what is it about bottoming that feels so good?

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I'm tired of people saying it hurts because you're doing it wrong. How about this, it doesn't hurt because A) the top has a little dick or B) you're loose.

C. Bottom has a tiny o-ring.

Some people have small holes but big poles, while others have the opposite. :p
 

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my first time a buddy and I used a vibrating dildo...the vibration actually helped relax me, so that it didn't hurt as much. I think once you've done it once or twice, the pain is a lot less...it's almost like you get better control over relaxing things down there to ease cock in. But like others have said, you have to go really slow and use lots of lube. Stroke yourself while it's going in too...that definitely helps. It's not my favorite thing to do...I prefer to be the one doing the fucking, but it can be enjoyable to try once in a while.
 
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I've had sex once with a really nicely sized dick. It was a good process. He took me into the shower and cleaned me up and put a finger in me. Then we went into the bedroom and he used lube and worked in two fingers and then three. None of it ever hurt.

Then came the dick. It was at first a terrible sensation just because I really felt like I needed to poop. But I didn't actually. And eventually when I got over that fear, I just lost control. It's like I couldn't even think. He was pounding me and I was grunting and I just could not function. It was the most liberating sexual moment of my life.
 
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To me it all depends on the guy who’s doing you & your stomach lol. I’ve only bottomed a few times, but I know you’ll only have a good time bottoming if you clean right! You don’t want to be stressing the whole time your getting fucked about making going poop lol. Also be careful what you eat. I’ve had a where my stomach was burning the whole time not very enjoyable. Also get with a guy who respects you and knows what he’s doing. I still prefer to personally top.
 
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I used to be a hardcore top when it came to fucking (though a hungry cock sucker). I'd bottomed a few times until last year when I got into it much more (going onto Prep was a deciding factor). I like being fucked quite hard and rough from behind, the slamming of the guy's hips into my body and arse really tweaks my g-spot (often more than the dick itself). But I also like being on my back, legs up, that way it's easier to kiss, you can see them and easier to jerk yourself off as well.

Not fussed about the size of a dick, it's more about the way he fucks, but I also like to be a power bottom, as who wants a bottom that just lays there?!!!!!!
 

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The only downside is getting ready. I like to be super clean, don't want any gross mishaps, and douching is annoying and a bit gross sometimes. I've fucked a few guys and they've been a little dirty. I get that it happens, as well, it's your arse, but it's gross. When it's clean and wet (with cum loads) it's amazing. I love being a guy and having sex with men, but sometimes I just I had a cunt to cut out the preparation bit.
 

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It feels euphoric when it's someone that I'm really connected to in terms of attraction and energy. I've found that with me personally any uncomfortable feeling that I may feel in the beginning is overlooked because I'm so caught up in the passion of being made love to. The few times when I have been in pain were probably guys that I found sexy but didn't really have a connection with and I knew it was going to just be sexual. Also depends on the top. I truly believe that a top can control how painful the penetration will be with patience, good lube, and the stimulation he gives his bottom to keep his mind preoccupied. I was penetrated by a guy with a very thick penis earlier when I started bottoming and he was the first top that was able to keep my mind on something else as he eased in. He stroked me wonderfully and before I knew it he had fully penetrated me and was well on his way to climaxing. I climaxed shortly before him and he wasn't too far behind. It was an exhilarating experience for me.
 

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There’s a bunch of physical and psychological aspects that make it feel good (I would say amazing).

The most important thing to make it feel good is to be relaxed and to learn how to control your body to make your hole as receptive as possible. It’s like learning any physical activity. You don’t instinctively know how to swing a golf club, or do a particular yoga pose. But once you figure it out you can just do it without thinking about it.

If you’re tense and tighten up it’s going to hurt. If your top is an asshole (no pun intended) or doesn’t know how to fuck someone less experienced, it’s going to hurt.

Once you figure out how to control your muscles down there, and control your emotional state so you’re relaxed, receptive, and WANT it, it feels mind-blowingly good. And that doesn’t take long, it could even happen the first time. After a few fucks you’ll have it figured out and then just bliss out while you take dick.

As for why it feels so good, my thoughts are the same as other responders. I can’t overstate how good it feels to have my prostate worked over. I like the fullness, I like the stretching. On the mental side I enjoy the feeling of submission, though for me what’s even more powerful is the feeling of opening myself up, and presenting my hole to guys to enjoy, to make them feel good, to give them pleasure, and to get them off.

It’s one of the reasons why, if a guy is getting really deep with me (again no pun intended) I think of myself as aggressively submissive lol. I really really love dick, and I get a huge rush from getting a guy off. Making a man cum feels even more satisfying to me than coming myself. So combine that with the physical pleasure... it’s a wonder why I ever close my legs lol.

Once I started bottoming, which was early in my sexual experience, I quickly realized it feels so good that I consider my hole my primary sex organ. I don’t have the desire to top, and I rarely say no. If a guy wants to fuck me, I enthusiastically give him my hole. If a guy is super horned up and really needs to get off and unload, I love to give him my hole to use.

Plus once I figured out how to control everything I was able to start use that control to increase a guy’s pleasure, becoming looser or tighter, allowing his dick to feel how hot and hungry my hole is for his cock. And there’s absolutely nothing hotter to me than using my hole to rhythmically massage and milk his cock at the moment he blows his load. It really intensifies his orgasm and makes him cum harder (at least in my experience).

I wouldn’t do all that if it didn’t feel good for me too, physically and physiologically. And because it feels GREAT it’s not hard at all to get into my pants and give it up lol.
 

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I’m about to head over to a good fuck buddy’s house to get my ass seriously worked over. If you are fortunate enough to get a cool top who really enjoys your ass — I mean, a guy who will eat your ass for twenty minutes before even starting to fuck—the pleasures are awesome. It’s all about getting your hole ready and open...when his cock slides into my wet hole so easily it allows me to relax and take it...slowly building up speed and intensity until he’s pounding my ass— I love that progression of slow and easy to hard and pounding...the way I can get there is starting from a serious rim job
 
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You’ll never fully understand the feeling unless you’ve bottomed. The best way I can describe it for tops is if you’ve ever taken a big dump and that amazing feeling when it’s finally out. The feeling of your hole widening is amazing
 

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The feeling of a cock pushing into my ass is overwhelming for me. Having a top who love taking a bottom is key for me. It’s 50% physical and 50% mental for me. Feeling that cock of steel slide into me, feelings his erect cock start slow and then working up to a hard pounding, feeling his cock own my ass, his hips slamming onto my ass, his body on top of me. It’s the thickness that opens me up and makes me squirm with a pinch of pain and lots of pleasure as his cock stimulates my nerve ending deep in my hole. And just as when I suck cock I love the feeling of his cock right before his cum, his cock tenses, and when he pumps his load I can feel his cock pump and pulse. Some men’s cock really jerk more than others, so when a guys cock really contract when he cums is so arousing for me.
 

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Long story short, it's the prostate gland. Here's a very informative article that expains the physiology of it:

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To be perfectly honest, it's really difficult to explain with words, and one of those things you really have to experience yourself to comprehend the sensation. I remember when I was in 5th grade and they separated the boys and girls for a 2 day sex ed class and a classmate asked "What is it about masturbation or intercourse that feels good?" The teacher said, "It's kind of hard to explain, but one day you'll figure it out." Not a very profound answer, but so true. I would recommend anal play with fingers and toys before getting fucked by a cock. You'll familiarize yourself with your body and the feeling of prostate stimulation. One thing I personally enjoy is not having to do all the work, or heavy lifting if you will. I' m bisexual and actually tend to top more than I bottom. But I have to say, I love a good, hard fucking with a cock in my ass. The first time I had a prostate induced orgasm, it was so intensely mind blowing, I almost passed out. It was as if I had never had really climaxed to orgasm before. I'll never forget my bf was fucking me in his basement and I was standing and bent over the washing machine supporting my body with both of my hands firmly pressed against the wall. I had experimented with anal play with fingers, dildos, vibrators, etc. and had even been fucked a handful of times (which I enjoyed), but never cum from strictly prostate stimulation. I found the sensations of anal play pleasurable, but I always had to stroke my cock (or have it stroked/sucked) to achieve an orgasm. I never imagined a guy could cum Hard!) and blow a copious amount of semen without touching himself. Well I debunked that theory that day bent over the washer being theusted from behind. His mother was home, so we had to sneak away and be very quite and I had just fucked him and he quicly came, but I was nowhere close to orgasm. We tokka 20 minute break and he said, "Now it's your turn" which was surprising because he was a total power bottom. After he preped me and lubed up his cock, he slowly penetrated my ass and pumped his dick in me very slow and shallow at first, but gradually increased to steady, deep, forceful thrusts. Like I said I had tu hold myself in position with both of my hands and then it happened. It felt sooooo good, and then started feeling almost to good. I said quietly, "Hey I think I might need to take a short break." And he pulled out and said, "Oh no, I'm sorry! Am I hurting you?" I said, Not at all. It feels fucking unbelievable, but if you keep fucking me at this pace, your gonna make me cum." He started laughing as he slid his cock back in me and said, "That's kind of the point silly!" He pumped me less than a dozen more times and as hard as I tried to hold back I absolutely couldn't any longer. Cum started leaking from the head of my cock right when I hit the point of no return and and I couldn't help but let out a low moan along with a muffled"Oh my fucking God!" When he realized I was coming he trusted even harder in deeper, which made me explode semen in a volcanic eruption of 8 or 9 forceful spurts. He said watching me blow my load was so hot that it sent him over the edge and he came within 20 seconds. It was fucking unbelievable and from that point on we usually flip flop fucked.
 

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The feeling of a cock pushing into my ass is overwhelming for me. Having a top who love taking a bottom is key for me. It’s 50% physical and 50% mental for me. Feeling that cock of steel slide into me, feelings his erect cock start slow and then working up to a hard pounding, feeling his cock own my ass, his hips slamming onto my ass, his body on top of me. It’s the thickness that opens me up and makes me squirm with a pinch of pain and lots of pleasure as his cock stimulates my nerve ending deep in my hole. And just as when I suck cock I love the feeling of his cock right before his cum, his cock tenses, and when he pumps his load I can feel his cock pump and pulse. Some men’s cock really jerk more than others, so when a guys cock really contract when he cums is so arousing for me.
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