Give an example of or lack thereof. I am thinking about this as I was speaking to a friend about my current relationship. HE and I have worked out some things as I was concerned that he was still pursuing a friendship with an ex. I was telling my friend that one thing that annoyed me was the fact that he was telling that he was going to take a trip with a friend. Not sure how direct I wanted to be at that point, I didn't ask whether he was taking a trip with her but I was annoyed that he didn't tell me directly with whom he was traveling without my having to ask. I did ask whether this was an American friend and he said, yes. And then I asked whether this friend would be coming from the US. He said, yes, again. When I decided that this would not be the way to carry on an exclusive relationship with someone, I told him how I felt about that earlier conversation....it was like pulling teeth. I surmised with my friend whether my guy was trying to set up a baseline: that is, whenever he wants to do something without me, try to avoid that part of the discussion......even if on that occasion, the person he's going with would be ok, like a male friend. My friend said that those kinds of habits in a relationship diminish intimacy. I never thought of it that way. What are your experiences?