What happened to manners?

D_Marazion Analdouche

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So my oldest had a recital tonight, the entire 4th grade put on a chorus/violin thing that was actually pretty good. I'd say perhaps 200+ people came to watch etc. At the end of it all, everyone gets up to leave and it's a mad dash to get out the door, people pushing their way through.

There is a women with 3 kids and a stroller trying to get out, people just keep walking around her, in front of her like she's not standing there. Not that I expect anyone to remember post of mine from a while back, but I felt another Walmart scenario coming. My teeth started to grind, veins in my neck started to pulse and I had to say in a semi-booming voice "Can everyone please stop pushing ahead and let this mother with kids and stroller get out of here".

200+ people suddenly got quiet, and everyone from her to the door to get out even made a path. I mumbled something about people being nothing but self-absorbed and never mind it was the holidays.

What was funny is when I asked for everyone to stop moving, my oldest actually said "Oh I know that voice", which I tried not to chuckle at.

I mean seriously, look around you once in while. Make sure you're not cutting in front of someone, don't take 10 minutes at a express check out line, use your F**King directional while you're driving, don't talk on your cell phone while at a restaurant and if you have to don't talk so loud the person at the other end can hear you without the phone, help an elderly women reach that top shelf to get laundry detergent (don't walk by her looking away so you can pretend you don't see her) toss some change in the salvation army pot, if you don't have change, ask for some while you're buying your $300 iPod.......sorry but I really ****ing hate people sometimes.

Rant over.
 

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At my nieces HS graduation, I was part of a big crowd waiting at the gymnasium doors to be let in. It was hot and people wanted in NOW. I am 6'4 about 250 and behind was the literal lil old lady that spoke no English was about 5 foot nothing and could not of weighed more then 100lbs.
I smiled at her she smiled at me.
When the doors opened I felt this tug on my belt loop in the back center, it was the lil ol lady. People were starting to push and I resisted the push of the crowd and walked in with this lil ol lady latched on to my belt loop. I reached behind me and held her hand that was latched onto me then pulled her to my side under my arm. I had to shoot back a few warning looks to the folks trying to push and they backed off. Her family was right behind her. If I wasn’t there for this lil ol overheated 5 foot nothing lady that was someone’s grandma I am sure she would have been injured.
I escorted her past the hallway and into the seating area where is was calmer and cooler and let her go… her family helped her from that point. Not one word was spoken.
She sat 2 rows behind me. We looked at each other once. I never got her name nor she mine. But I was damn glad to enforce a little bit of respect for somebody’s grandma.
 
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great message... a pet peeve of mine is people who show up at a counter after other people and when the clerk asks "who's next?", they say "ME". I'll speak up so the proper person gets served.

and when there is a group waiting to be served and I believe it's my turn, I turn around and ask something like "is there anybody who came in before me?". it's a small courtesy, but you'd be surprised how many people say thank for asking.

courtesy is not dead yet, but it sure as hell is dying. :frown2:
 

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Good thing you don't have to deal with New Yorkers or drive in Boston.

Most New Yorkers are the most polite well mannered people in the world thank you very much! It's the people who move here and think they have to have an attitude that give the rest of us a bad name.
 

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It truly amazes me to see how rude people can be. Picture this. I was with my mother who is now under 5', is 87 years old and uses a cane or walker. I had taken her shopping and out for lunch. When we got to the door of the restaurant I went ahead slightly so I could open the door for her. As my mother was reaching the door this well dressed woman steps right in front of my mother almost causing her to loose her balance. The only positive thing that happened is the woman was so close she tripped over the cane. It was perfect. But probably not the entrance she was expecting.
 

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Most New Yorkers are the most polite well mannered people in the world thank you very much! It's the people who move here and think they have to have an attitude that give the rest of us a bad name.

Being a Bostonian I would have to agree with you. I cannnnnnoooot stand a good portion of people around here. I've gone to New York several times for both business and pleasure and I never had one bad experience, ok well other than the time I wore my Sox hat to Yankee stadium but I was asking for it.

If I was to choose I would live in NYC instead of Boston, however my kids are here. Rudy's in Hell's Kitchen is a great bar, gotta love the free hot dogs.
 
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It's the "me first" mentality (as I like to call it) that has lead to the erosion of manners in society today. It drives me insane, and it's not only a problem in the U.S. Canadians can be just as rude and self absorbed by constantly putting themselves before others even when it is not their turn. I see it every day and have now come to expect it. It's sad that manners and class have become the exception instead of the norm. I'm always shocked when I see someone behaving in a polite manner instead of being shocked when I see people behaving rudely
 

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Most New Yorkers are the most polite well mannered people in the world thank you very much! It's the people who move here and think they have to have an attitude that give the rest of us a bad name.

Speak to the hand...lol.:rolleyes:

If all the New Yorkers I met were like you Nudie, I think I would have stayed. :smile:
 

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manners decline as self entitlement surges. bring back the corrective bitch slap - people will start to make with the please, the thank you and the no, please after you.

ML