Ever wonder where your insecurities come from? :frown1:
Trying to figure this one out for a long time.
Trying to figure this one out for a long time.
That cat on your nose probably doesn't help either. :smile:anxiety
fear
self-esteem
life situations
past relationships
religion
people
Most of the time when I feel insecure it's people related.
That cat on your nose probably doesn't help either. :smile:
I believed the lies others have told me about myself.
I believed the lies others have told me about myself.
I believe mine come from being physically bullied and beat up as a kid, feeling like an outsider and always feeling defeated and helpless - like there was no one but myself in the world. Geez that was painful to write...
I think is has a lot to do with my tendency to like being alone and my lack of faith in humanity as well, also feelings of being unlovable.
A number of years ago I remember running into one of the bullies we had at high school when I went to hire some scaffolding equipment. He was one of the biggest kids back then. One of his favourite things was to stand above stairs and drop the hugest gollies (spit) onto unsuspecting kids.
Anyway when I walked in it took a few moments to recognise him standing behind the desk white haired, meek, shy and rabbit eyed. No longer the big guy I recalled, just this what seemed like a shell of what I remembered. I introduced myself, he remembered and a look of pain and fear went through his eyes. After the transaction I said see ya Shane, I left with a smile on my face knowing that something had happened in his life for him to be the way he was now. ( terrible me)
I was never beaten up, I could hold my ground, but then, and since that time I have wondered what makes a bully a bully and others not, and others victims. I realised it has a lot to do with family and the things children are taught in them. Being alone has it's ups earl. It can make you a stronger person and more self aware, I think it shows by some of the questions you ask.
I believe mine come from being physically bullied and beat up as a kid, feeling like an outsider and always feeling defeated and helpless - like there was no one but myself in the world. Geez that was painful to write...
I think is has a lot to do with my tendency to like being alone and my lack of faith in humanity as well, also feelings of being unlovable.
Being alone has it's ups earl. It can make you a stronger person and more self aware, I think it shows by some of the questions you ask.
Hugs, E...
I've always viewed successfully dealing with the varying degrees of being alone to be a double edged sword. It makes life easier on one hand, but it also can lead to a self fulfilling prophecy on the other.