What is a Come-on

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  1. dkmilker

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    How do you define a come-on? Is it just a look? Could it be an implied, unspoken message? Or is it only a direct spoken approach? How do you usually make your approach? Do you prefer to be very subtle or do you like to make a direct approach? Do you like the same style when being approached?

    The first 4 questions are the main ones but all answers are welcome.
     
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    Come-ons I get from a woman are usually subtle (unless she is drunk). Most common is positioning (she gets closer and stays in front of me).

    A verbal offer is even more subtle. If a woman says, "Call me if you get bored.", she is practically screaming at you to fuck her.

    If she gets physical (as in fondling your naughty bits), it usually means she is drunk.

    Oh, yeah... sober or not, women exhibit, and believe they deserve, far more latitude with the whole physical contact thang.
     
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    I am always dumb when someone is coming on to me....I can see it happening to my friends but never to myself....But I have noticed women have been more direct nowadays than in the past....
     
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    How do you like your eggs??
    Thats a come on.

    Wetting your pointing finger and touching it to their shirt and then saying... gee we outta get you outta those wet clothes...
    thats a come on.

    twisting your hair is not a come on.
    Talking to any man for more than five minutes is not a come on.
    ( ladies rules apparently, I am guilty of this one big time)

    Call me if your bored? I dont think so. I :tongue:have guy friends that I have hung out with, and enjoy hanging out with them. I dont want to sleep with them so I always make sure NEVER to talk about sex.
    Basbeall is safer
     
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    I disagree. It has been suggested that a woman who plays with her hair, licks her lips and bats her eyes, is SUBCONCIOUSLY saying...

    " Look at me!! I am making myself prettier for you, I care about my appearance and want you to pay attention to me"

    Argue if you must, but this goes right back to Intro Psychology.:rolleyes:
     
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    And Psychology-101 will also tell you that the desire for attention and being made to feel good about yourself is not necessarily a come-on or flirtation.
     
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    That is correct. However, in this situation... it is a Come-on. :cool:

    Stop being so DAMNED smart at EVERYTHING, ALEX....Must I constantly be on my toes??
     
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    Of course, if one takes into account the general context, then it could well be a come-on... but I'd hope there would be other, less ambiguous verbalized and non-verbalized signs accompanying such gestures too. :rolleyes:

    Anyway, just how naked are your toes? :tongue:
     
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    Subconcious behavior can't be classed as a come on. It's merely an indicator of attraction.

    Men get erections from images in magazines. This doesn't mean they are coming on to the magazine. ( Hmmm, Bad Example )

    A come on, in my opinion, is an overt experession of a desire to act on the attraction.

    If she licks her lips, she is either attracted to you or she likes the taste of her lipgloss. Neither qualifies as a come on.

    If shes been licking her lips with a deliberate slow motion while holding eye contact, THAT is a come on.


    Just one girls perspective.

    I'd like to hear this from a gay man's perspective.
     
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    ALEX?? LEX? Matthew? Take your pic, Gillette.. there is a hundred of them:biggrin1:
     
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    If I put my penis in his mouth, it's a come-on.

    If I keep it in my pants, I'm thinking about someone else*. :rolleyes:








    * For those who have undergone humor bypass surgery, this was an example of irony.
     
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    *Thankful his appointment is scheduled for tommorow.:rolleyes:
     
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    I guess what I'm wondering is how different is flirting guy-guy vs. guy-girl.

    Do guys have the same "tells" that a woman does to indicate receptiveness?
    etc, etc.
     
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    *LOL* Thank you Gillette *s*

    As for twirling hair..( as a come on) I think ya'all picked this up on HAPPY DAYS so consider the source.

    I was watching Ozzie Osborn on the late show one night and he kept twirling his hair.. now.. does that mean he was coming on to Jay Leno?
    (*EWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE*)
    No.. thing is.. people who LIKE hair like the feel and touch of it. Ozzie seemed to be doing the same thing I always do.. running my fingers through my long hair cause I enjoy the way it feels. Just as people like the way a fur coat or rug feels.

    Or how some of your more twisted types like the feel of velvet .....//j/k :biggrin1:
     
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    Guys are just so easy, figuratively and literally. Just one look, that's all it took. I call it The Hi Eye.
     
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    I tend to disagree, a subconscious come on is every bit a come on when another person is involved. I know when I walk out the door, I have no intention of knowing what I may attract consciously or subconsciously. But if subconsciously I'm sending those signals out that's something I need to be aware of. That way I'm not at a loss when another reacts. When it's a magazine picture, I agree, nobody in their right mind comes on to an inanimate object like that.
     
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