Good questions.
Some of my male friends were in Sweden and they said that this is the other way around in the clubs there. A lot of women make the first step and talk to the men in the clubs and they think that is better.
The topic of the first step in the mating process is something, where women are privileged and men have a disadvantage. Men have to make the first step in society or are expected to make the first step. So there are usually more male simps than female simps, because females dont have to do that. total equality would mean equal responsibility, in my opinion. The mating ritual should be more balanced so that there are as many women that do that as there are men.
Maybe we should make quotas for that. Than men would be as annoyed about some women as women are about some men, that approach them.
Yeah here in America men make the “approach “ if you will. That’s the general default system here
but surely not eched in stone. There are women who make approach, happenstance meet , friend introductions .etc
but for a moment let’s pretend it’s always guy approach
There are good and bad to each of these. It’s like a job interview
Yes the employer gets to sit back and judge you and make the decision. And if you have ever been on that end (dating and employer) is a lot of fun and you can get a bit full of yourself (a bit drunk on the power if you will)
Gowever that fun really goes away when you have no qualified applicants to fill a slot, or worse no applicants at all. Or so many applicants bothering you to fill a position that you already filled that you can’t get anything done. Or fill up you email/ messages Wii’s offers
however as the applicant/ approacher YOU get to choose who the players in the dance will be.approacher picks the candidates ... the approched decides the results
I have a lot of female friends we have gone out to the night spot before and no one gives her a second look, conversely we have been bombarded by dude after dude after dude to the point where we couldn’t finish a convo
that never happens to me. When I want to be alone I chill and when I want something I make it happen ... no waiting around for me
so there ups and downs to each side