alwaysguessing
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the last time a guy threatened to top himself and started making half hearted scratches with a kitchen knife, i just went and fetched him a sharper knife.
he started sobbing and nothing ever happened.
that kind of emotional blackmail shit is just another form of bullying.
Wow, I guess you were either good at reading him, or were just lucky then. I couldn't take that kind of risk, myself. She really was a wreck. In my case I fear it wasn't bullying, so much as a legitimate cry for help. I spent the next year or so helping her develop some emotional stability and self-confidence. I made her get a job, encouraged her to develop some friendships, and eventually I convinced her to start therapy.
After all that, I still felt like we weren't going anywhere as a couple, because she was still dependent on me to an unhealthy degree. Yet at the same time, she was beginning to stand up to me and defy my suggestions for her self-improvement. I believe she was deferring to her mother, who firmly believes that her daughter has no business taking care of herself, i.e. that's a man's job.
I figured the only hope for her to finally grow up, would be to kick her out and let her try living on her own. So, instead, she moves back in with her parents. ... Supposedly she is getting her own apartment soon, and is even planning to take steps towards furthering her education. I'm not holding my breath, but I hope she does something worthwhile, for her sake.
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