2. add large quantities of passionate desire
    3. mix with technical skill and a need to satisfy and be satisfied completely
    4. season well with compatability
     
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    Add 3 egss, beat well, hot oven for 40 mins...


    Teasing...that is lovely, Pendragon! :smile:
     
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    Not sure about being beaten well over a hot oven ????????
     
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    LMAO...noooo...you're supposed
    to put it in the oven, Pen! :biggrin1:
     
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    That's my two plums and a cucumber recipe!
     
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    I think by mental stimulation she means if you have a mental connection with someone the sex is better. I've had sex with women I wasn't in love with and I've even had casual sex. There's something really hot about lusty coitus with a sexy woman just for the animal pleasure. But then again if you're in love with the person, sex is really satisfying in a deeper way.
     
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    The last thing that'd turn me on would be fucking a damn pornstar, they look just too "dopey" to be attractive for me. Well, maybe they're different off-set, but I'm not sure about that, so I'll just keep that in the background of my mind. My point is that mental stimulation simply defines the contrary to physical stimulation, like caresses, kisses, FUCKING etc. Mental stimulation means to me things like getting this vibe that the man you're having sex with likes it, likes doing it with you, has positive feelings, and ultimately has the same attitude towards sex that I've fostered. It can also mean other things that stimulate you, while it's not necessarily sexual: The sounds of sex, the bed squeaks, the sheets rustle etc, things that you might find turning you on, whereas others don't share that. Certainly it's not the idea of a dopey porn guy rolling eyes and doing funny stunts on you.
     
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    Thinking about pornstars while having sex? God no. When I think of mental stimulation I think of knowing the guy is on the same page as me. Two people really into the same act, both feeling the same excitement and intensity. Of course if you're in love then that's a bond you have with the other person. But in any sex act it's fun to know you're both feeling the same kind of heat and enjoying each other.
    Another, perhaps more purely lustful thing I think of as mental stimulation is anticipating pleasure. Like if I'm having sex with a guy and he's already shown he knows how to get me off, I love if he gazes me right in the eyes and tells me something about how hard he's gonna make me cum or something of the sort. It gets me pretty hot to know that intense pleasure is on the way! :biggrin1: But even that situation is still all about being on the same page as your partner.
     
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