what is the best way

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  1. tarrat70

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    What is the best way to convince my girlfriend to let other men join us for a threesome. She has only had sex with one other man besides me and she says yes at first and then changes her mind saying she is not that kind of woman yet she admits thinking about it a lot.
     
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    If she's ready to do that, you won't need to convince her about it. If you have to persuade her, then she's not ready.

    Tell her that it's something you would enjoy, and to let you know when or if she wants to give it a try. Then don't mention it again. Pressuring her into it is simply setting your relationship up for a whole load of resentment.
     
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    if you talk her into something that she'd prefer to keep as just a fantasy then she'll hate you, dump you and feel like she's been used :smile:
     
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    Yeah, fantasy and reality are 2 different things. Fantasy is usually better because your mind creates it.
     
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    and lots of women have brief moments when living the fantasy seems a good idea.
    that doesn't mean they really want to do it.
     
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    If you're asking her if she fancies it when she's horny she will find it more appealing than in the cold light of day. For most people threesomes are better left as a fantasy, it alters the dynamics of a relationship so much it often spells the end of it.
     
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    LOT's of acohol and pills. But seriously... you could start by putting a toy in one hole and yourself in the other. She might just crave the real thing if she likes it. However, I wouldn't expect your relationship to last long afterwards.
     
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    Sorry OP, as a man, trying to realize any sort of sexual fantasy is bad. Only women are allowed to do that.
     
  9. dolfette

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    tut tut tut

    those fantasy/reality issues again!
     
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    You may never be able to convince her. When she is ready (if ever), she will let you know. You may be setting yourself up for an ended relationship if you keep pushing her.
     
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    Thanks I only ask her when shes horny and thats whenever I'm near her. If I touch or kiss her she orgasms instantly and I've never been with another woman like her I think she is turned on all the time because shes always wet except when shes not feeling well. She admits to looking at mens bulges always wondering what it looks like.
     
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    that doesn't mean that the experience of two men at once would be good for her.
     
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    When it comes to the crunch most women (and men) aren't that secure to allow a third person into their relationship. A sad truth you must live with I'm affraid
     
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