What is excessive???

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  1. Warrior Boy

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    I've been a little hesitant to post this message but I'm not sure who-else or where-else to ask this question. I'm a 26 y.o. healthy male that masturbates many times daily. Since a kid I've done it at least twice daily and usually more. Is the desire to do it supposed to decline as you get older? I feel more horny now than I think I did when I was 18. Since graduating from college, and having more time, I'm finding I cannot keep my hands off of it. I always jack during my morning shower and always the last thing at night. Lately I've been doing it 3 or 4 more times during the day. I am wondering if it's healthy for me. I'll grab it when no one is noticing at work and stroke it. I grip it when i'm driving and stroke it. It seems I'm playing with it whenever no one is looking. I do take some supplements and I wonder if they add to my normal horniness. I guess what I'm really worried about; is it normal for a guy my age to have such an obsession with their penis?
     
  2. D_Gunther Snotpole

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    I would say it's probably somewhat excessive if you're moved to ask the question.
    I'm guessing, but I also assume you would have better orgasms if you had fewer of them.
    But hey, you're still in your twenties. Far worst ways to use your time.
     
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    I wouldn't concern yourself too much with what's normal man, we're all different!
    I'm 19 and I wank all the time as well!
    Your dick looks massive by the way, you have reason to want to be playing with it all the time lol, and freaking insane body?! Jealous as hell
     
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    Hey man - I was worrying about the same thing myself recently! I am 29 and straight, but am incredibly kinky and just seem to get worse with age! I put part of it down to my first few gf's, who were - by total fluke, all nymphs and completely mental, but I also work out a lot and think this boosts my testosterone too.
    I have recently been travelling for 8 months and have not had the usual access to porn/cams, or any kind of privacy needed to quench my sexual thirst. This was really weird, but it did come to show me that, if necessary I could leave myself alone for a while! I did, however, turn every girl I was with whilst travelling into a filthy slut in order to satisfy myself - and I kinda feel bad about that too, but it just seems to happen!!
    What you could take from this is, maybe, just try and ration yourself to one or two 'good' sessions a day and see how you go. I must say though, on my recent return, I have been insatiable and have been on cam 3 or 4 times a day - sometimes for up to 3 hrs at a time on one wank session (as I know I will be going again in 3 weeks and want to make the best of it!)! I have loved it and am now wondering if, as long as it doesn't impede on my, or any one else's life/time, I should worry at all really??
    I think sometimes people like us are destined to work on cams or in porn, haha!

    Glad at least that someone else is as horny as me anyway!! Have you started getting kinky yet too?
     
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    Dude, I say you are perfectly normal. I just turned 40 (sigh) and can't stop touching my junk every day either. Plus, when I'm iwht my gf, we have sex ALL day long - even at least 4-6 times when we both work.
     
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    Don't fret...it'll calm down with age and the assistance of actual sex partners:wink: Those abs are superb!:smile:
     
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    That's good to know RideRocket!
     
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    You´re normal. We´re men and we´re lucky to carry our best toy with us all the time. I should play with mine more often!!
     
  9. erratic

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    Okay, so that's your baseline. Two or more times a day.

    Yes, but (like Hhuck said), 26 is hardly old. Report back in when you're 46. Or maybe later. Middle age appears to be prime time for men getting embroiled in sex scandals. Report back when you're 66.

    Idle hands do the devil's work ;)

    Sounds totally normal to me.

    Unless you're doing it for forty-five minutes or an hour at a time... Really, sex isn't excessive until it starts taking over your life or putting you in danger.

    Ah. Yeah, that ticks both boxes. Taking over other aspects of your life and putting you in danger of being reprimanded or fired. Or, depending on where you work, reported to the authorities.

    I hate sounding anything but sex-positive, but anything that distracts you from driving is a bad idea. Cell phones, annoying passengers, eating, shaving, wanking, getting a bj - all should be avoided while driving.

    This could be an impulse control issue. It may not mean there's anything wrong with you or your libido, just that you may have to work more on controlling this particular impulse. Sex is a totally normal, natural, fun drive - like eating. But re-read what you wrote and substitute "eating". "It seems I'm eating whenever no one is looking." There's nothing wrong with wanking or eating, and there's nothing wrong with wanting to wank or eat, but controlling those impulses is part of all of our lives.

    Definitely ask your doctor and your pharmacist.

    Wanting to masturbate is totally, 100% normal. Almost every guy loves it, and almost every guy would do it more if he had more free time. No doubt. But if you're doing it in a manner that may be compulsive, when you know it socially unacceptable, when you know it could endanger your job, yourself, and potentially other people, if you have your hands on your junk more often than not...well, that might be a problem.

    Just don't let anyone tell you you're addicted. Sex, like eating, is a normal, natural drive. You may be less adept at controlling your impulses than some other people, or your impulses may be more powerful than for some other people. Given what you've told us, I would be looking in to getting some help with impulse control - again, because losing a job or getting in a car accident is not worth it. But there's nothing wrong with you.
     
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    Don't think it sounds like a problem.

    I think it would be excessive if: (a) your masturbating stopped you doing other things that you need/want to do (socialising, spending time with family, going out, etc, etc); (b) if you were wanking in preference to sex on a regular or repeated basis. I'd add that even though I'm having regular and pretty frequent sex, I still rub one out quite often — for example, virtually every morning a quick one in the shower if I haven't just had sex (which is almost every weekday morning, since the mornings are such a rush). It's a great way to start the day and I apologise to no one for it!

    Nothing in your first post suggests that either of these things is the case. If that's true, just enjoy it.
     
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    Maybe a sex partner would help out a lot.
     
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    Its considered excessive when the skin starts falling off...other than that enjoy. I would caution you about stroking and driving. Oprah wouldn't like that...wait, thats texting and driving.
     
  13. D_Gunther Snotpole

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    I suspect Warrior Boy has the same view.

    Hmmm.
    Well, obviously, no man with those abs can have any real faults.
    But if he has an impulse control issue, getting that under hand (not sure whether pun intended) is a very useful thing to do.
    If he needs supervision, I'm here.:cool:
     
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    When you a say wanking do mean just stroking or rubbing or till you cum? I'm almost always rubbing my crotch at my desk at work, or have my hand there. I would say I masturbate constantly. But jacking to cum at least 1-2 times a day. In my younger days like you 2-3 to cum was average. Being in new places or flying always got me turned on. Kind of like wanting to initiate the place with my stuff.
     
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    Age doesn't help: I'm 52, and I usually do it at least twice a day if I've got time! I often work from home, and if I'm home all day I find the frequency goes up. Oh, and I've had a sex partner for 15 years, we have sex 3-4 times a week and I STILL do it a lot by myself. I'm not worried though: I've always been like that and enjoyed it.
     
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    I find the time to masturbate at least once a day. If I happen to have free time, or the wife isn't around, I'll go two or three times. This has been pretty consistent since I figured out how in puberty, regardless of whether I have a regular sex partner. I guess my thinking is that if I'm by myself and I want to do something enjoyable, there's no harm in it. Although I would say that once you hit 4+ times a day you're starting to get excessive (unless you're trying to set some kind of personal record).
     
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    Once upon a time (back when I was 25 or so) I could cum off for more than 5 times a day but today I can't do it aymore... If I came once my cock feels satisfied and lazy for the rest of the day... when I have sex with my gf it happens too.. I can cum only once a day.. I m only 28 btw..
     
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    Everything Ive ever heard or read, says the only issue arises when masturbation becomes the preferred method of getting off, and leads to avoidance of sex with partners. I probably average 3 to 4 whacks a day, but since I hop in the sack every chance I get, dont feel I have an issue.
    Looking at your pictures, I'm sure you have no problem getting laid anytime you want. so if you find yourself avoiding live partners, then I'd be concerned.
     
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