What is the Worst Dating Advice You have Ever Received?

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  1. Principessa

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    I was just reading an article on The Frisky about dating advice. Now, I have to say of all the real and online magazines aimed at women the Frisky is IMO one of the worst. The writing itself isn't bad, it's the content that consistently borders on the inane to just flat out wretched.

    Miracuously this time they got it right. Most dating advice is not only contradictory but flat out bad.


    So let's hear it, what is the worst or most contradictory dating advice you have ever heard from friends and family?




    I used to get a lot of:
    • "You have to learn to love yourself first."
    • "Be yourself"
    • "You're too nice, be a bitch. Men love bitches."
    • "Stop looking for The One, that's when you will find him." This always comes from somebody who has been blissfully married for 10, 20, 50 years. e.g. someone who has forgotten how to date. :tongue:
    • "You should get a weave."
    • "You should just cut your hair short and wear it natural in an afro."
    • "Wear big clunky earrings, men like shiny things"
    • "Just wear diamond studs, cause men like shiny things."
    • "Hang out at sporting events, cause men like sports and women who like sports."
    • "Only date professional men i.e. doctors, lawyers, dentists, chiropractors"
    • "Only date men who graduated from Big 10 or Ivy League schools"
    • "Only date men who are blue collar workers"
     
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    Well I have never listened to other peoples advice on this subject, but used my inner compass to navigate the terrain. But your bullet points , one, two and four are true I'm sorry to say!
     
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    That the ****? Being a Yankee and moving to the south a few years ago I have come across this type of crap that I never experienced before. I'm a teacher, middle class, dude. I have gone on many dates with lovely women. Then the dates stop. I find out through a friend that I "didnt make enough money".....yet these women made less money than ME!?! Then there have been some dates I've gone on and then find out I was "not rugged enough" meaning they thought I couldnt fix something or don't hunt etc. And these were college educated women.

    I haven't gone out on a date in a year. I gave up.
     
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    I still don't understand the concept of southern dating and I have been here two years now. The only thing worse than dating is moving to a new state or region where they do everything backasswards. :irked:
     
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    Worst advice: "You'll never find a lasting relationship with someone you met through the internet".
     
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    Worst advis: Ware a condom

    Just kidding lol
     
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    I'm with him! ^^

    I can't recall any bad dating advice... if I think if something, I'll post it.
     
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    The best (or worst, depending on one's POV):

    Stop looking, and the right guy will fall into your lap.

    Pure, sheer, utter bullshit.
     
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    and I'm STILL lonely going by this. lol
     
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    I've said this before in another thread but if you work on yourself to become the type of person you hope to attract the better your chances are of meeting them... Worked for me anyway!
     
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    Yep, makes no sense whatsoever. Passivity has brought me nothing, ever, not once, in any romantic endeavor.
     
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    One girl got on my nerves a few months ago. We were dating but then she told me she met someone else. I was fine with this, but wanting to learn more about myself and how she perceived me I asked her what changed her mind/pushed her away. It was also strange as she went very quickly from showing a lot of interest to hardly any at all. Her reply was that nothing had and that I should just continue to be myself. Of course, I would never let her see that bothered me but it was worthless advice as "myself" obviously wasn't enough. No one starts dating as "themselves".
     
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    Learn from your mistakes; they're personal. No one else will.
     
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    The worst dating advice I have ever received?

    Lower your standards, you expect too much.....
     
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    I've heard a lot of 1 and 4 as well. I still think that 2 is GOOD advice, something that often gets pushed away from dating "advice" books that steer people away from being themselves and encourage rigid gender stereotypes.

    The sports one is funny to me because I'm a woman who likes sports, and I also like computers, sciences, car shows, all kinds of traditionally male things, yet I have trouble finding dates! Granted, I'm also very shy which is a big drawback. But I like activities that make it easy to meet men if I go to groups for those activities... I had a running joke with one of my friends when I joined one computer group here and at the time the group consisted of 19 men... and me as the ONLY woman (since then there have been more women as well as men join the group, but I no longer go since it is outside of my realm of computer experience).

    The VERY WORST advice I've gotten is stuff that promotes gender stereotypes and saying I should be more traditional, let the man take charge and for me to not be so independent and stuff like that. Geez, do I really have to sell my soul to find someone?
     
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    Worst Advice ever: "Bring Condoms" haha everyone knows condoms suck. Just a joke of course.
     
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    the worst advice I've ever been given is any advice on "how to date." I'm a "this is me, take it or leave it" kind of guy and it's worked pretty well since. I will say that if friends (<-- as in more than 3) are telling you to dump it consistently you probably should. There's probably something you aren't seeing that they are. So for me:

    best advice: be yourself. worst advice: ...anything other than that
     
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