First, as a disclaimer, I want to say that I am far from being innocent in spewing forth anger on this site. In fact, it's one of the things in all of my life that I don't like feeling, and like less acting upon in a destructive manner-- but it's something that I've yet to solve in my own psyche. When I get angry I feel a need to act, especially when I feel people are being deceitful or duplicitious. I don't like my attitude on here sometimes, and I admit to being part of the problem. There is a part of me that likes to get down and scrap, but there's a bigger part of me that will listen to reason.
You are too hard on yourself. I don't think this at all about you.
On one hand, you sincerely want the level of discourse here to improve and be kinder, and yet on the other hand you spend a lot of time defending a member who has shown himself to be little more than rude, disruptive, and a troll. Though I've laughed at some of his posts for the humor, I have yet to see him post anything of substance except for your appreciation thread. I see this as being somewhat hypocritical, though I think there's more to it than that-- behind the scenes you've attempted to truly get to know him.
You just answered your quandry. I have gotten to know Arliss through his PMs and he has never been anything but respectful to me and I can't, in good conscience reward that courtesy with anger. Yes, Arliss gets a bit carried away and full of himself and he will admit that to me when I have mentioned it, he knows I don't always agree with his tactic and I hate the fact the majority of this forum doesn't see the good I see from my one on one contact with him in PMs. I think he would admit I try to push him to be that guy I see, but he will only do it in his time. I also do not defend him as you say. The post you are talking about was where he made the rude remark about the dead member. He was out of line and even admitted this to me. I will say maybe I should have been more direct, but if you recall I said he has his problems. I guess I choose to chastise in private rather than make a public war of it. If that makes me weaker than the rest, so be it. I am who I am.
If you want LPSG to be a nicer place, I think you'd be the perfect person to be able to very kindly and constructively call people out on their behavior.
I do, I just don't feel I need to make a public execution of it. I too am not perfect and have also been "PM Reprimanded". Am I upset about it? No and I am glad that people feel and understand they can PM me and I will not bite their heads off. I will say there is no one I have on ignore and no one who I feel is so vile I would discount there words if sincerely stated to me. Maybe you are right, but it just seems that even when people peacefully call someone on things, it turns really ugly. I will try your suggestion, but I will need your help as it is a bit out of character for me to do this.
On the other hand, there's always going to be debate and hot feelings, and I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing if the participants can remain somewhat civil. I see emotion and passion to be vital parts of life, so I think we need to accept some level of negative emotion to, hopefully, bring about greater understanding in general. I've been following the current racism thread and have found the contributions of you, njqt, playainda, naughty, and others to be informative and eye-opening for me, even though they were written in a rather angry thread and directed at people who will probably never understand your point. However, those of us on the sidelines can get a lot out of a thread like that.
Thank you. Those are hard threads to read and post to and I am glad someone has attained positive out of the related hardships.
If it's one specific person you have in mind that gets bad treatment by regular members (not by random trolls) it may just be that this person truly rubs people the wrong way, and there's not a lot to be done about that. I'm that kind of a person myself, and sometimes you just have to learn to live with it even when your most sincere efforts are made at being honest and true.
Are you taking part in some sort of hazing process for Promise Keepers? 
