What Is Going On With Me?

Dino Thomas

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Hey there! I am 27 years old and only had a few sexual experiences. Like, never been penetrated and only penetrated two guys. Never have been with a woman.

Low libido...

I only have interest in having any intimate contact, including kisses, if I get a connection with the guy, like we start chatting and the conversation is really good and the mutual interest grows on and on.

Which is a problem when you think avout dating gay guys you meet via apps, because generally their main goal is sex, so the conversation doesn't flow. O avoid that, don't go dating.

Other than that, I only have desire to masturbate once in a while, like once every week or every two weeks. If I am busy, I don't even care about it.

But I only masturbate with porn. And I usually take a lot of time finding a good porn video, but it is generally worth it cuz I make it intense.

I think something is off, but I can't quite tell what is
 
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hey Dino, nothing is off, you are who you are and like a lot of gay guys you need more than just that physical aspect to sex, you need your mind turned on - this might make you more sapiosexual?

But don't worry or go thinking that something is up with you - we all have different approaches to sex and each one is 'right' for the individual.

you are right about many of the apps and sites they are full of guys just looking for 'right now' and if you try 'chatting' then you get blocked, ghosted or whatever, but that is because they are not what you are looking for right now.

But whilst you may/may not be in a minority wanting 'relationship' sex based on communication as well as physical attraction, you are definitely not alone, or different, and nothing is 'off' with you.

just stick with what you're into , want and are looking for, be specific on any app or site making clear exactly what you're looking for - there will be guys like you out there thinking exactly the same.

good luck and don't get stuck on what you think you should be just who you are ;-)
 

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The best place to start is a doctor for a blood test to rule out any hormonal imbalances.

Then if that's all OK, you need to run a check list on ticking all your human essentials like sleep, diet, exercise, stress management etc.

If that's all normal, it may just be normal for you to be how you are.
 

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I want to say nothing is wrong with you. You almost described myself exactly! However the only problem is I actually had a hormonal imbalance like @Brodie888 suggested.

Now I have been getting my hormones fixed but my personality and sexual habits haven't really changed. So you also may not change much, just have a health improvement. And yes your and my way of sexuality as gay men is not the norm and difficult to find someone. It's just a truth we have to get used to. I know not all gay men are into ONS/hookup culture but it's not like we are known for wanting to cuddle and lack of sex lol