My husband is 7 years older than me. Had travelled the world fucked his way through the 80's and found himself ready to settle down at 25. I was a young horny enthusiastic 17 year old who was ready to be loved. We just fit.
I like him, ya know, really like him...even if he wasn't my husband he'd be my friend. He loves me EXACTLY as I am - always has.
He is a gorgeous guy with no jealously issues and has been more than happy to be married to a wild thing. He has never tried to "tame" me or change me, nor me with him. I like him worts and all.
We came together as two fun happy people wanting some stabilty and love.
God only knows how we have made it this far, but I gotta tell you, mutual love for hot sex and brutal honest communication has got us far....also interestingly we are both from long time married parents and grandparents...each 40 + years married on both sides ....we dont give up easy ;-)
What a great post, Honey!
You know, I've always thought it was a bit strange... most physicians, psychologists/psychiatrists, and sociologists have claimed for years that women mature earlier than men, emotionally, and reach their sexual peak much much later than men... yet the societal "norm" has been for "older man, younger woman" pairings. I have always wondered, though, how two people could be happy together when statistically, he reaches his sexual peak 7 years before they marry, and she reaches hers 10 years after they marry. I'm glad yours works out!
You also make several great points. Marrying someone with whom you can be friends is essential. Marrying someone whom you think you "can change" to suit your needs is not a good plan. Working through the rough spots instead of just giving up at the first sign of conflict is not for the faint of heart (or the not-too-bright.)
Jealousy is something I break into two categories - twinge jealousy, and consuming jealousy. I think that the twinge jealousy is a good thing... just enough there to let you know you still care. Consuming jealousy is another animal entirely, and I consider it to be a mental illness.
Congratulations on your accomplishments in the relationship department!