Some guys say that they've never had sex even though they've done oral, j/o, etc. It seems as though the consider that it's sex only if it's penis in vagina. Some of these guys also consider themselves to be virgins. Has a guy had sex if he's done all kinds of oral with a woman? Is he still a virgin? Has a guy had sex if he's done all kinds of oral with a man? Is he still a virgin? In my opinion (and I'm sure that some will not agree), any kind of genital contact between two people is sex, regardless of what kind of contact it is, unless it's a legitimate medical examination or accidental brief contact. Exactly how would you define "having sex?"