I'm a gay man, 62 years old, single and enjoy sex more than ever. About 4 years ago I met a married man, online, who wanted to experiment with his bi side. He is 41, married (unhappily) with 2 kids that he adores. We have had great sex every time we can be together. I know this is never going to be a relationship but over the years both our feelings have grown. Today he calls me early in the morning. I was still in bed. He wants to come over and I, of course, tell him sure but that I had just gotten up and hadn't even had my coffee. He said to just stay in bed and he would be right over. I did as he said. He came and got into bed with me and said that this was "all for me" and he spent an hour pleasuring me beyond belief. Sex with him has always been great but today it was fireworks. Afterwards he said that he wants to arrange for us to be able to spend the night together (he travels a great deal with his job) and would I meet him when out of town, at his expense, for a day or two. I, of couse, said YES! Problem is my feelings for him are going way beyond friends with benefits and it seems that he has the same feelings. I don't want to be the "other man" nor do I want to loose a fantastic sexual partner. As he left today, I used the L word and he did too. What the fuck? I want him but I know this isn't going to happen. Should I accept an over nighter or just keep things as they are? Either way, I don't want to loose him nor do I want to screw up his married life. There have got to be others that have had this situation and I would appreciate some help.