- Luge,
Dude, you have my sympathy and understanding. I am straight and not attracted to most men, but I have been attracted to certain close straight friends. The reason they are still close friends is because I have never tried to take it further and will never try anything with any of them. We routinely hang out talking about sex, exercising together, hanging out nude in a locker room or tubbing after skiing. We have even done some threesomes or foursomes with gals. Even then, I mostly look and get turned on watching a straight friend having sex. We hug when we see each other, have shared good and bad times and they are like brothers. These friends are very good looking, most have large cocks and like to party. Some are now married and all will be friends twenty years from now. I am pretty sure at least one of them may have similar feelings but would never let it become reality.
There are two reasons I don't ever make a move. The first, I could ruin the friendship if turned down. The second, I could ruin the friendship if not turned down. If the guy is straight, and says no, even if he doesn't stay away from you, he may assume every look, comment or demonstration of friendship is another attempt to pick him up. It will screw up the friendship.
Even if a straight friend were to fool around with you drunk or whatever, if he is truly straight, he will regret it and avoid you either out of guilt or embarassment. In either case, you will likely lose this friend. It is not worth it.
There are two reasons I don't ever make a move. The first, I could ruin the friendship if turned down. The second, I could ruin the friendship if not turned down. If the guy is straight, and says no, even if he doesn't stay away from you, he may assume every look, comment or demonstration of friendship is another attempt to pick him up. It will screw up the friendship.
Even if a straight friend were to fool around with you drunk or whatever, if he is truly straight, he will regret it and avoid you either out of guilt or embarassment. In either case, you will likely lose this friend. It is not worth it.