What is the longest you have maintained a good sex life with a partner?

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This is a bit of an offshoot from the two great threads, on loose pussy and why don't some women like sex. It is becoming apparent that maybe very few of us are able to maintain a good long term sex life with a partner.

So I was wondering, not only do you think whether it is possible to go through the itch period in a relationship but have you actually done it in your own life? And if so, for how long and please, what do you put it down to?


Honestly for me, never. I have never found a partner that can "do it for me in bed and have a long lasting relationship with except at a distance. Don't get me wrong the sex was amazing the few times we were together and we are still great friends to this day 11 years later. Believe me if I had another chance with this person, I would take it. Not on a sexual level. I refuse his requests because he has a gf of over two years. I get I can't get involved with someone knowing they are going home to someone else.....no matter how much I care for them or how great the sex was!
 

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My husband is 7 years older than me. Had travelled the world fucked his way through the 80's and found himself ready to settle down at 25. I was a young horny enthusiastic 17 year old who was ready to be loved. We just fit.

I like him, ya know, really like him...even if he wasn't my husband he'd be my friend. He loves me EXACTLY as I am - always has.

He is a gorgeous guy with no jealously issues and has been more than happy to be married to a wild thing. He has never tried to "tame" me or change me, nor me with him. I like him worts and all.

We came together as two fun happy people wanting some stabilty and love.
God only knows how we have made it this far, but I gotta tell you, mutual love for hot sex and brutal honest communication has got us far....also interestingly we are both from long time married parents and grandparents...each 40 + years married on both sides ....we dont give up easy ;-)
What a great post, Honey!

You know, I've always thought it was a bit strange... most physicians, psychologists/psychiatrists, and sociologists have claimed for years that women mature earlier than men, emotionally, and reach their sexual peak much much later than men... yet the societal "norm" has been for "older man, younger woman" pairings. I have always wondered, though, how two people could be happy together when statistically, he reaches his sexual peak 7 years before they marry, and she reaches hers 10 years after they marry. I'm glad yours works out!

You also make several great points. Marrying someone with whom you can be friends is essential. Marrying someone whom you think you "can change" to suit your needs is not a good plan. Working through the rough spots instead of just giving up at the first sign of conflict is not for the faint of heart (or the not-too-bright.)

Jealousy is something I break into two categories - twinge jealousy, and consuming jealousy. I think that the twinge jealousy is a good thing... just enough there to let you know you still care. Consuming jealousy is another animal entirely, and I consider it to be a mental illness.

Congratulations on your accomplishments in the relationship department!
 

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Drifter - Wanna know the secret to me being so fucking happily in love after 20 years?

Dumb luck, and I think getting married young helped.

My husband is 7 years older than me. Had travelled the world fucked his way through the 80's and found himself ready to settle down at 25. I was a young horny enthusiastic 17 year old who was ready to be loved. We just fit.

We have had some horrendous years together, really tough stuff to sort through, but we made it somehow. More through his maturity and persisitance I think than anything else.

I like him, ya know, really like him...even if he wasn't my husband he'd be my friend. He loves me EXACTLY as I am - always has.

He is a gorgeous guy with no jealously issues and has been more than happy to be married to a wild thing. He has never tried to "tame" me or change me, nor me with him. I like him worts and all.

We came together as two fun happy people wanting some stabilty and love.
God only knows how we have made it this far, but I gotta tell you, mutual love for hot sex and brutal honest communication has got us far....also interestingly we are both from long time married parents and grandparents...each 40 + years married on both sides ....we dont give up easy ;-)

I am a huge advocate for marriage , things just are not as much fun without him around.

xx
Honey

If i could find a man like that id marry him too, it seems youve both got the important stuff figured out i hope i,ll be able to find that with someone one day.

As for the original question 7 years which was my longest relationship is the longest time i had a good sex life, i find the only reason i stop having a good sex life when im with someone is when things are going wrong, when i lose respect for them i dont find them attractive anymore but i think its time to call it quits if things get that bad.
 

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I have always wondered, though, how two people could be happy together when statistically, he reaches his sexual peak 7 years before they marry, and she reaches hers 10 years after they marry.

I think it's misrepresentative to say that a man is at his peak at 17. We may be in terms of sperm production and the need to release it, but in terms of being a good sexual partner, I 'd rather have me now than twenty years ago.

Evolution wise it makes no sense for a woman to be at her sexual peak at 32. But we are not judging like for like. In the terms that a man is judged, a woman is at her sexual peak before her bones fully set (and so can give birth most safely) at age around 17 - remarkably the same age that the boys are bursting with sperm :biggrin1:
 

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I think it's misrepresentative to say that a man is at his peak at 17. We may be in terms of sperm production and the need to release it, but in terms of being a good sexual partner, I 'd rather have me now than twenty years ago.

Evolution wise it makes no sense for a woman to be at her sexual peak at 32. But we are not judging like for like. In the terms that a man is judged, a woman is at her sexual peak before her bones fully set (and so can give birth most safely) at age around 17 - remarkably the same age that the boys are bursting with sperm :biggrin1:
Don't get me wrong, it wasn't my personal opinion, just what "they" always said when I was growing up. And I think it mainly referred to desire and performance, not necessarily fertility. Personally, my sexual peak was throughout my 30s and early 40s.
 

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It was 10 years for me, and sex was outstanding, but then my ex turned into a wife beater.

Not sure why, but as he aged he felt he needed more control over everything.

When he could not have control, he turned it to physical pain.

Once that happened, the relationship in every aspect fell apart.
 

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Here is the absolute truth....nothing here for effect. My wife and I have been exclusive since we "took each other's virginity" in a field during college in April of '67. So we're at 40+ years of really enjoyable, passionate, fulfilling, hot (the adjectives can keep coming) sex. I know we may seem like freaks, but neither of us feels as though we've missed anything. We've certainly spiced things up...it's a necessity. But, truth be told, sex is still a mind-blowing experience every time. Perhaps this is one operational definition of true love between soul mates. It may sound naive, but it's all true!