Hey everyone, just wanted to vent out a lil bit. I just got off the phone with one of my best friends who's a straight guy and pretty much told him I have liked him more than friends for a while (i was a lil drunk) and he is completely straight so I dont stand a chance. He loves girls. It seems to me that this keeps happening to me. All my close friends are straight and at the end I fall for them. Is anybody out there with some good advice. Dunno what to do. I dont like the gay scene or bars... and I actually hate the fact that it has to be about 'gay' or 'straight' Can it ever be about a connection with someone that could develop freely into whatever it has potential a for rather than boxing ourselves into stupid labels??? Im pretty sick of this crap man and would appreciate some good advice. thanx guys.
Wait, your profile says that your basically straight, and now you're asking questions that pertain to a person who is fully out of the closet, and gay. Are you gay, or are you still having issues with that very concept? This may lead into the other problems that you're now facing personally.
I think you need to do some soul searching, and figure out what you really want. Yes, of course you can have straight friends, but if it's becoming an issue where you're going to fall for them, you really need to get that in check. It's tough, but it's either, you figure out how to deal with it, or you just can't deal with something not able to go further. It's sort of how people feel about losing their first love, or a really passionate relationship that ends. It hurts, BADLY, but you get over it, and move on.
Now, if you see yourself as more "bi" than anything, that's fine, but forget labels, it IS important to know where you stand. This will help you in future relationships, knowing more what you want. Have you had any female relationships in the last 3 years? I think you really need to see if you're on the gay side, or mainly on the straight side. This is pure bisexuality. But even in bisexuality, you are still mainly one side or the other.
I wouldn't get too freaked out over all this, but some of the things I've pointed out, you really need to get in control, and find out where you are. It'll help you. Trust me.