First, as a disclaimer, I want to say that I am far from being innocent in spewing forth anger on this site. In fact, it's one of the things in all of my life that I don't like feeling, and like less acting upon in a destructive manner-- but it's something that I've yet to solve in my own psyche. When I get angry I feel a need to act, especially when I feel people are being deceitful or duplicitious. I don't like my attitude on here sometimes, and I admit to being part of the problem. There is a part of me that likes to get down and scrap, but there's a bigger part of me that will listen to reason.
With that said, and I am going to pick on you here, Osiris, but not because I don't like and respect your presence here. I just want to say what I've been pondering about when reading this thread, and thought I'd just go ahead with it.
On one hand, you sincerely want the level of discourse here to improve and be kinder, and yet on the other hand you spend a lot of time defending a member who has shown himself to be little more than rude, disruptive, and a troll. Though I've laughed at some of his posts for the humor, I have yet to see him post anything of substance except for your appreciation thread. I see this as being somewhat hypocritical, though I think there's more to it than that-- behind the scenes you've attempted to truly get to know him.
If you want LPSG to be a nicer place, I think you'd be the perfect person to be able to very kindly and constructively call people out on their behavior. In my case, if someone thinks I'm being overbearing and mean, I invite them to PM me in a somewhat polite manner and I'll respond. I need that sometimes, as do all of us. I'm not afraid to be wrong, and I'm not averse to criticism as long as it's somewhat constructive. As for my point in general, I'm just asking you that instead of making a thread that may or may not help, start addressing the problems as they occur if you really want to try to change them. From the bottom of my heart I think that you (and other members) are capable of doing such and could make a very positive change in the direction that you like.
On the other hand, there's always going to be debate and hot feelings, and I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing if the participants can remain somewhat civil. I see emotion and passion to be vital parts of life, so I think we need to accept some level of negative emotion to, hopefully, bring about greater understanding in general. I've been following the current racism thread and have found the contributions of you, njqt, playainda, naughty, and others to be informative and eye-opening for me, even though they were written in a rather angry thread and directed at people who will probably never understand your point. However, those of us on the sidelines can get a lot out of a thread like that.
If it's one specific person you have in mind that gets bad treatment by regular members (not by random trolls) it may just be that this person truly rubs people the wrong way, and there's not a lot to be done about that. I'm that kind of a person myself, and sometimes you just have to learn to live with it even when your most sincere efforts are made at being honest and true.