What is "Large"?

[soccerfanatic]

I don't think it's fair to say all hung men are swingers with huge ego's and limitless confidence, I admit that it accounts for the majority but you can't generalise that much, I'm a perfect example of the complete opposite.

I'm a very romantic guy and I'd only ever get involved with a woman if I thought there was a chance of it getting very serious, and when we were together I most certainly wouldn't even look at another woman.

I also have cripplingly low self-esteem, I've never asked a girl out even if I've really liked her as i've never imagined anyone being remotely interested in me back. I've always got lots to say and I'm fun to be around, so I'm not particularly shy or anything, I just have a low opinion of myself.

Both of the above contradict totally with the generalisations you were all making, and I'm pushing 12" so I should imagine I'm definitely in the category you were describing.

Now i'm not trying to start a fight or anything, as I like the members posting in this topic, but I just don't think you can generalise so much on this issue, it may account for the majority but not for all.

I agree that many men, and women, exaggerate and thus make the statistics innacurate. Being a teenager I'm used to dealing with teen girls and I have shown it to a few over the past few years and in most cases their first reaction is that I must be 14" or even more, because their ex's claimed to be 7"/8" when in reality they were much smaller, and the girls being naive believed them, and when they say what i was packing, which would obviously dwarf their ex's package, they were way off with their estimates, simply because they'd been lied to.

In 3 cases i've swapped pics with girls who, after being shocked at how big I was, then proceeded to boast how they'd slept with guys packing between 15" and 18". Not only is it highly unlikely such giants exist, its even less likely that they'd be that big in their teens, that the girls would have slept with a guy that big despite having only had about 2 sexual encounters and its even less likely seeing as they were shocked when they saw mine, which is far smaller than these other alleged encounters.

Again, a prime example of lying distoting people's knowledge on this matter.

In my opinion this is how it breaks down:
Below 4.5"= Small
4.5"- 5.5" = Average
5.5"-7"= Above Average
7"-8" = Big
8"-9"= Huge
10"+= Gigantic

And "thirdlegmeat", I think its a bit unfair to say above 11" makes you a circus freak lol :blink:

 

[Pecker]

Well stated, spank!

As a guy who fits into your "Big" category (lengthwise) I have to agree that the majority of hung guys don't have a fixation on their size - and probably have about the same chance of insecurity as the rest of the population.

It's not the size of the penis that makes one a jerk - it's the size of the ego. B)

 

[soccerfanatic]

I agree Pecker lol

In my experience guys with slightly above average cocks tend to boast about being really big at every opportunity, yet guys who are legitimately big tend to be more demure about it. Which is kinda odd, don't you think?

Seems to me the majority of very hung guys are secure about their size while its the smaller men who are more egotistical and eager to prove something?

 

[madame_zora]

Spank, that was a wonderful post. I sure hope you didn't think I was saying big guys have big egos, I have sure found the opposite to be true in being here. In another thread I wrote about how anyone who is gifted in any way is taught by society not to talk about it at all. From knowing some members of this site I can assure you that many, especially amoung the younger ones, are very shy, some have low self-esteem, have mulitple "isms"- no being bigger does not mean an easier time in life at all. I do think that by the mid twenties or so, many who are bigger come to terms with it to some extent, so chin up!

I throw out all kinds of theories as to why people are how they are because these subjects are of great interest to me. I like the discussions that ensue, but I would be mortified if I thought anyone took me to be saying "this is a rule" rather than "this is a question". I was mostly speculating as to why so many women claim to have seen/had sex with a guy 10"+, when in all my travels I have not. I know men that size are out there, but unless they are very, very busy, very few women have actually seen them.

 

[soccerfanatic]

I know Zora, you're an intelligent woman and i know you wouldn't want to offend everyone with what you say, I was referring to other posts to be totally honest, I can't remember who by though.

Being big has its drawbacks and most hung guys know this, and tend not to be fixated with their size as they know its not everything its cracked up to be. Smaller guys tend to think anyone with a huge cock has a heavenly gift though, and they're more likely to make a fuss and boast about being big even if they're not. Not in al cases, but the majority of men I've known who claim to be huge are infact, not. Which is kinda amusing in its own little way lol

 

[madame_zora]

What's weird to me is that I've known several very hung guys in the 7 to 9" range who actually have low self esteem issues because they're not 10 to 12"!! It seems odd to me, knowing many if not most women would not be able to handle something in the huge range. I have been constantly surprised on here in finding out that nomatter what we have, there are adjustment issues in learning to deal with it.

 

[soccerfanatic]

That's precisely what I was getting at. There was this couple who started talking to me in a chatroom, and were after a man to join them for a one-off sex session. Now I'm not like that so i declined, but we talked anyway and I swapped pics of myself, including the lil fellah, with her and she said straight away that even if I'd have wanted to meet for sex with them she'd have turned it down as I was far too big for her to take.

However, her husband admitted to me that he'd love to be as big as I am even though his wife had just stated, right in front of him, that she'd reuse to have sex with a guy that big. The husband was 8 inch himself, so he was far from small, but he was still upset that he wasnt even bigger.

I ever admitted to him that being this size has lots of disadvantages, most of which have been discussed numerous times on here, but he still said how he'd like to be that size anyway.

It seems the media and general pubic have such a fixation with huge cocks that its been glorified into being some kind of amazing blessing to be hung like that, despite the obvious drawbacks. and people tend to wish they were that big as its been made to seem great when its not.

 

[13788]

LeahCat: Zora, once again I agree with you. It seems that no-matter how many times some guys are told they're bigger than average or how many times they've heard a girl say 'wow' or 'ouch' they still feel the need to compete.

I know a few times I've been listening to some well-hung guys chat and been surprised at the way they pretty much dismissed as pure fantasy the idea that there could be men out there bigger than them. Now those were guys in the 8.5-9 range who should have been able to say, 'there might be bigger, but for the average woman Im still huge'. Just couldn't help from competing though.

As Spank pointed out, what are they competing for, the right to be too big for most girls? What's the point in wanting to be so large there is only a tiny percentage of women who can comfortably take you?

 

[13788]

NelsonMuntz84: I'm what people would class as very big, especially in girth, and I've been very lucky that my experances with women have in the main all been good, some reactions have been funny, but none negative.

Now, even with that, like the last 3 posters above me, I cannot understand the idea of wanting to even bigger when you already have a very big penis, and must have at some point, been with a woman or man you needed to be very very careful with, and even thought at the time ' thank god I'm not any bigger'

All I can think of is, that in men in general terms, there is a mental immaturity towards sex that never does go away, and with no way to really discuss it in an adult fashion, is transfered onto size, in a sort off, 'I'm bigger than you, so better in bed' sort of way.

 

[Pecker]

Olive Oyl sang homage to her lover Bluto's "size" in the movie Popeye:

He's Large

He's tall
Good lookin'
And he's large
He's large
Large
Tall
Large
So large
And he's mine

He's not a mandolin
Oh no
He's an accordian
I'll have to squeeze him each night to keep him warm
Warm
Oh...

He's virile
And he's strong
Strong
He's strong
Strong
And he's large
Large
Large
Large

Doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo dah dah dah
Dah dah dah
Dah dah dah

He's got money and respect
That's true
He's better than the rest
That's true
He may not be the best
But he's large
And he's mine
Large
Large
Large
Large
Mine
Mine
Mine
Mine

Doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo dah
Dah dah dah
Dah dah dah

It may seem funny but it's not
Oh no
I'm thankful for what I've got
Me too
It may not be a lot
But he's large
And he's mine

 

[blar]

Originally posted by LeahCat@Jan 3 2005, 02:12 AM
As Spank pointed out, what are they competing for, the right to be too big for most girls? What's the point in wanting to be so large there is only a tiny percentage of women who can comfortably take you?

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well the point in my opinion (this is going by the a lot of the guys I know and see) is that some truly believe is that every women wants a huge penis so they want to be known as the biggest because they think bigger = better thus they would be the best the women ever had....don't ask me why but i tend to ignore foolish things like that whenever i see this type of convo

it just proves that whatever size a guy is there is always some type of insecurity

 

[13788]

LisaZon: i may be a bit biased but i think that anything over 8 is big and over 10 is huge.

i havent been around that much but i have been with a man who was 10 inches and i still had plenty of room. so i dont think of the 10+ range as ouch, infact i would welcome it.


ps hi im new!

 

[13788]

surf221: way to write an essay...jesus...i have to say a girl with a "cavernous" vag is pretty much a turn off...it takes the challenge away...and the whole penis insecuirty thing? naaaa i'm 8x5 and i'm perfectly comfortable

 

[Lordpendragon]

"and the whole penis insecuirty thing? naaaa i'm 8x5 and i'm perfectly comfortable"

You never know, it may get to a decent girth when you've grown up.

 

[jonb]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Jan 2 2005, 04:41 PM
What's weird to me is that I've known several very hung guys in the 7 to 9" range who actually have low self esteem issues because they're not 10 to 12"!! It seems odd to me, knowing many if not most women would not be able to handle something in the huge range. I have been constantly surprised on here in finding out that nomatter what we have, there are adjustment issues in learning to deal with it.

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Well, if guys in the 7 to 9 range are disappointed that they're not 10 to 12, that blows a hole in your "cock size and intelligence" theory.

 

[madame_zora]

Originally posted by jonb+Jan 4 2005, 01:34 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(jonb &#064; Jan 4 2005, 01:34 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-madame_zora@Jan 2 2005, 04:41 PM
What&#39;s weird to me is that I&#39;ve known several very hung guys in the 7 to 9" range who actually have low self esteem issues because they&#39;re not 10 to 12"&#33;&#33; It seems odd to me, knowing many if not most women would not be able to handle something in the huge range. I have been constantly surprised on here in finding out that nomatter what we have, there are adjustment issues in learning to deal with it.

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Well, if guys in the 7 to 9 range are disappointed that they&#39;re not 10 to 12, that blows a hole in your "cock size and intelligence" theory.

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tisk tisk, jonb. You know intelligence is not related to common sense or ego&#33; I agree with Blar that this is mostly due to an inaccurate belief that all women are size queens, which is hilarious at best. Also, the male competitive ego has a lot to do with it, IMHO.

LisaZon, I welcome you to the group&#33; Since you have just gotten here, I might suggest that the methods you employed to measure your b/f might not have been the generally accepted ones we use here. Penises are measured from the top at the abdomen to the tip of the penis. There are EXTREMELY few men with 10" dicks in the world, if one of your first few was that size, that would be incredible. If your vagina "still had plenty of room" after having a true 10" dick in it, you would probably be the only woman on earth who could say that, and it wouldn&#39;t be a blessing, it would be a horrible curse. I hope this is truly not the case, and that you were just taking your b/f&#39;s word for it about his size. Many, many women think they&#39;ve had a 10" dick, only to find it&#39;s more like 7 or 8 when measured correctly, I would have to guess this happened to you as well. The next time a guy brags about his size, I&#39;d pull out the tape and see if he&#39;s right&#33;

 

[faceking]

>> &#39;there might be bigger, but for the average woman Im still huge&#39;. Just couldn&#39;t help from competing though.

There will always be someone bigger, better, faster, stronger, sweeter, smarter, more content, or happier than you. But nobody is as funny as me, take that as gospel. :excl:

 

[alysen6]

I consider anything over 9 as pretty dang big. Currently looking for guys in the double digits. A lot of it depends on what you&#39;ve had in the past, so it&#39;s all relative.

~Aly

 

[13788]

Winger:

Originally posted by madame_zora@Jan 3 2005, 12:41 AM
What&#39;s weird to me is that I&#39;ve known several very hung guys in the 7 to 9" range who actually have low self esteem issues because they&#39;re not 10 to 12"&#33;&#33; It seems odd to me, knowing many if not most women would not be able to handle something in the huge range. I have been constantly surprised on here in finding out that nomatter what we have, there are adjustment issues in learning to deal with it.

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Wow Madame Zora you kind of summed me up there&#33; I didn&#39;t lose my virginity till I was 22 and although I knew with a 7.5 x 5.25 inch erection my penis was bigger than average I never had confidence in it and wished it was like 9 inches.

It wasn&#39;t till I was with my current g/f (second girl I&#39;ve been with) who has been with a dozen other guys that I felt more confident about my size. I remember her just saying quite plainly after we had sex for the first time and I commented about taking "this ridiculous thing" (condom) off my cock she said "It&#39;s a big cock and all". She&#39;s been with smaller guys (her b/f before me was about 4 inches) and knows how sensitive men are about it and told me it would make no difference if I was small, she simply wouldn&#39;t mention it, she only said it because it was big. Also when we&#39;ve discussed it she classes it as big, not huge or monstrous. I think when a guy is 7 or 8 inches and a girl describes it in those terms she&#39;s probably doing a bit of ego boosting. I would say that size is big and when you get clear of that to the 9+ size then you can say its huge or a monster etc.

I&#39;m 200% more confident about my penis now. I&#39;m not delusional, I know that there are guys bigger than me and that for some women I wouldn&#39;t be big enough but I&#39;m with someone who finds my penis "amazing" "beautiful" "perfect" and many other things.

Just my two cents worth but I think if you have a 7 incher it&#39;s big but it isn&#39;t until someone reinforces it that you really feel confident. If I had 8 inches or more I would never have had any doubts about it....rambling again...sorry

Cheers
W

 

[madame_zora]

Winger, thanks for that open response. I am only this year coming to realise exactly how deep a man&#39;s concern over this issue really is. The reality is that the average penis size is around 5.5", so at 7.5 you are a full 2" about what most girls have seen. Now, these are just facts, but reinforcement from your partners goes a long way to help make it clear. Most women really don&#39;t judge men on penis size, and there are very few who would find you "not big enough"&#33; The belief that all, most or even many women are size queens is just ludicrous, and completely induced by the porn industry. I think people who get their facts from the real world have a better chance of understanding who they are and where they fit in, so good for you&#33;