What is gayer for a str8 guy to do?

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This has gotten really long-winded now and I'm pretty overwhelmed with it all. I thinkt hat originally I had said that two guys beating off together was not in and of itself "gay." To that, I mentioned that many straight men beat off in the same room together, or even beat off in a "circle jerk" type of situation.

Frankly, I don't find the original poster's question ("Which is gayer?") all that interesting or intriguing. I'm having trouble remembering why I posted in this thread to begin with.

Henry, you sort made my point for me. I thought I made that pretty clear back there.

The original question was concerning oral sex and anal sex--which was considered gayer [?] to do?

Where I'm from, you just didn't ask another guy to put his dick in your mouth or to gobble on yours; even entertaining that idea was considered unpardonably queer, and you'd never be looked at the same again. And let me clarify that there was no age at which this was not considered a serious perversion.

Dicks just didn't go in another guy's mouth. No discussion necessary.

Truthfully, I don't know or understand the attitudes toward butt-related stuff; it was just different. Guys regularly grabbed, slapped, smacked, kicked, dry-humped and jabbed with sticks at each other's asses, and it was funny to everybody,..except, on rare occasion, the owner of those abused butt cheeks. After you avenged your bruised pride, even the poor target eventually laughed the whole thing off. Covered or bare didn't matter; if you had a butt, you could count on it eventually being attacked by something.

This attitude, up into (maybe) the midteens, extended to cornholing (anal) and getting corned. It was reviled as nasty or gross by anybody even remotely familiar with it, but, for some bizarre reason, was approached with the same gender-disconnected enthusiasm as mooning the neighbors or snapping a towel at your buddy's bare ass, after your PE class. For whatever reason, cornholing just wasn't registering on anybody's radar as gay or even thought of as real sex, and I honestly don't know why that was.

It was probably, when no girls were immediately available, a wild expression of boredom, desperation and horniness between two males that didn't diminish the masculinity of either participant.

From everything I've seen, when compared to butt play of any kind, mouth-to-body contact between straight guys has been almost non-existent. To go back to the original question submitted, I suggest that sucking anything, especially an erect :eek: pecker, is too much like kissing, and kissing between guys is universally regarded as 'gay'.

Therefore, and it's just my opinion, I must conclude that oral sex between guys will be regarded by most straight men as gayer than anal sex.
 

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...I've never heard of anal sex being referred to as cornholing, and I'm not sure where you grew up, but I'd never heard of teen boys doing that to each other out of "boredom, desperation or horniness" as you say. I can't speak for every straight guy, but I think that most us who were horny as teens weren't having oral or anal sex with each other. We were playing kissing games with the girls, masturbating in private, and possibly having circle jerks.
This may sound a bit drastic, but I think if you put a gun to a straight guy's head and told him he'd have to kiss a guy, suck a guy, or have anal with a guy, I think he'd say kiss a guy.

I'm using cornholing as an umbrella phrase to cover a number of different anal-oriented acts that I have witnessed or known straight males participating in. There are other names associated with it and variations on the degree of contact (clothed, unclothed, no penetration etc), between the participants. Drumming, dogging, humping, dry-humping are alternative words for it.
 

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It really only depends on which one he detest the least. The other is gayer...I suck my own regularly and eat the pre...How gay is that?
 

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Everyone has their own grading scale and opinion when it regards this. (obvious in the posts above)

Why must there be any label though? gay/bi/straight. Should I use a different scale? i.e. 1 to 10 with 1 being exclusively gay and 10 being exclusively str8. It's all too ridiculous and complicated.

If asked I always answer "straight". I think saying "I'm a 7" adds to the confusion. :tongue: I'm straight when it comes to romance, but I can go to bed with a guy if I'm the mood for that.

As far as which is "gayer" I'd say either is gay-er if you wanted to do it again. Same as circle jerks, sports ass-smacks, kissing etc.
 

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If I had to chose between giving a blowjob of getting fucked I would give a blowjob. I don't know exactly why but I seems less gay to me. But this is also because I used to suck myself when I was younger. So I'm a little familiar with it.
 

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I'm using cornholing as an umbrella phrase to cover a number of different anal-oriented acts that I have witnessed or known straight males participating in. There are other names associated with it and variations on the degree of contact (clothed, unclothed, no penetration etc), between the participants. Drumming, dogging, humping, dry-humping are alternative words for it.

I have heard of straight guys experimenting with oral when they are teens, but not any kind of anal activities with their penises, toys, dry humping, etc. Maybe it went on in my neighborhood or my school, but I wasn't aware of it.

Everyone has their own grading scale and opinion when it regards this. (obvious in the posts above)

Why must there be any label though? gay/bi/straight. Should I use a different scale? i.e. 1 to 10 with 1 being exclusively gay and 10 being exclusively str8. It's all too ridiculous and complicated.

If asked I always answer "straight". I think saying "I'm a 7" adds to the confusion. :tongue: I'm straight when it comes to romance, but I can go to bed with a guy if I'm the mood for that.

As far as which is "gayer" I'd say either is gay-er if you wanted to do it again. Same as circle jerks, sports ass-smacks, kissing etc.

Kinsey had the 1-10 scale, but I don't think labels are ridiculous or that complicated. Life consists of labels: Mr, Ms, Dr, Son, Father, co-worker, neighbor, ice cream man, mailman, whatever--they're just words. I don't understand when guys on here put 70% or 80% straight but talk about all of their same sex activities. Now that's confusing. Some people are unsure about their sexuality when they're young, and that confusion may be based on early experiences, but once you reach a certain age most of us realize what we are.
 

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I have heard of straight guys experimenting with oral when they are teens, but not any kind of anal activities with their penises, toys, dry humping, etc. Maybe it went on in my neighborhood or my school, but I wasn't aware of it...

It did. Every time your back was turned. :wink:

If not total cornholing, then dry corning at least. Most guys go through a phase when their dicks have got to go somewhere, and we don't care where.

Guilty as charged. :rolleyes: