If you've been to a strip club, I'd love to know what goes on so I can pass your experiences on to my wife. Thanks in advance for sharing your experiences.
Strip club experiences can vary widely in the US, with rules that are quite different from state to state. Also what 'era' needs to be taken in context, as things change over time.
My own experiences in the 1980 and 1990s:
Massachusetts - strip clubs have full alcohol licensees and the women strip to fully nude. They cannot do anything sexual to themselves and there is no contact allowed between the dancers and the customers.
In later years when Lap Dancing became popular, clubs would let the ladies dance and strip close to you as 'table dances' but all contact was (and provably still is) forbidden. I've never visited or even heard of a Mass club that had any kind of private rooms.
Rhode Island -
The (mostly mob owned) strip clubs had full alcohol licenses and the ladies could strip down to topless, leaving some kind of bikini, g-string or panty bottom in place. Customers weren't allowed to touch the ladies, but you could get titties in your face while tipping, and put money in their garters. Some busty women would retrieve your tip by squeezing your hand between their boobs while they took the money. Others would also put their butts thisclose to your face while making their way around the stage-side seats.
There may have been some private or VIP areas, but those were way beyond my budget.
New York City - (pre Giuliani (1994))
The traditional strip clubs I visited were similar to Rhode Island, full alcohol, topless only. I don't remember any kind of private or VIP area, but again, if they existed, they were beyond my budget. When getting a lapdance, the dancer could grind her butt into you a little bit, and tease you by getting her breasts thisclose to your face as she gyrated in front of you, but your hands had to be firmly on your chair or the bench you were sitting on. One beauty with an amazing ass was definitely okay with my hands on my thighs coming in contact with her butt as she was dancing for me, but a bouncer said "no touching"! After he moved on she smiled as my fingers grazed her ass cheeks and thighs as they just-so-happened to pass by my hands.
Also available in NYC at the time were "lap dance clubs" in out-of-the-way locations in old buildings. You paid a cover, there was no food or beverage service of any kind, but there were a few dozen "lap dancers" that solicited dancers while one of them would dance on the small stage. The places had dozens of easy chairs all over and were very dimly lit. You found a seat, sat down and a parade of women would ask you if you wanted a dance. The rule of the house was that there was no touching of any covered area, and all the ladies were topless, wearing panties or bikini bottoms. Most had tops or scarves on to keep themselves covered until you paid for a dance. You paid for a dance, or two, or three, and they would climb right into you lap and start grinding. Boobs in your face? Feel free to caress and suck on them if you wish. Many would stand between your open legs and 'coincidently' rub their leg up against your groin while their boobs were in your face.
Needless to say, I oved these places! Where else did you get to 'second base' and have a woman dry hump you a few seconds after meeting her?