What Is My Sexuality

[hotdog7]

Hey there. I am 22 from Germany male. As this is my first post you can move it if I am wrong.

As the topic already says I am asking me this question long time: "What is my sexuality?"

The problem is that I cannot say that I am into girls or I into boys or that I am into both. On every gender there are some parts of the body what I like (in a sexual sense) and what I don't like.

Rank the sexual parts (in brackets my sexual attraction from 1 (least) to 10 (most so that you can get the difference between them):

1. Male Penis (10)
2. Female Ass (9)
3. Female breast (7)
4. Female vagina (5)
5. Male breast (4)
6. Male ass (3)

Normal parts:

1. Male stomach (8)
2. Female legs (7)
3. Male arms (7)
4. Female stomach (6)
5. Female arms (5)
6. Male legs (4)
7. Male feet (3)
8. Female feet (1)

So generally it's difficult. For example penis is the best thing for me. Oral sex would be perfect for me. But for some reason I cannot imagine anal sex with male, but with female. Cause of this I cannot imaginge to have a partner of one gender, because I won't like everything about him. (I am a highly demanding person in general).

I am wondering if I just have 50% sexuality for every gender so that I would need somebody with a mixture of each gender. What do you think?

 

[G.man]

First of all, I think you’re really normal, and there’s loads of people that feel the same way. They like both sexes for different things. For instance, I’d rather go down on a woman than have penetrative sex with her. Yet all go for men.
I also know plenty of gay guys who don’t do anal sex at all. So don’t worry about that too much.
Don’t be in a rush to give yourself a label. Sexuality and sexual attraction can be like a buffet: there’s no rules. If you want to have nothing but a margarita pizza, that’s your choice. If you want to start with the desserts then go back to cold meats and cheeses you can. If you want bolognese with rice, you can. If you want to put chicken tikka on a bowl of ice cream, you can. It’s not for everyone, but if that’s what you and your current partner/partners like, then why the hell not enjoy it all?
But if you are looking to identify with a group, I would assume that at this moment you’re Pansexual. But take time to experiment and figure out, or don’t figure it out and let it be fluid.

Enjoy the buffet.

 

[palakaorion]

Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard: ( paraphrase) when you label me, you begin to negate me.

Don't get hung up on labels. Love who you love and fuck who you desire.

 

[headbang8]

Rank the sexual parts (in brackets my sexual attraction from 1 (least) to 10 (most so that you can get the difference between them):

1. Male Penis (10)
2. Female Ass (9)
3. Female breast (7)
4. Female vagina (5)
5. Male breast (4)
6. Male ass (3)

Normal parts:

1. Male stomach (8)
2. Female legs (7)
3. Male arms (7)
4. Female stomach (6)
5. Female arms (5)
6. Male legs (4)
7. Male feet (3)
8. Female feet (1)

I am wondering if I just have 50% sexuality for every gender so that I would need somebody with a mixture of each gender. What do you think?

@hotdog7, this is the most beautifully, wonderfully German thing I’ve ever read. A nation of engineers, no? Servus aus München.

 

[G.man]

Enjoy dating. And when you find the right partnership (in whatever form that comes in) it won’t feel like a prison.

 

[MickeyLee]

Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard: ( paraphrase) when you label me, you begin to negate me.

Don't get hung up on labels. Love who you love and fuck who you desire.

Wayne's World

 

[hotdog7]

First of all, I think you’re really normal, and there’s loads of people that feel the same way. They like both sexes for different things. For instance, I’d rather go down on a woman than have penetrative sex with her. Yet all go for men.
I also know plenty of gay guys who don’t do anal sex at all. So don’t worry about that too much.
Don’t be in a rush to give yourself a label. Sexuality and sexual attraction can be like a buffet: there’s no rules. If you want to have nothing but a margarita pizza, that’s your choice. If you want to start with the desserts then go back to cold meats and cheeses you can. If you want bolognese with rice, you can. If you want to put chicken tikka on a bowl of ice cream, you can. It’s not for everyone, but if that’s what you and your current partner/partners like, then why the hell not enjoy it all?
But if you are looking to identify with a group, I would assume that at this moment you’re Pansexual. But take time to experiment and figure out, or don’t figure it out and let it be fluid.

Enjoy the buffet.

Thanks for you kind words. I guess you are right. I remember that I like porn man+woman but don't like man+man or woman+woman, only a little bit.
Sexuality also is influenced by my personal attitude. Generally I am a very open minded person. Also I never had a real partnership since I was 14 or so but that comes that I don't want to be in relationship as it's like a prison and I want to be in freedom.

 

[XAE14G]

I have been in relationships with both, male and female. I can say that I have enjoyed them both equally, in the affection part as well as in the intimate part. At least in my case, my boyfriend was not very dramatic about relationship issues as my girlfriend was, I guess that's how it is. Just give yourself sometime to discover your inner feelings. I took mine and discovered that it was about the person and the feelings and not about the labels attached. Last word of advice: enjoy your current partner, be a man or a woman. Whatever happens between you and that other person is private.

 

[cofrader]

Hey there. I am 22 from Germany male. As this is my first post you can move it if I am wrong.

As the topic already says I am asking me this question long time: "What is my sexuality?"

The problem is that I cannot say that I am into girls or I into boys or that I am into both. On every gender there are some parts of the body what I like (in a sexual sense) and what I don't like.

Rank the sexual parts (in brackets my sexual attraction from 1 (least) to 10 (most so that you can get the difference between them):

1. Male Penis (10)
2. Female Ass (9)
3. Female breast (7)
4. Female vagina (5)
5. Male breast (4)
6. Male ass (3)

Normal parts:

1. Male stomach (8)
2. Female legs (7)
3. Male arms (7)
4. Female stomach (6)
5. Female arms (5)
6. Male legs (4)
7. Male feet (3)
8. Female feet (1)

So generally it's difficult. For example penis is the best thing for me. Oral sex would be perfect for me. But for some reason I cannot imagine anal sex with male, but with female. Cause of this I cannot imaginge to have a partner of one gender, because I won't like everything about him. (I am a highly demanding person in general).

I am wondering if I just have 50% sexuality for every gender so that I would need somebody with a mixture of each gender. What do you think?

That’s a question for yourself, know yourself, I won’t answer the pool.
What was your real experience discovering yourself if is just porn you haven’t even started.
You could chop the parts you like and dismiss the ones you don’t nip them together and apply electricity. This is not a menu you are picking a human that will be more that his body parts.
Really, you need to find out what want in life, what do you imagine yourself on 10 years?
Your description could be placed on every gender especially when you say would, “I think I would like bungee jumping but when I climb up the bridge I couldn’t do it”
To find another person I think you need bear yourself first and accept yourself then see who would like to share your journey.

 

[MickeyLee]

Umm, something else = undecided?

Fluidity, baby. Ya might be one of the people who embrace it.

Do ya mind a question? Asked in a not perving on you looking for more information way.

Do you have a sexual history with men and women? More one than the other?

If you're trying to gauge sexuality from the porn you enjoy there is gonna be some clouding of waters. Like, looking at the menu vs trying the dish. Ya don't know until it's in your mouth. That statement totally applies to sex as well.

On what parts or acts turn you on/interests you more. Sex acts don't define, and are not required for any sexuality. Gay doesn't mean WooHoo Buttsex!! Straight doesn't mean Pussy Murauder!!

There are heaps of variation to be explored.

 

[SoaringSpirit]

Enjoy dating. And when you find the right partnership (in whatever form that comes in) it won’t feel like a prison.

Should be posted everywhere !

 

[billybones]

I’m unclear on how we’re supposed to define your sexuality for you. Actually, turning to outside entities to define something so personal is problematic. It’s up to you.

 

[Beanie]

Forget labels and just do you! Honestly just forget it and enjoy your life!

 

[fuckyeah]

The things you like to do sexually is what determines your orientation.
Sound like a summing up, perfect.

If somebody asks you: Are you into men? Answer would be: I have never had sex with a man, but I would try it out.
Would you say this is already gay orientation?

Same I am thinking when you ask me if I am into trans women.

Oh for fucks sake, will you stop? Why does it matter? Fuck who you want. Men, Women, Trans....who fucking cares what it means? It’s fucking!! Wild animal hungry fucking. Let yourself give in to whatever turns you on and satisfy that hunger. It’s good for you in so many ways. Just enjoy and quit trying to categorize it all. You can’t. Human sexuality cannot be compartmentalized. What catches your eye is what catches your eye. It’s the jungle. Let it be.

 

[Sagittarius84]

Short answer OP, you're bisexual(or pansexual as you hadnt expressed any opinion of non gender conforming or trans folk). Its not a label to fear(nor should any label incite such a fear), just a simple description of your sexual attraction.
Seems the bigger question for you would be less of with whom you would sex, and more would that one person be sufficient to provide you with your sexual needs...
And even before that which gender would you actually be interested in being in a relationship in, because you cant assume a sexual attraction to all is going to translate to romantic feelings for all as well.

 

[hotdog7]

Short answer OP, you're bisexual(or pansexual as you hadnt expressed any opinion of non gender conforming or trans folk). Its not a label to fear(nor should any label incite such a fear), just a simple description of your sexual attraction.
Seems the bigger question for you would be less of with whom you would sex, and more would that one person be sufficient to provide you with your sexual needs...
And even before that which gender would you actually be interested in being in a relationship in, because you cant assume a sexual attraction to all is going to translate to romantic feelings for all as well.

If I think about it I would say that I am open for everything. If I mix the best parts my perfect partner woud be like:

1. Male Penis (10)
2. Female Ass (9)
3. Male stomach (8)
   
4. Female legs (7)
   
5. Female breast (7)
6. Male arms (7)
7. Female vagina (5)
8. Male feet (3)

This really sounds near like transgender, but penis and vagina together would be hard to find.


Sometimes I do not feel like having so sex when I think about a partner, so could it be possible to be pansexual and asexual at the same time?

 

[malakos]

Sounds like what appeals to you is too compartmentalized for it to make sense to say that you are attracted to men or attracted to women. If you were one of these things, I think you'd be able to say in an overall sense "There are some men I'm attracted to." or "There are some women I'm attracted to." And if you were able to do that, it would become clear how, at least to some extent, you fit into one of the categories you named. But, given that your focus seems to be strictly on parts, whatever your sexuality is, it would seem to not neatly fit these categories.

 

[Infernal]

You like what you like. You don’t have to justify it to anyone. Consider yourself a sexual person and don’t worry about a definition.

 

[hypolimnas]

Hey there. I am 22 from Germany male. As this is my first post you can move it if I am wrong.

As the topic already says I am asking me this question long time: "What is my sexuality?"

The problem is that I cannot say that I am into girls or I into boys or that I am into both. On every gender there are some parts of the body what I like (in a sexual sense) and what I don't like.

Rank the sexual parts (in brackets my sexual attraction from 1 (least) to 10 (most so that you can get the difference between them):

1. Male Penis (10)
2. Female Ass (9)
3. Female breast (7)
4. Female vagina (5)
5. Male breast (4)
6. Male ass (3)

Normal parts:

1. Male stomach (8)
2. Female legs (7)
3. Male arms (7)
4. Female stomach (6)
5. Female arms (5)
6. Male legs (4)
7. Male feet (3)
8. Female feet (1)

So generally it's difficult. For example penis is the best thing for me. Oral sex would be perfect for me. But for some reason I cannot imagine anal sex with male, but with female. Cause of this I cannot imaginge to have a partner of one gender, because I won't like everything about him. (I am a highly demanding person in general).

I am wondering if I just have 50% sexuality for every gender so that I would need somebody with a mixture of each gender. What do you think?

Don't limit yourself to one person sexually, you don't ever have to in real life ... and maybe consider sex with couples from time to time. Also perhaps factor in to your future that you might fall in love with a person and find a whole lot of things attractive about them that are unrelated to physical appearance.

 

[ChanelleNo5]

Just picking bi cause I think most people are at least curious.